Just bought my first aneros, but need help.

Hi Solarus,

Welcome, as I'm sure many more experienced guys will advise, the Aneros experience is a journey of self discovery. I initially spent many hours (and will spend many more) reading through the wealth of information that is available here before deciding to head down this path. But with time and patience you will discover feelings in your body that you never would believe could exist - note I am not talking about a mind blowing experience straight away.

Personally I've been trying sessions relaxing and using meditation techniques and consider myself making reasonable progress - but I find you first need to cede control which can be hard after a lifetime of near instant gratification using a penis. After recalling my most recent session last night it made me remember back when I had my first ejaculation - I had been reading an erotic novel I borrowed from the library and the sensual signals I felt being generated were quite startling at the time as well as intensely enjoyable.

My best advice is to read some of the threads, relax and understand it will take patience and time but the rewards will be waiting for you. Good luck on your journey.

So it's not that I chose the wrong aneros, right?

Correct, you need to train your body and mind to recognise the signals it is receiving from the Aneros as pleasurable. I am finding these signals to be very subtle and any attempt to influence them like you might trying to say resist the urge to ejaculate only ends in failure.

In my case after two weeks of taking my time and only feeling subtle feelings, I had the house to myself and spent a few hours mentally preparing myself. Had a few beers and some weed and put on some sensual lesbian action and lied back, relaxed and tried to absorb the sensual energy I could hear - every moan and groan coupled with deep breathing into my diaphragm elicited some great feelings. But I noticed the best sensations came from letting the feelings wash over me and not try to control it. Think of like laying by the ocean edge as the waves roll in and envelop you, every time I tried to anticipate or force something to happen, the feeling went away.

So it's not that I chose the wrong aneros, right?

Worth pointing out is that many of the more experienced users here develop the ability to have prostate orgasms WITHOUT the Aneros (or anything else up their butt). This shows that while the Aneros is a great tool, it's not necessary.

Hmm, still can't seem to feel much. I tried relaxing. Should I not masterbate for a few days or something?

One of the first threads I read has some interesting insights

https://community.aneros.com/community/general-discussion/frustrated-and-not-sure-where-to-go-from-here

Not masturbating for a few days definitely helps. It increases arousal levels and therefore prostate sensitivity. Another word of advise: be patient.. it takes time !

It increases arousal levels and therefore prostate sensitivity. Another word of advise: be patient.. it takes time !

An old joke goes along the line "What is your most sensitive organ when having a wank", And the answer is "Your ears, because our waiting for someone to catch you"

I prefer an alternative premise that your brain is the most sensitive organ in your body, learn to harness that and you will experience pure bliss.

@Solarus You are getting a lot of good info. from @The Monk. Listen to him! Prostate massage and orgasm is not a race; you don't even need to get to the "finish line" (like a regular ejaculation). It is more about listening to your body and to the subtle yet distinctive sensations you will develop in your prostate and elsewhere as you continue and "mature" your Aneros sessions. Don't even set a time limit on when you may expect to achieve an orgasm (including a Super-O). They will come in time. If I may be blunt, don't treat the Aneros massager as just another "masturbator" or edging tool. It is much more than that! One other thing: when doing recent sessions, I find that if I invariably enter a "fantasy", the arousal and consequently the session becomes that much better! Best of luck to you and keep posting your progress!

@Solarus welcome to the Aneros Forums! The above posters have all given you some good advice. You have embarked on a potentially life changing journey, one with great pleasure and joy ahead if you are up for the adventure. If you do the reading I'm confident your path forward will be much easier.

So I just bought my first aneros product, the progasm black ice. The problem is though, I did t really feel anything. No mind blowing orgasm, not even real pressure on my p spot. Did I do something wrong?

NO, you didn't do anything wrong!

Did I buy the wrong aneros?

NO, you didn't buy the wrong Aneros, each Aneros model has its' own performance characteristics, some models just seem to work better for an individual than other models. It somewhat depends on your prior anal play experiences. As you progress you will probably buy other models to try and may find one more responsive to your desires but even this may change over time. You may find a model which proved ineffective early on may become your new favorite later.

Is there some secret technique I'm not doing.

NO, please see Super-O Myths & Illusions and @neros thread The Myth of Super Orgasm. This Forum is replete with numerous threads citing various successful regimes, your personal journey is unique and it is up to you to adventurously experiment with different techniques to unlock the mysterious combination to your own orgasmic vault.

Pretty much I just inserted it, cleanched my asshole muscle, and that as it. Please can someone help me?

Please take the time to read and follow through on the numerous thread linkages I posted in my introductory PM to you (Click on your 'Messages' button to retrieve it). Especially important is to read through the Getting Started section of the the Aneros WIKI.

I do t want to feel like I wasted money.

Nobody wants to feel like they have wasted their money and you haven't, however, you need to give yourself time to learn the techniques which will yield the pleasurable results, patience, Patience, PATIENCE. If you are like most Aneros owners, the results will prove the value of your investment many times over.

Should I not masterbate for a few days or something?

This is definitely an idea worth pursuing, see Aneros, Arousal & Abstinence and the related thread 21 day challenge post.
Good Vibes to You !

