How has the aneros effected your overall sex life

Your experience mirrors my own. Started prostate play with Aneros as a solo activity, then introduced it to my wife by stressing the health benefits and improved arousal levels. She was totally supportive and we now incorporate anal play and mutual masturbation in our sex life together. So glad I was brave enough to broach the subject with her. Our sex life is much improved and the frequency of our intimate time together has increased dramatically.

Good for y'all!

Aneros has changed my coupled-sex life drastically (I add the word "coupled" because I consider masturbation in all it's forms part of my sex life)

When I got my first aneros toy last September, I was already into non-PIV sex. That is, I was used to spending hours caressing and being caressed. I had also experimented with role play and certain light BDSM activities. Ejaculation has long ceased to be necessary for me to have a good time during sex, as 10-20 seconds of bliss are nothing compared with the 1-4 hours of exciting play leading up to them.

Post re-wiring use I have been able to amplify sensations and arousal to new levels. I've said this before, but now when I partake in sexual acts, mentally and physically it is like I am on mdma. Caressing was always good but now it is ELECTRIC. At the same time I have delved much deeper into BDSM and role play, which has been very connected with re-wiring for me. Now, during all sexual acts (from kissing to caressing to sex etc.), instead of just riding a high wave of pleasure and arousal, I am able to crest over and over and over again into orgasms. My partners LOVE this. It gets them incredibly excited.

5-6 months ago, when I learned how to do this with partners I actually thought it could be selfish. For example, when I am kissing a partner and I focus on every little detail, to the point that it arouses me and I feel an orgasm coming on, is it right to have that orgasm? Is it ok to focus intently on my own pleasure during a moment of shared pleasure? Or is that part of what makes a good lover? I think a good lover is one that is present psychologically and empathetic, as well as curious. When one is ultra present in a sexual act, their partner can sense it, both from their reaction (body language and moans), and from the constant exploring inherent to presence. I still don't have an answer for these question, but it hasn't been a problem with lovers. It is not like I am a trembling mess from beginning to end of a sexual encounter (all though there are moments where I am). And I have asked them about this and they have said that for them it doesn't seem selfish. They love seeing me come over and over again with minimal effort on their part (minimal doesn't mean lack of presence and intention, but if they make me come by biting my toes for 10 seconds, that is pretty low effort...).

I have only slept with one partner pre and post my re-wiring(s). She says I am completely different in bed now. When I sleep with new partners I feel the need to explain why I am moaning constantly, or why I go into a trance when they touch me. I usually explain it ahead of time, so they don't think they are hurting me or doing something they shouldn't...

Ditto all of the above

I certainly get better erections.

My standard penile orgasm sensation faded away as I started having more SO's. Lately I've
noticed it's coming back and getting much better. Better overall orgasm too. Wife has certainly
noticed and mentioned it. Still, I'm 61 and (Like the song says) not as good as I once was but
I'm as good once as I ever was.

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Only been in to the anal play for a month and a half now. But have had some great results. Occasional O. No super O, but a lot of good exploring and learning. MMOs are liberating and the great equalizer to me. Sorry ladies. You can't call us a one shot firecracker anymore. Now both men & women can have multiples together. I think it's a great thing.