I feel like I am almost there, but I always never manage to go a step further.

@Yesnomaybeso , this is aimed at everyone in your situation as I have been there myself. There are literally thousands of posts and blog entries in this Aneros site. In my time as a member of this community, I noticed how frequently newer members (and seasoned members) write about how close they feel they are to the ultimate goal of achieving the Super-O while in session.

They describe the great feelings they are experiencing while expressing their sentiments. Some do it in more colourful ways than others but undoubtedly, in a lot of cases, they feel frustration setting in as the ultimate ending continues to be illusive.

These members read every details of the lucky ones's successfully achieving the ultimate goal and in desperation, they try to mimick the process of the supposedly key to success hoping to unlock whatever is holding back the proverbial crossover into the world of pure bliss.

In my opinion, there are no 'for sure formula', everyone is different and brain function in relation to sexual engagement is as different as it is complex. The more we try someone else's process, the more frustrated we become. This generates reverse effects on the brain thus pushing favorable results further away.

Once this fact is realised and accepted, the process of enjoying the great feelings at hand while in a session will kick in as the brain is cleared of burdening stress and pressure. Then, one's own rewiring process can truly begin unhindered by other's success or failures.

The best way to move on is to forget about trying to reach for the ultimate goal and just enjoy the great sensations being experienced in the session. Think of it as a lottery; most don't expect to win even if tickets are bought. In the next session, consider your chances of reaching the ultimate goal as winning the lottery.

Sit back (lie down, whatever works for you) and enjoy your journey. Life is wonderful!
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but I always never manage to go a step further

The reason is, there is nothing to be "managed". The only task is to let it happen.
"I let it happen, my prostate is in command, I let it happen, my prostate is in command ..."
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probably most of us have been there at some point in their journey. I thought just like that for many years and after slow progress I can look back and think I guess I wasn't as close as I thought. Thinking there is some sort of end (like in a traditional orgasm) is likely not a good mindset. My orgasms sometime are mellow and sometimes hit me like a freight train. It's all good and it all good even without an orgasm. I look at a session as more of meditation and relaxation rather than chasing an orgasm. Enjoy what it gives you and don't keep looking for that golden ring

In my case a change in perspective improved the experience of pleasure. I started using Aneros with the goal of achieving orgasms as one would during masturbation. I tried to lead the experience toward that end. That never worked for me. When I changed my perspective to one of focused awareness on every sensation especially the slightest ones then with time and practice I followed those sensations of pleasure to experiences I’d never felt before. Interestingly, I now enjoy the tranquility of pleasure just prior to crossing a PONR. Change your perspective to focused awareness of pleasure and over time you will be led to experiences never imagined. Be patient and enjoy each session for what it reveals.

Thinking there is some sort of end (like in a traditional orgasm) is likely not a good mindset.

To the point! Boiled down to an essence! Well said!

Great! Mart