How to tell to my Wife?

I can't tell you what you should do, but I will tell you what I did.
I discovered Aneros when I was searching for ways to have more intense orgasms. Once that search led me here I soon discovered the wonderful health benefits to prostate massage. That's how I approached my wife about it. I started out by telling her that I had been reading about something that is very good for my prostate and at the same time promises to ramp up our sex life in the long run. I told her about how prostate massage increases blood flow down there and thereby revitalizes the whole area. I also told her right off the bat that there's only one way to massage the prostate and that's from the inside. I told her about the aneros massagers and then showed her the web site.
I let her read about it and answered her questions. She thought it was a good idea to try so I ordered one. It didn't take her long to see the benefits once I started using it! Now she loves my massagers as much as I do!
It kind of sounds like you already have an aneros massager. That might be a bit more tricky. I suppose you could tell her that you wanted to try it before telling her about it in case it didn't work for you. That my friend will be up to you. Honesty is the best way to go for sure.
I would definitely start with the health benefits and then go from there. If your wife is open minded she should be fine with it.
Hope this helps. 🙂

I had my wife wife read the testimonials in the forums. I told her I was researching multiple orgasms because I was jealous that she has them all the time and I only have one. Mentioned I stumbled on the aneros site and was in awe of what I read. She read them and said you need to try that. As I was originally against any anal play I mentioned I would like some private time with it first. She was totally ok with it. I rewired quickly, now we use it in our sex lives (amazing by the way). I also use it by myself. I can’t believe a wife would not want her husband to experience this sort of pleasure. Good luck!

I also found Aneros when I looked for a way to improve my/our intimate life . But, I think I may be a bit older than you who have already responded to "TheNovice". And that gave me the "excuse" to explain that prostate massage was a part of my taking care of myself, promoting prostate health. Aside from the need to "re-wire", which requires practice (and me-time), regular sessions are just, well, necessary, apart from using the device before or during intimacy. If using the device has improved your love life, your spouse should recognize its benefits and hopefully give you that "me-time". I do know of some Anerosers, though, whose wives are "put off" [to put it mildly] by the prospect of their husbands doing anything anally. I do think that honesty is the best policy. Especially if (as happened with me), one leaves his device hanging in the shower after cleaning up (whoops!).

I too, like a lot of men on here, was apprehensive about telling my wife about my Aneros journey. Other people's testimonies on here finally convinced me to do it. I was nervous as hell, but started the conversation about the health benefits of prostate massage, and that I'm not a young man anymore. Right away, her response was 100% positive. She told me that I should continue. I explained how we could eventually integrate it into out sex life, but I also told her I would need more solo time to understand my body more. She understood and since has told me, as she's leaving for an afternoon, "have some relaxation time while I'm gone". It makes my sessions so much more enjoyable, knowing I can relax, because there isn't an issue of worrying that she could catch me. Weeks now after our initial conversation, it seems silly that I was so worried about telling her.

Do you get to masturbate alone or does your wife not like you to spend alone time with yourself? You mention that you're "scared she can think bad idea about me." Do you mean you're afraid she might think you are homosexual? Or are questioning? Or, does she not want you to touch yourself when you're alone at all?

I'd think that would be the first thing to tackle. If she's against you playing with yourself, then finding alone time to engage in anal/prostate play might be even more of a red flag for her. In no way am I defining you or your wife by saying this, but a lot of women believe that men are "on/off" with their sexuality. Cock gets hard, "on," cock cums, "off." That's pretty much it. And, some women believe that a man should only be getting hard for them and if they want to get off, they should turn to their wife for relief. Again, I'm not saying your wife is like any of this. I'm just saying that women don't really know how complex a male's sexuality truly can be.

When my wife and I dated, I jerked off all the time. Nothing changed. There was just sex and a relationship now. When we moved in together, we began to talk about sex daily. We were (and still are, even more so now) obsessed with sex with each other. And by talking about it, we both revealed what we do alone and what we did alone prior to being together. So, she realized that I need alone time. I get off differently without her. Not better or worse, just different. After a few years of us being totally comfortable about everything, we started to read and hear more and more about "multiple male orgasm" and while I tried all those techniques (some actually kind of hurt me) to do while engaging in standard sex with your partner, I could never MMO. I had been interested in anal play because I knew that men felt good from it, but didn't have an outlet to try anything.

then in 2004 I learned about Aneros. It was still pretty new at the time, they only had the MGX and SGX for sale (if they had others I didn't see them). So I asked my wife "hey, since I'm playing alone sometimes anyway, what would you think if I tried this?" I explained it to her and because it was so new and so unique (there was no forum back then either so no real testimonial/experience stuff to help me out) she wanted me to go for it. Well I did, and not much happened as I didn't really know what to do or how it was supposed to feel. But, she thought it was cool. It took a year or two for us to incorporate it into our sex life together, but for solo play, my orgasm and ejaculation was expanding exponentially the more I used it and it translated into some of the most profound orgasmic experiences I've ever dreamed of having while I'm with her.

So if you two are really into sex and really into sex together, then I think a candid and open discussion can't hurt. The worst that can happen is she will reject your use of it and hopefully not reject you for using it. How long have you had it for? If you just got it then you could say "hey I just got this thing to see if it made things better/more exciting/etc., and I want to tell you about it!" I hope things get worked out and you and her are both happy after you figure it out!