how to relax

Hi stan,

Usually the members here are right on a question like this, it must have got missed.

Send me an email, I have something that may help you RELAX 😉

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relaxing techniques vary...if as i seem to pick up..on and waiting till ur wife is away...u might not be able to fully relax.....she might come home early?...does she know that u have it? if your hiding it from her i wouldn't recommend that way...everyones situation is different...point i'm making is that if it's a secret...your gonna have a hard time fully relaxing ang enjoying it if ur mind is occupied with thoughts of her "catching" you..so to speak...

I have done about 6 to 8 sessions in about 2 months. I've received some mini orgasms annally but have not achieved an erection during any session nor an ejaculation unless thru hand masturbation. I need suggestions about relaxing tecniques and how long a session should reasonably be held. Thanks and looking forward to hearing from someone.
My profile is that I am a healthy 65 year old, married to a great wife who does not have the sexual needs that I have. She can do without, I can not. When she is away is when I usually have a session. 😕
I own the Progasm.

Hi SatnBurge!

Good advice from EZ, by the way!

First off, i think the average must be about 2-3 times a week for Aneros sessions. (that's about my average too) My sessions last about 45 minutes, if I don't feel that it's going anywhere further??? Or if I am geting good MMO's, I will go on for hours!

Next, an erection is not necessary at all for these sessions! (I seldom have an erection during ANY kind of prostate orgasms) So, forget about an erection . . . it will just get in the way, actually!

Then, ejaculation isn't even part of a "dry orgasm", such as a mini-O or Super-O! As you can read numerous times in this forum, Ejaculation and Orgasm are 2 separate and distinct things! Having a mini or Super-O is "having an orgasm without ejaculation". That's how we are able to have MMO's or multiple orgasms over an extended period . . .then do it again, with no recovery time!

If you are having mini-O's already, a congratulations is in order! Welcome aboard!

Relaxation . . . I am able to just relax my body, from my toes to my facial muscles and head. Then push all thoughts out of my head (best I can) and breath long, slow breaths from my abdomen and try to slow down your bodily processes if possible! Give yourself 10 minutes at the beginning of a session to do this. (without interruption of phones or whatever!)

If you are having trouble, there are a mumber of relaxation audios that can walk you thru the relaxation process and usually has some kind of soft dreamy music in the background.

Hope this helps!

Later, Hlaser99

with the relaxing part...what works for me is just ..put a towel under u...radio on...close your eyes and start...since my wife is kewl with it ..if she walks in..no problem..i continue...u wanna watch and or join in..fine...but alone...no focusing on anything other than yourself...feel the toy as u contract...let it tell u what it wants to do...it will take u to places u have not felt in regular sex...a lil leg trembling...ur on the path...finding urself raising ur butt up and squeezing hard n holding it...as u feel wicked waves start..getting there...go with these..and utmost..no distractions..phone..will wifey come home?u gotta be focused on ur self..

Stanburge,

A piece of music by Kelly Howell titled “ECSTACY” has often been cited on this Forum for its beneficial effects of inducing relaxation and increasing arousal levels.
Check out the member’s Poll “How long to ride the Aneros?” for session lengths - http://aneros.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=1897