I don't know what I'm doing wrong :/

mazza,

From your descriptions, it sounds like you are doing all the physical preparations quite adequately.

You mentioned urinary incontinence, have you had this condition checked out by a doctor to determine the cause? Your prostate is a significant part of your urinary tract so there may be something going on there which is hampering your body's response to Aneros stimulation.I'm not really sexual, or sexually active, and I just want to experience some amazing feelings.This sounds like you have a low libido issue which can be caused by hormonal imbalances or psychological issues.I usually use my aneros about once or twice a week for a few hours, or overnight. when I use it overnight my perineum and/or my butt hurts and I have to give it a few days rest.One of the reasons I don't recommend overnight use is exactly for the reaction you cited. The lingering pain or discomfort only sets a negative tone for future use, a subtle self programming for diminishing returns.I really just want some success T_T. I'm straight (but single), a virgin, and will be for a while it seems, I just want some real pleasure, I'm not really interested in masturbation anymore, it's lost it charm. Your frustration is palpable and this is not going to help moving forward. You need to realize that your Aneros tools will not create arousal or sexual pleasure for you. They will only be able to amplify that which you already possess. I get the feeling finding the root causes for your lack of sexual interest (low libido) may be the key to progress for you.

P.S. Since you've already paid for it and they have the records to verify it, you should email support@aneros.com to see about getting a repeat download of "HypnAerosession" at the same time you can request that they change your username to some alternate one of your choosing.
Good Vibes to You !

Everyone is different. For me the breakthrough was to increase the frequency. I scheduled a daily time slot for a sessions. The sessions was not long but ranged between 30min to an hour. I saw the sessions more as training sessions then anything else.

The key for me was the routine. The routine made it possible to focus in the sessions and the progress rather then all the side actives as preparation and cleaning up afterwards etc. This because those things become the routine and does not require much attention. This really helps the mental aspect of it all. It works best when I feel safe, warm and relaxed.

The frequency gave things a real boost as I guess is the case with anything you are trying to learn.

I also started to re-learn what it means to be relaxed in this context. It does not matter much if you are totally relaxed in your legs and arms but the lower stomach and the various PC muscles are quite important to relax.

Someone correct me here if they disagree. I find that there is almost like a muscle surrounding the prostate. In daily life that muscle is hard and in a way protecting the prostate from stimuli when for instance walking about. My second breakthrough was when I realized this and managed to relax those muscles. This really made the stimuli and the feelings much more intense. Perhaps when you say you don't feel so much this is the root cause.

So two things to try:
1. Setup a daily schedule (or something like that)
2. Focus on identifying your prostate and how to tense and relax the muscles around it. You might notice that these muscles starts to get tense-up when your masturbate in a traditional way (until they relax after ejaculation). This might be hard at first but it might be well worth baking in to the schedule. A few minutes with awareness of the area (PC, prostate, anal muscles and sphincter) with experiments on tensing and relaxing things and separating different muscles. Relaxation of the correct muscles are key, the other ones can be part of the orgasmic response (tensing, relaxing pumping and so forth).

A side note.I noticed with time that the automatic response started to kick in so that did not need to concentrate on the actual muscle movements involved in moving the device. I also noticed (and are still noticing) a shift from PC muscles involved to anal and sphincter. This was hard at first because the sphincter sort of made the muscles around the prostate tense up as well and the stimuli diminished. I have just learned to separate the two and squize the sphincter while keeping the muscles around the prostate relaxed. This has made for a third breakthrough with more pleasant natural sessions as it feels quite natural to squeze the sphincter when in pleasure.

Will stop rambling now... 🙂

I think @rumel has a good point. It is not normal for a man of any age to not be sexual in any way as you describe, unless it's a concious choice and you are totally happy with that. There is either a physical or psychological reason for it, unless of course you are on medication that affects libido.I would also say get checked out with some blood tests first then if they are normal you need to take a look at why you are not feeling sexual from a psychological perspective.
When I don't feel sexual there's usually a good reason be it stress or something else on my mind.
Please feel free to ignore this, it's just my immediate reaction to your post.

Yeah it's my own conscious effort to not be sexual, and I'm happy with it. I've been having scheduled daily sessions thanks @groot it's helping out a lot 🙂