How I got here and what I have learned so far

By a Newb, for Newbs.

Newb 44 year old straight male with a purple unicorn wife when it comes to sex. Never been into doing things with my ass, have heard of the mythical p-gasm, and figured I'd look into this experience. She almost always has intense orgasms, she can and does squirt, has a snapping pussy, and to top it all off, if I massage her lower back the natural dopamine release that is generated at orgasm and gets stored in her muscles re-releases. Like I said, purple unicorn. I am a very lucky man. What drove me in this direction was the sensations I experienced as a result of having to medicate with suppositories for hemmoriods of all things. That and my wifes explanation of she experiences. So I'm not doing this because I'm not getting any, I'm curious about the intensity of what's been described by performing the action, and quite frankly I am at the age where I just don't give a shit about homophobia. That said, I'm not going dude hunting anytime soon either lol.

Did some searching online, read the forum here, got interested, purchased the progasm. Got it on the 5th of Dec. I am fortunate enough to have enough time on my hands I can experiment with this thing, but in a short period of time I found my patience wearing a little thin after reading stories of it taking years for people to get results, I was a little determined to accelerate that learning curve a bit. Being an systems engineer, that probably doesn't help lol. Results damnit.

I've found the manual that comes with the progasm a little lacking. There are some helpful suggestions that users have posted here on the forums that ought to be included. Specifically:

1. Get a towel that you don't care about for use with your sessions. What goes in comes out.
2. Make sure you are properly empty in the rear and the front as much as possible - I am lucky that coffee effects me in ensuring I have to go out the back quick. 2-3 cups and 30 min later I'm pretty clean.
3. Get an enema douche off amazon, it's $10 and shipped discretely. I usually rinse twice after a BM. This will save you the surprise and the hassle of crapping all over the place.
4. Get a medical syringe or some other applicator you can measure lube with. Lube is your friend. Lube the syringe, insert, deposit lube, repeat with the canal. Again, what goes in, comes out, hence the old towel recommendation. 5 ml on the inside of the rectum past the inner wall will go along way. Another 3 in the anus canal to ease entry should help. I find Astroglide Gel to be the easiest to work with, your own mileage and experience will vary. I am not a paid spokesperson for Astroglide or their products. The syringe/applicator can be found at most grocery stores or if you have small kids sometimes the pharmacists will give them to you for liquid cough syrups. Don't get anything bigger than your pinky.
5. When I first insert I go slow. Pressing the prograsm in lightly while inhaling and the sphincter expands and applying slightly more pressure as you exhale will slowly introduce your divice into your body.
6. Give your body time to adjust to having it inside before doing anything else if possible.

Here is where I deviate a little from the "do nothing" method, especially for newbies. Since we've never had anything typically inside the rear door before, we don't have a flipping clue of where the prostate is, what it feels like, or what happens during stimulation, it would be good to have that description provided. Over the last ten days I've had a variety of different results based off trying differing things. One of the most important things I think that new people can do, is figure out where their prostate is located inside, and what it feels like when seriously aroused. From my experience so far, the fastest way to achieve this is not through hands free, do nothing. I came across an article on the web that describes what happens when the prostate is aroused yesterday after one of my sessions.

While I have done nothing sessions lasting for about three hours (I was pretty relaxed after that though nothing really happened), slept with it in over night, walked around the house with it in, drove my kid to school with it down our bumpy dirt road and back, played video games with it, watched football with it (first two pwaves), sat up right with legs bent (child birth position) on the memory foam bed rocking on it (which was pretty intense and I felt like I was sort of floating), none of that really produced or educated me as to where my prostate was, what it was supposed to feel like. Half the time I thought I was jamming this thing up into my intestines while sitting in my office chair.

