How do I learn to stop humping the bed?

Hi @Tuatra, as your brain is your mightiest sex organ, for sure your willpower can move mountains for you.

Perhaps a visualization I use may be helpful for you too. I like to imagine that I'm fully restrained. Especially I like the idea to be tied to the corners of my bed. Though there even aren't any bedposts to attach any fetters I feel thoroughly tied to my bed by tight fastened leather straps around my ankles and wrists. Respecting this fantasy I refuse to move outside of these mind given boundaries. Even my involuntaries have to accept these conditions. And surprisingly they indeed do and reduce themselves to tiny little motions that would even keep possible if really in bounds. Thus I learned that refusing some of those involuntaries can help me to a higher level of ecstasy than with giving in to the urge to f. e. - as you described - throw off the bedsheets and turn my body.

Often I first feel like the vibes were vanishing but most of the times they come back with a mighty bodywide orgasm crawling up my spine up to my head and finally shooting me through the roof.

For some weeks now it has become my early morning routine before leaving my bed to stretch out my legs to the corners of my mattress, feeling how they are tied to my bed. When stretching my right arm a first involuntary already starts and I can feel my prostate awaking. Often I imagine to get stroked my gland with two fingers, then I stretch out the other arm. Now my pelvis unwillingly begins with squirming motions and my fantasy goes tightening my bonds. Then my vibes spread out through my body and my prostate takes over, sending me into 15 minutes up to an hour of blissful ecstasy.

If I'm alone at home and can be loud, vocalizing my lust is a further great plus to achieve highest levels of orgasms and finally my belly will be all wet from precum again and there will be even more to harvest when I do some edging for the final. Have to mention that semen retention is part of my play, and as I am around day 14 again, I'm feeling horny beyond belief. Have to add further, this all happens in Aless mode - without any toy.

Good vibes to you and try to keep patient - for the best is yet to come! 😀

Learn to relax and wait instead of seeking out
the instant gratification which we have been conditioned to expect! Once you have experienced the subtle twinges and spasms which slowly build into something bigger, you will begin to experience the wonders which await you! Once you get past the first couple of weeks of immediate expectations, you will find it much easier to wait for the pleasure you know is forthcoming! Learn to control the muscle groups which activate the anal opening and cavity as well as the prostate itself through kegel exercises and breathing! Enjoy the future which awaits you!

@Tuatra tra: Yup... been there, done that. I'm cut and get most of my penis stim via Frenulum contact; so, if you are uncut your situation will probably be quite different from mine.

Early-on I settled on sessions on either my right-side or back and adopted "rules" for what my hands did. That allowed for plenty of focused nipple play augmented by some fingering of my ears and Male-deer massage to restart a session. Even through I was a slow starter I was blessed by great advice from the likes of @artform and @ArcticWolves. I was able to find other games to avoid humping the bedding. Then an Aneros Vice tool entered my life.

The abutment arm on the Vice is "rather" wide and that bulk didn't play well with my bulky glutes so that when my Prostate was saying, "NOW" the Vice couldn't respond to the involuntaries that support a full-fledged auto-f u c k. Any roll onto a belly position caused an immediate interest in how my dick would play with the sheets and it was, "sheet-humping then, end game."

The only way I managed to get enough cheek-spread wound up with my wearing a Jockstrap with a lightweight cup. That game was OK for a brief run in doggie position but tiring for (only good for 2 or 3 minutes). Then, there was the discomfort of the cup when I'd drop into a relaxed spread-eagle. Good for some chained dry-Os but not a pathway to "Super-O city."j

I've never been a thong-guy but recently found some Chinese Jockstrap-thongs of spandex with a net pouch that does a cool job of avoiding full blown erections. Voila. The center strap doesn't interfere with the Aneros and the whole sensation is like wearing nothing. Brand name is . A "M" size fits my 32-33 waist and the straps don't 'tug' on my glutes or package. Once I'm relaxed into wearing the thong any tendency to get hard is pretty well suppressed. No clue how a foreskin would react to this.

Enjoy !