I had an accident and now feel discouraged a little

MyTurn,

1.) The most obvious answer to your recent incident is to remove your Aneros before nodding off to sleep. Doing so will allow the natural sealing properties of your anal sphincter to function properly. With an object in place you are creating a much larger ring of exposure for the anus to try to seal off, thus increasing the odds of leakage.
2.) Try a different lubrication. Thin, watery, low viscosity lubes will more readily leak between the Aneros-anus interface than a thicker, more viscous lube. Additionally, a thicker lube will tend to migrate less even if it does leak.
3.) Perform some of your preparatory work prior to arriving home. Get a personal day pack with which you can carry the few simple items necessary for prep work (rectal syringe, lubricant applicator, lube of choice, sealable plastic baggies, paper towels, your Aneros of choice, disinfectant). Find a pack with a double zipper opening pouch (most do) that you can install with a small padlock so curious eyes are prohibited from seeing the contents. Go into an available toilet stall at work just before you leave for home, perform a rectal flush (not enema) if desired. Then lube the rectum there. You can clean, disinfect and prelube your Aneros there as well, put it in a sealable plastic bag and back in your pack. By the time you arrive home the lube should be well distributed, your Aneros is ready to insert and you won't need to try to rush the prep work to begin your session. This will increase your available Anerosession time measurably and minimize the chances of discovery by your mum.

Good advice from rumel as always.

Additionally, I would encourage you to try LESS lube than more. Try only 1 cc or so, maybe two, as an alternative.

I have found, for me, that about 1 cc of Astroglide "Natural" lubricant is more than sufficient for a long session, assuming you also lube your Aneros before insertion.

So, try less lube...it's easier to inject, and should work just fine.

Good Luck.

Cockadoodle

Rimel, that was some good advice. A few answers to your points:

1) I have gotten into the habit of falling asleep or even just going to sleep with it in. Once, I woke up in the middle of some nice contractions, but I suppose it is not worth it if there is a risk of mess.

2) I can't use any oilier lubes coz I am using a syringe to insert it in and the syringe will be impaired by the stickier, oilier substance.

3) I usually don't have a BM til an hour before a session once I'm at home. I never feel the urge to go toilet at work. I also feel more comfortable going toilet at home as the toilet stalls are like half a metre squared, just enough for the actual toilet and two feet to be placed either side of the toilet. Once you enter the toilet cubicle, you have to straddle the toilet in order to close the door behind you! That's how fucked up that place is. Plus, I don't get my bosses saying: "Oh, there you are! We thought you'd gone home hahah".

Haha indeed!! Mind your business! lol

I like using lots of lube as well, probably more than necessary, but only do so when the timing is right. If I don't have alot of time for a session, I will generally use good ol vasoline. you hardly have to use any... just a coating on the aneros and a quick wipe of the butt hole.
I wouldn't think that would be messy at all