Yesterday I got impatient with the process. I didn't have a great amount of time on my hands, and after about 15 minutes with it inside, I started to slowly move the progasm in and out, taking it out about to the start of the second curve, and letting it slide back in. I had been using condoms up to this point, but since I was clean I figured I would see what its like without one. Much better experience. Expect to have some clear fluid, call it what you want, to be expelled slowly and initially from your dick. As time went on, I began to feel what I can describe as a pressure or resistance developing against the tip of the progasm during insertion. This is the prostate becoming aroused and where things start getting interesting. It's almost like a balloon inflating. This is also what causes the device to shoot out your ass when you are hands free, in case you are wondering, the pressure of the inflation/engorgement of the prostate expanding outward. It will become a little more difficult to insert the device all the way, but don't stop no matter how much you think you are done, you aren't.

Much like having to push through the sensations you first encounter when you begin masturbating as a teenager to figure out if you are doing it right, you need to continue to move the device in and out to accomplish your first orgasm. Now I've used this method twice, and have had the same results in achieving orgasm.

I achieved the following on my back, half sitting turned to the side, and a combination of the two to include the "child birth" position of half sitting with knees bent and feet on the floor.
Yesterday the first orgasm what pretty much just prostate fluid. The second orgasm was pretty much just prostate fluid. Third orgasm may have been some more prostate fluid, but I couldn't tell if it was urine or not, it didn't smell like urine. Fourth one was the same. Before the fifth time I had to vacate my bladder and bowels. I stopped after the sixth time of manually making myself orgasm. No traditional semen ejaculation during these efforts. I was pretty empty after the sixth time and wasn't sure there was much left anyway so I stopped, knowing I could reassess today.

I achieved the following on my back, half sitting turned to the side, and a combination of the two to include the "child birth" position of half sitting with knees bent and feet on the floor.
Today I started out rolling my sphincter muscles in a wave from the base up toward my stomach. I did this because the article that I had read after yesterdays experience, told me that the Aneros products were to be used by clenching your butt muscles like holding in a fart. It may take some time to perfect the actual motion that will lead to hands free success though. So I digress, after it shot out my ass the first time from this motion alone, I again started taking matters into my hands. I wanted to see what a combination of different things might produce. I am working off the theory that much like a woman after her first orgasm, the second and third and fourth should come much easier. So I manually started sliding the device in and out, getting my prostate arouse, because now I know what it feels like, where it should be located, and I positioned the device so I could feel the curves line up between the seminal vesicles and hug the prostate. I started to contract the sphincter muscles to see what that produced. Not much in comparison. So I continued manually sliding the device in and out.

When it shot out my ass the first time, a small amount of clear fluid. When I reached an actual orgasm the second time by continuing the in and out, more clear fluid, same consistency/viscosity as yesterday and the first ejection. When I reached orgasm the third attempt (orgasm 2), same amount of fluid and quality. After resting five min or so I was back at it for orgasm 3, by this time the prostate was getting larger and harder/more resistive than previous attempts. The orgasm produced a slightly different quality and quantity of fluid, more in line with traditional ejaculation. Slightly murky, not quite cloudy, a little stringy. I've had a vasectomy so my ejaculate ends up being a little different looking at times. Fourth orgasm, again, got prostate engorged, and sat the prograsm on top of the prostate, started clenching sphincter muscles, wasn't really producing anything so I pushed through with manual manipulation. This was a pretty intense orgasm, and produced the equivalent of a normal masturbatory/sex with my wife ejaculation. Fifth, six, seventh and eighth were all intense, ejaculate fluids dropped off from five on. None of the floating, out of body, higher level of cosmic consciousness or X drug induced sensations that others have shared.

So that's what I did, abused my prostate two days in a row. It's tapped out like an MMA fighter in a cage match right now. I'm still hunting for the elusive Super O, and I think I have a better idea what to look for with the "do nothing" method now that I know what to be mentally aware of sensation wise downstairs. I also know what is possible if I have two hours to burn (including prep/sanitation clean up at the end) instead of a full day of nothing to do, no where to go cause I aint got school, I aint got no job, got no animals to tend to or a driveway to dig out and it's Friday. So I'm going to get you hiiiiiiiigh. I'll be interested in checking out the herbal aspect of the do nothing method, I can see how that would help already.

Good luck on your own journey, there are worse ways to spend a day 🙂