So, I think I’ve finally made the breakthrough that will eventually lead me to the holy grail.
First, this post should be essential reading for anybody starting out on their journey: https://community.aneros.com/community/general-discussion/the-truth-behind-how-to-rewire . In fact, I wish I’d seen it before I even bought my Helix Syn as it would have made the perfect warm-up exercise.
I started my journey in the same way as I gather many guys do judging from the posts on this forum. Excitedly inserting it with a vague idea that I needed to breathe deeply, relax, squeeze a bit, etc. And my first few sessions were actually successful. I achieved some mini dry-orgasms that were beautifully pleasurable, if not earth shattering. But this early success set my expectations racing and I then spent weeks and weeks trying to recreate the same results. The more conscious I became, the further it felt like success had slipped away from me.
The main mistake, which is one I think many guys will make, is that I was viewing Aneros sessions in exactly the same way I’d previously viewed wanking. I’d stick on a playlist of my favourite videos and, when reaching the points that would have previously had me furiously jacking and edging, I would subconsciously be thinking that I should be at the same level of nearly-climaxing. This would lead to me increasing the intensity of my squeezes and becoming impatient.
By stepping back and rereading the guides, I quickly realised that I’d forgotten the basics. The post linked above, in particular, was absolutely key to the success that’s now growing. And below is what I’ve learned (anybody more experienced - feel free to give me more pointers) [LIST=1]
I can’t go and seek the super-o - it needs to find me, and it’ll only do so when I’m ready and accepting.
The early stages of arousal are so much more pleasurable than I ever realised. As detailed in the link above, it’s amazing to think that these sensations have always been there, just drowned out by the race to penile orgasm we all condition ourselves to sprint for from a very young age. It so damned exciting to take the gentlest sexual thought (in my case a tight, black leather jacket creasing and creaking over a guys skin), enjoy the initial surge of excitement then observe it echoing around my body.
I never appreciated the sheer power of suggestion. Just telling myself how aroused I am and that the tingle that just caressed my groin is pure sexual energy feels absolutely amazing. And the more I gently direct mental focus to what i’m feeling, the more it slowly builds.
The sessions are only a small part of the fun. Go back a few months, I struggled to get through a day without wanking off at least twice. Sexual stimulation = rock solid erection = overwhelming desire to stroke. Now, i’m ejaculating about once every ten days and this because my body has woken up to the fact that the ten day journey to this moment is a hugely enjoyable experience in itself. Just the sight of a hot guy wearing leather would once produce an erection. Now, it sends gentle sensations through me to savour. The erection will only come if I summon it by touching. I can enjoy these sensations all day, every day.
Porn / pictures / videos aren’t required. Just learning that it’s more fun to revel in sexual arousal than quell it with a brief and furious rush to climax has hugely changed my habits. Now, I’ll use it to kick off some fun but then switch it off, lie back and just relax and feel the effects of it swilling around me.
Who even needs orgasm? Now that I know the pleasure of just enjoying the subtle sexual responses that go on in my body, it’s an amazing session just to do that for an hour or so. Why end it by blowing that load? I’ve just been ending the session when I know I’ve built it up as far as it wants to go - which seems to make the next session pick up where I left off (providing I’ve relaxed myself enough beforehand).
I *may* have experienced orgasms of a different kind. Several times now, I’ve entered a state where all I feel is a gentle, soothing, warm sense of peace, relaxation and pleasure washing over my entire body. I can stay in this zone for up to ten minutes at a time before it subsides. It will return if I loop myself back and repeat the (incredibly simple) steps I loosely followed to get there. There are no intense contractions, no shaking and quivering and no desire to scream out. But it’s definitely a prolonged full body sensation of pure bliss.
The Aneros is no longer any sort of focus point. Since experiencing the above, I just put it in and go about the business of listening to and feeling what’s going on. It will move around of its own accord, but so many of my earlier sessions were ruined by the “hell! That was a strong contraction, something good’s coming!” thoughts. I also barely even think about the super-o which was once my goal. I’m at peace with the knowledge that the super-o will take its own sweet time to find me simply because what I’ve learned to enjoy is satisfying enough that I wouldn’t even really care if that was all I ever got from this.
My nipples have awoken. Previously, I thought they were dead. Now, the slightest direct touch sends a bolt of energy straight towards my prostate that can echo through me for five minutes. The more sparingly I use this, the more exciting it is. I can spend ten minutes working up excitement at just the thought of a quick gentle stroke.
When I do decide to enjoy a traditional penile orgasm, the level of stimulation required has enormously decreased. I can sit for twenty minutes just enjoying absolute bliss from the gentlest of touches and strokes. And when I do cum - fuck me sideways, is it powerful. There’s also been a change to my refractory period. Before Aneros, it was as if my body was pushing me to ejaculate in order to clear my head of sex so I could get other stuff done. Now, I don’t need that sort of release. I’m gently enjoying sexual thoughts all the time, alongside whatever else i’m doing. There isn’t the same urge to purge myself of it. So now, when I do cum, there’s no total loss of sexual excitement, it just moves back down a few stages.
Hope you guys have some further thoughts for me.
