KSMO How to dissipate sexual tension

@helgasm
All I know is that I want to have an orgasm of some kind more frequent than beneficial in KSMO. Or aneros.

@Orgasmic19

I am not sure what your question is but I would learn the inner orgasm. I would recommend not using pornographic during any sexual activity.

Here is a link to raw Tantra yoga: http://www.rawtantra.com/

I suggest start the sexual mastery series.

How do I deal with this? I know what lies beyond a traditional orgasm but it's so hard to control myself. It's so easy to just jerk off.

I recommend you investigate prostate 'milking' as a possible intermediate action. This practice can significantly decrease the immediate urge to ejaculate and do so without incurring a refractory period. Please read my posts in the thread Prostate Milking for a little more information and additional info links.
Good Vibes to You !

Thanks guys!

And Rumel, thanks especially for the links.

I've actually used the aneros before and at a time I was quite far in my journey. But what I found odd is that the device only "milked" me the first couple times I used it. Ever since then I haven't been able to milk. That is an odd sentence to type out, wow.

But what do you think that is all about?

Well I haven't had much success yet with dry orgasms, but I am getting decent at "re-directing" arousal from the penis to the rest of the body. Every time my penis gets too "excited", it starts to involuntarily spasm (I guess PC muscles start contracting?) and I also get a strong urge to masturbate traditionally. When this happens I try to calm it down by relaxing as much as possible and visualizing my arousal moving away from my penis into the rest of the body. I also find doing a light reverse kegel (I think) helps here to prevent the spasms. I am usually able to calm it down quickly and greatly reduce the urge to masturbate, without losing much arousal.

Though I haven't made this work very well during actual masturbation, the stimulation just gets to intense but I imagine with enough practice this could be useful during sex for example.

Edit: Earlier today I had nothing else to do so I watched some porn for about 30-45 minutes. I did my best to get as aroused as I could, but I felt no urge to masturbate normally. At the end of the session I just felt satisfied despite not having anything near an orgasm. I am guessing most people doing this would end up with an overwhelming urge to ejaculate, yet I do not. I think that if you don't build any arousal in the penis, then you don't build any urge to ejaculate, and thus you can get sexual satisfaction without orgasm. I trust that many women are telling the truth when they say that orgasm doesn't matter to them, I think they can't build enough arousal in the clitoris (female version of the penis) and thus don't get an orgasm but don't feel the urge to either.

@helgasm Have you ever considered male chastity? It is a way to "defuse" your extreme urge to masturbate. I use several techniques to achieve it. In time, you will be practicing "semen retention" including prostate "milking". The chastity is a physical barrier to prevent you from masturbation. I practice it alone but if you have a willing partner, s/he can participate. Of course, you need to build-up to it so I would suggest the "21-Day No Ejaculation Challenge" (search for the thread). Good luck!