Has the aneros replaced sex with wife???

Hey @aneros_user113188

prostate play, super-o's and a sex life with a partner are not mututal exclusive. It's quite the opposite: learning to super-o boosts your abilities and thus the possibilities with a partner. It's a personal thing though and depends on you partner, but if your wife is interested and willing to participate, a whole new world awaits you. I'm not only speaking about pegging here. Learning to super-o with the aneros means learning to re-wire in general. Once you mastered your prostate, you will eventually see that it's just one of a million ways to achieve orgasm. Plus: it massively slows down and broadens your arousal curve, so you more or less have the same arousal curve as a woman - so it's a huge plus when you have sex. You get a deep understanding for the problems and needs a woman has, to achieve an orgasm - you get the toolbox to literally sync arousal with your wife. When I sleep with my wife, I have like 2-4 penis-driven dry-o's before I eventually ejaculate. That's thanks to the new skills I learned. So I still prefer sexy time with her over a lonely aneros-session.

One last thing:
You speak from your "need for actual sex". What do you mean by that? You don't need sex with a partner just for physical relief - as long as you don't see masturbation as something inferior or not "the real thing". People usually have sex to bond with their partner. And that's something the aneros and super-o's can't and won't give you.

Cheers, Unfug

What I meant by "need for actual sex" was that I figure if the aneros is as good as advertised I assumed my desire for intercourse would go way down. One would think that if the prostate orgasms were that intense that other penile orgasms from sex, and masturbation wouldnt be as good and the desire for them would lessen. From what you say, that may not be the case.

Hey @aneros_user113188

well I guess everybody reacts differently after mastering the super-o. For me it meant, that I got more picky with my sexual encounters. I don't want the fast and don't strive for a quick relief anymore. I want it to be long and worth the time and effort that is put in - ejaculating too early (hence ending the sex) is a big bummer to me. So it's somehow an amazingly female cliché: quality over quantity. Since I have dry-o's as regulary as I had wet-o's in the past, ejaculating became more and more a pure physical need rather than a sexual desire. I'm still horny all the time, but a slightly different kind of horny.

In the end, no one can foresee what will happen to you. You will have to walk down the road to find out. 🙂

Cheers, Unfug

What I meant by "need for actual sex" was that I figure if the aneros is as good as advertised I assumed my desire for intercourse would go way down. One would think that if the prostate orgasms were that intense that other penile orgasms from sex, and masturbation wouldnt be as good and the desire for them would lessen. From what you say, that may not be the case.

I think there is a great deal of truth to this, I think more people here should read and absorb this notion and perhaps it might help others realise this truth and help to achieve better sessions by not expecting unrealistic or over exaggerated claims.

My wife and I average sex four times per year, and have so for many years now. It used to be that after it was over she would complain for days as to how sore she was. I made a change which has not increased frequency, but replaced the complaints with "that was so good, we should do it more often". While sex is still four times a year - intimacy as in snuggling, kissing, groping is now quite regular - we are bonding, not acting like roomates and the marriage is much happier! See, I take forever to climax, and she climaxes quickly - so she dries out and gets sore - and yes we have tried all kinds of lubes. My new approach is we make love until she climaxes and that is the time to end the love-making. Because of that, and because of the infrequency of sex I need relief and I get it - through a wide range of prostate toys including aneros.

My wife has toys of her own as she does love to masturbate in private.

So, if a guy is in a no-sex or low sex marriage, using aneros can provide him with wonderful relief which is compatible with your marriage vows. For a guy with regular sex who's wife is counting on him, make sure your aneros use compliments and encourages your love-life rather than replace it. For a guy with very little sex at home, the aneros can help fill the need.

prostatephun, you made good points. My wife doesn't have the sex drive I do, and I thought that the aneros would be a nice fill in for the actual sex I'm missing. I get the feeling she's ok with me using it time to time as long I don't become completely addicted to it and that it doesn't completely replace our sex. I don't think addiction to it is possible but you never know by the way some people on these boards rave about the aneros. Now if I can get the damn device to work with my body. Some good feelings but nothing by way of dry o or super o yet.

I'm in the same boat; our marital sex life is almost non-existent. Four times a year sounds about right so I had to compensate by taking care of my needs myself. She is just not a sexual person and this has been the case for many years. I have no idea if she has private masturbating sessions or not but it is what it is.

The difference is that my wife does not know about my new best friend, the Helyx Syn or about my sessions altogether. She would not approve since for her, anything to do with the back door is taboo and dirty.

I thank the stars I came across prostate massaging and Aneros six months ago. It gives me a brand new avenue to satisfy myself and in ways I never dreamed possible. Better to find this at age 61 than never! Although I have not reached the grand stage yet, I see several positive improvements in my health and general behavior. I have never been good at initiating sex sessions with my wife but I sense I could probably start working on that.

Here's to a better sex future.

ggring

Being recently retired, I now have more time to spend with my wife. Unfortunately, she seems not to have a sex drive compared to mine. She never seems to want to initiate anything with me. This is very frustrating! Of course, Aneros sessions help but should not be a ' replacement' for her. I just keep working at it (it is extremely frustrating) and hope she'll come around! Why can't women and men have the same level of arousal? It would be much easier and more enjoyable!

For me it's actually helped. I used to watch a lot of porn, and jerk off frequently. Since I am on the aneros enlightened path, I no longer masturbate because I want to save it for my sessions, I want my prostate to be pulsating by the time session night comes around. Because of this, I am not as desensitized, and my drive to make love to my wife is higher.

I think this device could be a life saver for a guy in a sexless marriage like mine is or if the wives libido is very low. The aneros could be the answer for us. Now I just need to get the damn thing to work. Wish I was one of those lucky ones who gets it to work after 1 try. That's certainly not the case with me.

To a large extent, yes the Aneros experience has replaced sex with my wife. But she is all but done with sex. I'd rather keep having O's alone with or without the device than have nothing. Plus, when we do get together her simple touch is enough for me to go all crazy with dry O's and precum all over the place. I think she still enjoys being able to please me even though she doesn't have much desire for her own O's. I just wish she could tap into the same kind of ecstasy that I'm enjoying. She gets pissed if I even mention her trying.

My marriage is statistically sexless, well under 10 times per year although we do have sex maybe 2 to 6 times a year - and its been like that for many years. The aneros and other prostate toys have been my fill-in for this gap. My wife knows I have toys and use them, she is not interested in the details but is ok with it. In the early years I'd get a little upset about the lack of sex and this did not accomplish anything good. For the past few years I accept things as they are and enjoy all the good things in our marriage and by me not hounding her, she and I are closer with respect to G rated intimacy, e.g. kissing and cuddling.

Sadly there is nothing that could be replaced. That's why I started this poll, I'd like to invite you to answer.

My [marriage] relationship is [statistically] sexless, [...] and its been like that for many years. The aneros and other prostate toys (lately) have been my fill-in for this gap. [...] In the early years I'd get a little upset about the lack of sex and this did not accomplish anything good. For the past few years I accept things as they are and enjoy all the good things in our [marriage] relationship and by me not hounding her, she and I are [closer] quite okay with respect to G rated intimacy, e.g. kissing and sometimes cuddling.

Even worse. Sadly there is nothing that could be replaced. That's why I started this poll, I'd like to invite you to answer.

Knowing that quite a few of us are in the sexless marriage club, I started an aneros group. Feel free to join. By the way, I use the widely accepted "statistical" definition of sex less than 10 times per year. You could also think of it this way, if you have sex with your wife less frequently than once every month, you qualify 🙂

Here is a link: https://community.aneros.com/community/social-groups/uncategorized/sexless-marriage