Have fun folks, but it is not for me

Wait. The first time you tried the Aneros you had success with incredible pleasure, and because it worked you threw it away? While I have heard of people dying from sexual pleasure, I don't think it very likely. There are plenty of older men here using the Aneros just fine. I think you'll miss it soon enough.

Hi wal620.

I am not a doctor or psychologist, but I have been helping a diagnosed GID (Gender Identity Disphoria) patient, as a lay procedural advocate in the Human Rights Tribunals and related bureaucratic processes to obtain SRS (Sex Reassignment Surgery) M>F. I understand and sympathize with your cross-current pressures, as a Straight-Bi happily married male (40+ yrs) advocating for GID treatments for another, if your situation is one of any level of GID.

Like Deep and poppie, I am concerned that you may be throwing away something that indeed may be extremely helpful and healthful as you face and integrate your whole being. I am 63 and cardiac patient, and my cardio has no problem even with my e-stim explorations. Sexual energy build and release is generally seen as good cardio-workout therapy exercise! 😀 THIS IS NOT MEDICAL ADVICE. CHECK FIRST WITH YOUR OWN MEDICS!!!

As for not feeling specifically erotic, the energies we open to in this practice are really the whole Taoist mapped system of: life-force (Chi/Qi); orgasmic (Jing); spiritual (Shen). Guys here have entered this full spectrum via Aneros prostate awakening at many different points along that spectrum, not all beginning with orgasmic! Many times that is due to other life circumstances and their emotional shaping of the man's energies responses. My guess is that with self-acceptance and deep relaxation, you too could be flying in orgasmic erotic ecstasies very soon too. Over at KSMO (see current thread on that topic) we refer to your experience and explanation as revealing of an "Emotional Furball", which is in no way trivializing the depth or seriousness of your personal situation.

I would be happy to chat with you, explore things further here in your thread, or by exchanging PMs (Personal Messaging system here), if you would like to follow up any of this or have any questions. That is what this community is all about.

all the best journeying all to the whole person you are all

artform

I enjoyed making love to myself. An irreplaceable experience. But I would end up killing myself.

I agree with you that it would be quite wrong to carry on if something is life-threatening but I feel that your doctor may be the best one to advise you. Don't give up on the Aneros all together but go and talk to your Doctor and get his opinion. Don't be worried about telling him that you are trying a prostate massager - he will have to deal with patients who are into all sorts of sexual experiments, he won't judge you because of that (Or, if he does, it might be time to get a new doctor).

I use the preposition "he" because I personally would feel happier discussing the issue with a man but, on the occasions when I have had to see a female doctor about a sexual problem, have had no problem discussing that problem with a female doctor.

THIS IS NOT MEDICAL ADVICE. CHECK FIRST WITH YOUR OWN MEDICS!!!

Artform posted whilst I was composing my message 🙂

You're giving up because you had astounding success on the first try?... *Seething with envy* That would be some "problem" to have...

wal620;

You sound like my wife! She'll experience some new sexual technique (nothing kinky or pervey, mind you) that sends her into orbit to another plane of ecstasy, and when she comes down, she never wants to do it ever again. Very frustrating.

So, what gives?

Now I know what herion addiction is. I am back on this forum but not yet with you. I held the Helex in my hands last night. I didn't buy it because I feared the "dime" tab. It is just too aggressive for me. My periniem spot is soooo sensitive! They didn't have the MGX, which started my on this path. I thought I would compromise by buying a prostate massager. What a joke. Tried that this morning.

It is only a matter of time. When I find the MGX, I will buy it and probably screw myself to death, maybe lose my job, my wife (conflicted about this anyhow...), who know what else.

The MGX is perfect for me. It is my herion. I do contractions all day, just remembering.

Oh, if anyone has any thoughts on how I can control the violence of my orgasms, please let me know. You can help save my life.

Thanks everyone for their thoughts. Joy.

WAL

Oh, if anyone has any thoughts on how I can control the violence of my orgasms, please let me know. You can help save my life.

I was quite serious when I said to ask your doctor. He won't think you odd or unusual for using something to massage your prostate.

I went to see my new doctor about my high blood pressure yesterday. This meant that I had to tell him about the problems I have cumming. That in turn lead to my saying that the MGX had helped me. Other than noting that this did help me he wasn't really bothered.

Hi again wal620!

Although our culture has trained us to think of all this as black and white, that is physiologically false and psychologically crazy, with rare exceptions. What you are experiencing with your MGX and Helix is the birthright of every male, period. No reason to loose your job or your wife unless there are other non-Aneros issues. I Super-T-ed through the first three and a half decades of our marriage and then found that mrs. a was curious about her prostate/G-spot beyond our practices up to that time too. You can find our experiences, including Male Clitoris Massage and Mangina techniques in my blog: Aneros

At the rate of your success to date, you will possibly also be quick in experiencing the aneros-less sessions and Day After Effects, leading to an adept level ability to call up any of these effects/energies at will, and control them effectively without loosing them in social situations. dtmsmith's thread "KSMO questions" explains this from several adepts' perspectives: http://www.aneros.com/forum/f5/ksmo-questions-14326/

You might also benefit from reading the posts (and please vote in the poll too!) in the Community Poll: http://www.aneros.com/forum/f6/male-sexual-orientation-here-12285/

Your body will naturally put outer physiological limits on your orgasms because IMHO, the neurological impetus here is finding the profound integrating ecstasies and true full-life happiness ultimately, not massive violent total energy fatigue.

butt your mind and whole body/mind need courage and deep calm to enable the best this journey can bring to/for you and your relationships all

artform

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It is only a matter of time. When I find the MGX, I will buy it and probably screw myself to death, maybe lose my job, my wife (conflicted about this anyhow...), who know what else.

