Help with addiction

@Spanishguy69, what you describe is a bit like the initial situation for me to go for my 40-day-challenge. Though it wasn't about to be abstinent from Aneros use or Aless, it was a committed aim, I didn't want to miss. As with any addiction I would recommend to define your aim first. My first idea would be a week off. Off of - everything -. Obviously you need recovery, that's for sure. So why not try to be absolute abstinent for a week. If it helped you, I would go with you and we could exchange our experiences and try to help each other to suppress the urges we feel coming up.
Best wishes, Mart

@Spanishguy69 What I can offer is this (an online search): [h=4]Recovery is possible[/h] "It is not enough to “just say no”—as the 1980s slogan suggested. Instead, you can protect (and heal) yourself from addiction by saying “yes” to other things. Cultivate diverse interests that provide meaning to your life. Understand that your problems usually are transient, and perhaps most importantly, acknowledge that life is not always supposed to be pleasurable."

[Adapted with permission from the Harvard Mental Health Letter and Overcoming Addiction: Paths toward recovery, a special health report published by Harvard Health Publications]

@goldenboy, thank you for your suggestion. This reminds me of an advice how to handle overflowing vibes. You should lay one hand on your heart area and one hand on your crotch and lead all your sexual energy towards your love to your significent other and to your relatives and friends. That would mean say yes to other things too. And it wouldn't reduce that demeanor only towards activities but would include a change of your substantial and basic attitude.

@Spanishguy69, your post didn't stop to bother me. The question "How is addiction defined?" came to my mind. If you were sitting on your couch every day watching TV for three hours, who would blame you to be addicted to TV? If you were meditating eight hours a day as a monk in a monastery, who would blame you for being addicted to meditation? As far as your social life isn't sorely afflicted, what isn't the case, as your wife even finds it hot and is supporting you, I can't see any reason to call your "dissolute lifestyle" (;)) any longer an addiction. If you nevertheless want to give your prostate some peace from physical stimulation and need any help to start Aless without it, I'd suggest some of the following: slightest kegels at about five to ten percent of what you would rate as a full contraction, nipple play also as gentle as possible, laying a finger on any sensitive spot like nipples, frenulum, perineum, penis root, anus, or even only visualizations of all that or sheer focusing on your gland area. The best vibes for you and whatever you choose, please keep us posted. My offer to join your week or more of abstinence is still valid. 🙂