Lack of involuntaries

You didn't say which model of Aneros you are using. I have three: helix, eupho and progasm jr. Each one is different in "feel" and response. Also, don't get so hung up on timing. If you feel something building up at the 3 hour mark, keep at it if you can. Usually your body tells you when you've had enough. Good luck!

Oh, I have pretty much all models. Recently I've been using more helix syn as it kinda is the "beginners" model, so I have more hope on it working something.

Hey @RSilva,

I wouldn't bother so much about involuntaries or auto-fucks. They can be indicators that something is happening, but their absence doesn't tell you anything. A motion climax is not the goal, although it sometimes happens this way. A climax of nerval excitation is the goal.

From what you told, it seems that you still struggle to rewire your hotspots. The generating of sensations is not the problem here, the brains ability to recognize the stimulation as something arousing is. So, what you need is to get in touch with your nervous system. What helped me most was a consequent kegel workout over the course of 2-3 months. The purpose is not to tone your muscles, but to gain precise control over them. Controling muscles is one of the nervous systems duties. By learning new muscle movements, your pelvic nervous cluster gets stimulated and literally wakes up. Plus, your muscles are innerverated by sensory nerves too, which wake up as well. So you will be able to feel more.

You wrote, that you never experienced pleasure waves or are at least not sure about this. For getting in touch with these, the fastest and best way is (imho) KSMO. If you haven't tried it so far, consider to give it a shot. Compared to anerosing, it's pretty foolproof. There is still a learning curve of course, but you'll get your first reassuring results pretty early (at least I did). It really helped me to understand how pleasure waves feel and thus what they are and how to induce them.

Last but not least: mind games. Your brain is your biggest sexual organ, don't underestimate the power of sexy thoughts. The kinkier, the better (as long as it turns you on ofc). Also a valid option: good porn. Many users stated that they get distracted by that but others find it very helpful (including me). I would recommend though, that it's some kind of porn that you can immerse into. So for me it's mostly amateur anal porn, because it helps me to link what I see with what I feel. In other words, I immerse myself into the receiving part.

3 years is a long time and I understand that you are frustrated by now. Maybe it helps you to know that my breakthrough came after 5 (long) years. Today, I am very happy that I never gave up and you will feel the same way too. If you like, give me a short feedback, what you think of my suggestions or if you already tried some these.

Cheers, Unfug

I'm curious about KSMO since I read about it, and I'll try it when I have money, so in some months I should get it. I really don't know how it will work out since right now I don't fully understand what it is about.
A problem is that I'm very rational and people have tried to teach me about the energies and stuff but I really don't know where to start since I don't feel anything and I am not very much into that "alternative" way of thinking.