The MGX is perfect for me. It is my herion. I do contractions all day, just remembering.

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Oh, if anyone has any thoughts on how I can control the violence of my orgasms, please let me know. You can help save my life. WAL

Hi WAL,
First, welcome back. Please share with us anytime and as frequently as need be.

Been there, did that last summer. I got overpowered and wanted to dive into the deepest feelings around. I was lucky as I didn't have as much orgasmic intensity as you have just experienced.

As I got into your situation, David Carradine's unfortunate death was an eye-opener. Google for and please read over his last day. Consider it. Stay aware and set your boundaries wisely. Talk to us. It took me about two weeks to get settled into my first serious approach to fitting this into my life.

When the initial emotions stabilize and you get this internalized into your whole being, involve your wife. (sooner rather than later).

MGX is probably a good choice at this point. Not quite as agile as Helix and a more vanilla tool.

Please also consider 's thoughts on how Aneros might help integrate your personal fole identification with the other aspects of your being.

take care man and, hug yourself for all of us. ... rook

wal620,

I am very happy to see you back on line with us. 'Mistress Aneros' has already got you hooked, hasn’t she? You’ve become addicted like so many of us, as she starts to re-write your neural code, the rewiring is upon you and now you're drawn to the sweet seduction of her siren call. :rolleyes: Most likely this initial infatuation will abate somewhat but once you have received the pleasure from her why would you want to stop? You can get some further information about this from the Psychological and Managing addiction sections of the WIKI. Since you have identified yourself as particularly susceptible to this type of behavior, I would recommend you sit down and immediately have an open and frank discussion with your wife about this new aspect of your life. If you have a good, loving relationship, this communication will likely strengthen it far beyond what you can now imagine as you engage her help in growing forward and learning together just as it has for some of our other members. You and she might find reading the Women Too section of the WIKI and the Sticky: A Wife's Perspective helpful in opening and maintaining a dialogue.

It is obvious the suddenness of your transition into the Super-O status has had a disorienting effect on your mind. ("This afternoon, over a two hour period -- and mind you with only my third time with the stimulator I experienced 6 mind blowing orgasms. Absolutely no doubt. Unlike anything I have experienced before.") You have now had a few days to assimilate that experience and are beginning to understand the powerful implications of the possibilities for you. No doubt this realization has somewhat scared you, but as 'artform' implied in his latest post to you, your body would never harm itself. While you can consciously engage in actions that can damage yourself, your body has a level of knowledge and wisdom much deeper and more profound than your ego consciousness. This knowledge consistently seeks to preserve and enhance our life processes but never to self terminate, so I don't think you have to worry about screwing yourself into a heart attack.

i have never insulted anyone on this forum before but i have to say i think your full of shit or retarded or maybe both.
so you bought a sex toy it worked exactly as advertised and you threw it away you have more money than sense or you just a liar

Thanks everyone, even Toker, for your comments. It has been an amazing day. In my last post, I said I did contractions all day...well, just after returning from lunch and while sitting at my office desk, I learned how to orgasm WITHOUT the Aneros!! No shit. I have come about 50 times today. My wife thought I was watching TV or napping. The Aneros is a gift from God. For me, the most important part of it isn't the main part, it is the perineum tab. This sits right on top of the accupressure ending for most of the sexual nerves. At least for me, when I feel this point aroused, I follow with a slight fluttering contraction, which rapidly matures into a full body-shaking total orgasm. I pull my contraction so tight! All this without the Aneros. Tomorrow I am going to purchase the Helix. The prostate massage is a bonus, above and beyond the orgasm, at least for me. My prostate is going to produce like a gusher. Artform, I have found my clitoris, right under the perineum tab. I have never felt so at peace. Totally joyful.

I have had such a journey over the last 6 days. From anticipation, to pleasure, to orgasm, to disgust, to resolution, to moving forward, to complete surprise, to sublime pleasure, and now joy.

I will post more as my journey continues. WAL

It's nice to hear you're now accepting this level of arousal into your life. I actually read you first post before anybody had responded and was going to simply write this...
"He'll be back"!
But decided to go ahead and leave it alone knowing you'd not be able to just forget about the new found levels of arousal.
You are for sure a natural. It's like you had a switch that just needed to be turned on and the aneros did this for you. As you'll read in many posts on this forum, the aneros is just the training wheels. It's not even necessary once you learn how to have MMO's without it. You went ahead and threw the training wheels away on day one and have learned how to ride without them! Congrats!
But even so. Since I've been using the aneros I've found much pleasure in exploring my back door. So even though I can have aneroless MMO's, it can be a lot of fun tinkering around back there.