Married looking for the time

Posted by: @k5enjoying

Is there a better position to use this in to achieve more enjoyment?

First, I'd like to welcome you to the Aneros Forums. Have you read through the Introductory Message to New Members? If not, I highly recommend you do so and follow through on the many links included therein. Second, You didn't say what body position you were in, so, you may want to see what the Aneros WIKI has to say about Body Positions. Since every man is different the body position which works best for you most likely will not be the same as another man's. It is best for you to experiment to find what works best for you. Thirdly, I highly recommend you talk to your wife about your interest in pursuing prostate massage/orgasms. After that initial conversation have her take a look at the Aneros WIKI Women Too section and then check out the threads in the Couples Corner sub forum. You've begun a potentially life changing journey, it will be even more wonderful to have a loving wife share the adventure.

Good Vibes to You!

Welcome to the forum!!! 🙂

It’s only been two sessions,take your time. On back with knees bent and feet flat on the bed is probably the default position for most people. If you’ve been making some progress in whatever position you were in,then stick with it for a while and see what else transpires.

The right time to talk to the wife was when you decided you wanted to explore prostate orgasms. If you have a decent relationship and have or at least had a normal sex life,you want to be talking to her asap. She has many tools in her arousal box to help you progress faster and higher and much fun can be had as a couple when you explore together. Just have a conversation with the woman. Getting caught having fun without her or behind her back can cause hassle that you don’t need. Unless there’s an issue,why wouldn’t she want you to have multiple o’s and super o’s?

I would inform your wife (as I did mine) that in the interest of your prostate health ongoing, as well as the functioning of your entire sexual system that this is an adjunct with potential to increase her pleasure as well. Once you have become "rewired" (that is, learned to separate and enjoy orgasms apart from ejaculation), you will learn how to "pull" the pleasure from your penis while making love to your prostate and have multiple orgasms before ejaculating. When you can do so, it will extend the time you can be hard, thus active time with the wife. This largely "evens the playing field" - allowing you multiple orgasms, as well as allowing her the stimulation time - unhurried - that she needs to get the pleasure she deserves.

The Aneros is not particularly intrusive while making love, even if you're lying on your back and she's in cowgirl position (easier for her to have orgasms this way), although for myself, I rarely include Aneros because it pushes me into ejaculation a little too soon for my liking. That said, prostate orgasms without the Aneros actually inserted (referred to as "aless" in this forum) become very easy.

As many will advise you, one does not "chase" a prostate orgasm for the most part - one tries to focus on sensations and subtle movements and the orgasms tend to find you. 

Just a word of advice: the extent of Aneros pleasure can be enough to question your sanity. Though it's every man's personal choice how far to go with that, I would suggest you use it as a tool to ramp up your sexual edge and invest that edge in your sexual relations with your wife. In doing so, you will have returns with real interest!

All the best! I'm 59, and I am hopeful to avoid the prostate cancer that took my father's life. It has been helpful in the journey back from erectile dysfunction for me as well (doubtless incurred in part by a decade long battle with narcotic addiction that, thank GOD!  - I have been free of since 2017.).