@rumel
I agree with your very helpful and informative post. (I'm constantly impressed with your ability to link to very useful threads from long ago 🙂 )

Regarding your penultimate paragraph, I sometimes feel there's more to it than simply technique and patience. Like some secret missing link, which is required. But that way of thinking could just be my impatience speaking 😮 😮

So I tried another session this morning, I still can't feel anything. I don't feel it pressing on my prostate or anything, I just feel like there's something in my ass. Is there something wrong with my prostate? Is the aneros just not hitting it? I'm a little confused. Also, my sex drive has been rock bottom the past week. How can I improve that? Like, it's hard for me to get hard.

Hi, I started two months ago and I made a lot of progress even though I steel don't have P-Waves nor orgasms. Here is what helped me so far.

You don't need to get hard anyway during anerosessions. Anyway you should not touch your penis during a session.

Regarding the sensations, it can take weeks, months or even years for some people to start feeling something but it is totally worth it !

You should start by doing nothing for a few minutes until you don't feel like "there's something in my ass". Once your body is used to the device, do contractions exercices in rythm with your breath, very slowly, like meditation.
Personnaly I listen to binaural beats, it helps a lot to relax and think about nothing.
Sessions should be at least 60 min long.
Listen to the sensations of your body.

The device is definetly hitting your prostate, it's designed for it and everyone has the same organ placement. You will start feeling it eventually (it took me several sessions too), also your penis might let out a bit of pre-seminal fluid during the session.

Concerning the sex drive, I was in the same case when I started two months ago, I was masturbating way too much, watching porn. I had the death-grip syndrom (maybe you have it too) : it's when you are used too squeeze so hard when you masturbate that you can't feel anything anymore. And my libido had been rock-bottom for so long that I thought I was almost asexual.
Aneosessions gave me a reason to stop that :
- Try to masturbate as little as possible (maybe once or twice a week TOP) and NOT after a during a anerosession because it cancel any progress you might have made.
- I recommend 2 or 3 anerosessions per week
- The prostate massage will probably boost your libido. At least it worked for me.

Keep us posted on your progress, It's nice to have someone else that is starting the journey !

It's hard to have Leung the sessions due to the fact I still love at home. Have to find days noones home.

Solarus....first off welcome to the forum and the world of aneros use.
After reading through the thread and getting a feel for how you're doing I have a tiny bit of advice. I mean this with all kinds of respect and affection but...dude relax!:)
You're starting out on a very rewarding but probably a very long journey. We're not talking about days or weeks here. We're talking months and years. This is likely not going to happen fast. The hardest part, but the part that will get you on your way the fastest, is to realize and accept that your body is in charge of the progress you make, not you. You have to learn how to separate 'you' from 'your body'. You're just along for the ride.
At first you will feel just what you're feeling, that there is just something in your bum. OK lay back and enjoy that! Enjoy the fullness and the various points of pressure you feel in there. If that's all you feel for the first month or two, so be it. Don't forget, your body has to learn how to interpret the feelings it's experiencing.
Eventually you will start to feel other little pleasures....a little tingle here, a little twitch there. Enjoy them as they happen and be grateful to your body for giving them to you. Remember, you're just along for the ride. Never try and make those sensations come or force it. The second you start doing that your body will say 'screw you' and that will be the end of that. Your body knows what its doing. It just takes time. Be patient.
There are things you can do during your sessions to help your body. Read the wiki and try some of the methods it suggests.....little contractions etc. However don't expect anything in the way of instant gratification here. You are not masturbating! You are helping your body learn and develop new skills.
My last thought is that in my opinion....and it is only my opinion.....the progasm may be a bit over aggressive for a first aneros. It doesn't move much and it really isn't very subtle in its approach in there. I started out with the helix syn and its still my go to model.I have other models, including the progasm, but the helix is still my best buddy.
I really hope this helps...good luck, have fun, be patient, and relax! Enjoy everything your body gives you and believe me the day will come when your world will be rocked!

Well, the main problem is the progasm is what I have right now. I do t have the spare cash to also buy a helix or something as well. So hopefully the progasm will eventually work out for me.

Maybe my prepping needs work. I never start the aneros when I'm aroused. Could that be why I'm having issues?

... I never start the aneros when I'm aroused. Could that be why I'm having issues?

Absolutely, a high arousal state is an essential component of the Super-O experience. Please see the Are you "aroused"? thread in addition to my previously suggested threads. Arousal, in our context, is not penile specific but is, as stated in the Aneros WIKI Glossary...

arousal An excited physical and mental state marked by physiological and emotional changes that normally occur in preparation for sexual activity. Physical changes may include: elevated heart rate and blood pressure, increase in respiration, trembling, hot flashes and erections. Mental changes may include: strong sexual desire, giddiness, the persistence of erotic fantasies, etc.

If you are not sufficiently aroused your Anerosession is likely to be a 'dud', remember your Aneros device acts more like an arousal amplifier than an arousal generator, it is your own mind/body dynamic which is the true arousal generator. A simple piece of plastic is not going to create that dynamic for you.
Good Vibes to You !

I see. So I just now need to find ways for arousal like that. Like I said, my sex drive has kinda flatlined.