So I've spent nearly 2 months doing this all wrong. I've been using the Aneros with this sort of lube from Durex called "Play". http://www.condom.com/durex-play-tingling.html
It's kind of weak, but it helps with insertion so I thought that was all that was needed. During Aneros sessions, the Aneros didn't move in and out of my anus, it basically felt like a plug, sitting in there and basically putting pressure against my prostate as I did Kegel exercises. This was kind of dissapointing, for although it felt good on a erotic level, there was no real pleasure on the prostate.
How freely does the Aneros have to move "freely"? Does it really have to "slide" gently in and out of the anus, providing movement, or simply the muscles themselves cause it to just squeeze against it? If it has to move, then I've been doing this ALL wrong.
I need a good lubricant. One that won't dry up. This Durex Play stuff dries up immediately, it's lame. I'm pretty close to switching to Vaseline. I want this to work, but I don't want to do it the wrong way.
Someone recommend me the best damn thing possible. I'll get KY if I have to, but I'm scared of water based lube thanks to this stuff.
Hello Inverse, 🙂
Lube preferences are different for everyone. I happen to like using 100% unrefined shea butter. I've been using the "Now Foods" brand. A number of users have said that they like the "AAA" brand shea butter.
I recommend you use the search function of the forum to find posts with terms lube, or lubrication. You'll find a lot of information that way.
Also there is some good information in the Aneros WIKI about it.
http://wiki.malegspot.com/index.php?title=Getting_Started#Types_of_Lubricants
Love_is
Am I on the money when it comes to function though? Is the lube supposed to only function to make it easier on insertion? Because any lube can do that. I need to know is there supposed to be quite a bit of motion on the part of the aneros and is lube a catalyst to that, or are all lubes going to end up doing the same thing? If I'm experiencing the right amount of motion (which is none, just upward "pressure" against the prostate with every manual contraction) then I'm at a wall with the Aneros. I'm hoping I'm doing this all wrong.
The Wiki advice is what you should be shooting for. The Aneros toy should "float" or be "suspended" in lube. Slippery is better !
Water based lube is going to be the easiest to use. I started with 8cc of pre-lube and tapered downward to about 5cc. Like many of the more "mature" gents here, I get some gastric distress from most water based lubes.
Right now I see Shea butter as having the most potential for me. I'm playing with means to simplify using it. You might look at the "Natural Jelly" formula in the Wiki. Somewhat complicated recipe but gud stuff !
Regardless of the lube you choose, start with a generous pre-lube and adopt a routine to move the lube around inside yourself before you start the serious part of a session.
This thread covers my 'lube distribution' routine and it's helped a lot:
< http://www.aneros.com/forum/progasm-problem-t4348.html >
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Inverse,
As 'Love_is' recommends, I too suggest you re-read the Lubrication section of the WIKI. The primary function of the lubrication is to assure a minimum of friction between your Aneros and you. Since the rectum produces very little in the way of natural lubrication, it is necessary to provide supplemental lubrication to assure a comfortable and irritation free buffer. Understand the amount of Aneros movement generated by your internal muscular contractions is actually very small, so in that sense it doesn't really slide much at all (except upon insertion and extraction). The concept of the Aneros moving “freely” is just to make sure there is no encumbrance to these small movements
Personally, I am concerned about the uptake of the various chemicals in these commercial 'personal lubricants'. The rectal wall is a highly permeable membrane, easily absorbing water and the chemicals therein. Since I've developed a sensitivity to the glycerin found in many of the commercial lubricants, I've switched to using the 'Natural Jelly' formulation (see the “Bestlube - Probe Thick & Rich Best price - Walgreens.com” thread) as my lube of choice.