Recently I've been using and subsequently obtaining new developments using a eupho trident on a "regiment" of retention and spacing my initial session out more. An example is if my retention is broken, I wait a week or two before I start having sessions again as this works well for me. Spacing out the sessions by generally 2-4 days until I reset it again.
The original eupho I had was the syn model, never really worked for me until I jumped into the trident model which moves pretty significantly and no other model has done that with me. I've been doing this for quite a substantially long time now (7+ years off the top of my head) and that movement for me seems to be giving me explosive progress forward like I've never really had. Most of all of my sessions under my regiment are never really duds anymore either.
Because of this "inward awareness" I have noticed that something I'm doing still doesn't feel correct. I use the do nothing method and relax straight into any feelings, but there always seems to be this muscular tension I can't really control.
It will very briefly relax and I get the "drawn in" phase and deep movement, this builds up but the tension has cut me off quite a few times now. It sorta feels like a gate closing. It also doesn't always relax, even if I'm at the point of relaxed so much I'm falling straight asleep. It feels like my PC muscles but on only the very top section of them, position experimenting hasn't really changed this happening.
It did make me think, given I have a spinal curve towards around my lumbar area, if this could be creating a tension effect out of my control.
No method I really apply seems to create that "opening" effect, mind of its own sorta deal. Not paying attention to it, relaxing my entire body, focusing on deep breathing, waiting extra days between sessions, hot baths, are all things I've tried. I've thought about shifting my body at an angle, so I work against my spinal curvature; but I use an upright reclined position (donut cushion) so shifting around seems a bit hard to keep maintained.
I've also considered my back completely unrelated. I've just had issues with tension or pain from it almost my entire life.
I am rather happy about getting fresh progress into some milestones I've never personally had after all this time, but it is making me pay more attention to progress barriers. I'm not frustrated or fixated on thinking I'm doing anything wrong, but it doesn't really feel natural to the flow some sessions have gone.
I've also thought this could be my body readjusting given how new they are (1-2 months).
Any sort of insight is appreciated.
Interesting point, and it makes me wonder. I don't have an answer for you, just to tell you that I also have issues which might be the same thing. I would describe it as issues with clenching, especially when something foreign is moving in my ass. And then there does feel like after a while if the involuntaries start working well, something further up my rectum is clenching, and if I have control over that I sure don't know how to exert it! All I can say is that I've had certain sessions where this is not a problem and the Aneros has moved freely, and sessions that have stalled out or for whatever reason.
As for a spinal curvature, I don't know if you are talking about scoliosis or something else. I do tend to hunch myself a bit; in fact I'm not sure I really can keep my back completely straight anymore. So if I have a "curvature," it would be somewhere about my shoulder blades. I'm a musician and my university had a demonstration for Alexander Technique once, and that definitely helped, though I need to do the full program at some point. It's supposed to help dancers/musicians/etc be more aware of their bodies, keeping them from doing repetitive movements that could be damaging over time. It sounds like something that might be able to help Aneros users too, so I should probably get around to signing up for lessons! Whether Alexander Technique would work for your lower back or not, I don't know.
@Faith-Fortis
alexander technique helped me because it allowed me to become aware of microscopic movements of my body. It also tought me how to fully relax, and thus control which muscles I clench (so maybe it could be interesting for the original poster of this thread??). In general AT teaches a hyper awareness of one’s body that can only be beneficial for those exploring delicate world of prostate orgasms... I think it is worth reading books on the subject and learning the basic excerises, which are actually non-excercises because they involve relaxing while lying down.
@Faith-Fortis
Yea, I did mean scoliosis. I tend to use "curvature" as I get more general replies of people not knowing what scoliosis is when it comes up anywhere.
We do sound similar in the clench regard however. I'm not entirely sure if mine feels like a muscle clenching, hard to describe the feeling but I'd place it at feeling like tension on a piece of rubber. So the more both sides of "rubber" are pulled, the less the surface area becomes but the tighter it becomes. Yet I can't seem to place what causes it or how to subsequently relax it again.
But it could very well be the same thing as the areas aren't too different. I also do get the random sessions where nothing is tense yet I can't pinpoint any reason why, no differences really come to mind. I mostly thought of my back as a potential nerve conflict; so sending the wrong signals because of a foreign body.
I haven't heard of the Alexander Technique however and I might try employing that in some method, regardless of if it works or not. Any suggestions are helpful suggestions to me.
Your mention of a do nut cushion piqued my interest @Vermith . I would like to start doing my sessions in more of a seated position. Could you give me more information about the cushion and if you don't mind saying how you employ it during your sessions.Where do you do your sessions bedroom. living room ?
@JohnHope
Sure. "Donut" cushions are just generic names for tailbone/seat/coccyx cushions. https://www.amazon.com/Dr-Fredericks-Original-Donut-Cushion/dp/B00T3TUXTW/ is an example. You just have to make sure the tabs of whatever model you use have enough room to not hit any part of center hole. Two smaller, vertical pillows with enough width to pad your legs whilst seated could also probably work. I keep a towel underneath the cushion being mines washable.
I sit on a small recliner with my legs and feet either relaxed on the footrest, or bent and with my feet flat on the rest.
I don't do anything specific outside sitting on it in a position that doesn't impede anything externally or internally. So making sure no Aneros movement externally will hit the cushion, and internally not compacting my body by sitting with my legs so close I restrict internal movement.
Laying down relaxes me too much in general but it depends on the model. Smaller models (eupho/helix trident syn) are what I use sitting up, larger models get too much contact for my liking.
Always do my sessions in my bedroom. Hope that helps.
Thank you, the information is most useful. I'll get one of those cushions ordered as I think it will help greatly.
@divine_oblivion I actually have a book on Alexander Technique, found it at Goodwill for $1.50! Haven't read it yet, though. @Vermith I don't know enough about Alexander Technique to know if it would help with scoliosis or not, that's more a lateral curvature, isn't it?
Still that's one of the things that's been on my list to learn (there's a guy not too far from me that gives lessons). I'm definitely a believer though: in the demonstration that I attended, I merely laid on the ground for about 15 minutes and when I got up I could tell that I was standing straighter and walking taller than I have in years. It was such a foreign sensation and honestly I was afraid of getting comments about how much differently I was walking, that I regressed back into my usual stance almost immediately. Looking at some of the before and after pictures I've seen it felt exactly like that. There should probably be an entire thread on this, but not in yours.
Laying down relaxes me too much in general but it depends on the model. Smaller models (eupho/helix trident syn) are what I use sitting up, larger models get too much contact for my liking.
If you're like me then I suppose that if you lay down then you fall asleep! That may be a symptom that I'm not getting enough sleep in general though; I had a session last night/this morning that has me thinking I'm not relaxed enough unless it's after I just woke up. I do like the idea of a doughnut cushion though; also the idea of a doughnut. 😉