Had my best experience (of about 5 years) last night

you feel like something is going wrong with your body? At the peak I do worry that something is not working as it's supposed to

Yes! I've only managed to get this far recently. I got some physical sensations that were so unusual to me, the panicked part of me was considering if I was bleeding internally... maybe it was the sensation of fluids moving in a weird way, like a slow oozing inside, maybe some component of ejaculation that normally happens very fast is slowed down. Very weird sensation... feels satisfying and familiar, but at the same time alien and alarming. Like I know this thing, but it's not allowed to happen right now... it's almost gravity-defying.

I can't compare it to my first ejaculation though, since that was never a big event for me

It was like a second cumming for me.....I remember my first orgasm but the actions preceding it are a bit foggy so it was nice to get to experience and remember the journey prior to my first super O

How long have you been with your partner?

My wife well knows and loves the fact that I can experience extreme pleasure all alone. She encourages me to spend time alone masturbating and fucking my ass with the 20+ toys I have for that sole purpose. She gives me handjobs and blowjobs while I have an Aneros in me because she knows when I cum it will be utterly unreal. She loves making me have orgasms because as she put it, "it's amazing that you get that close to experiencing what I feel when I have multiple orgasms!"

If you are both in love, spending 2-3 hours alone, regardless of what you are going to do, should be normal and not stressful. Why do couples suddenly feel like they can't be alone just because they are together? We love to take time off from each other because sometimes you just need to do things alone. Sometimes sex isn't enough, or isn't good enough, or isn't satisfying a specific need or want. Besides, the less we men work are penises into erections, and the less we engage our prostates, the sooner ED begins and the odds for prostate cancer rise. I'm happy to say that I'll be 41 in a month or two and while right now 4 out of every 10 men age 40 have ED, I'm not in that crowd 😉 Gotta use it if you don't want to lose it!

Talk to her openly and honestly. If you both enjoy cumming, making each other cum, and cumming in private, then this can't be something she'll shun you over. If she loves you as much as you love her, she should be cool and supportive.

Sorry for the super late response here @techpump,

I've been with my partner for almost 3 years now. She knows I have the aneros as I had one before we met and there was one time where I used it in front of her but I wasn't using it properly, just more that it can heighten orgasm even for traditional sex/foreplay. Since then though it's just been left in the box, we've not brought it up again. I'd feel embarrassed suggesting I use it 'properly' when she is around as it means total isolation and concentration. We live in a small 1 bedroom apartment, so we're not really familiar with having our own space, so I'd have to present it as 'Hey, I'm just going to go in the bedroom and meditate for a bit, you can come in but please don't disturb me.' ? So for now I've been continuing to secretly have it inserted in bed on some occasions, probably not wise as it might be super confusing if she ever discovered I was using one.

Anyway, have been continuing to use it 'with' and without her in bed. Still not there, I've had good/bad sessions since last time (isn't there an interactive blog or something on this site where you can update progress?). This morning's session was really interesting;

Went for about 90mins. I have so much control of 'those' muscles now, I've started to put this tiny amount of pressure on it and that usually gradually pushes me back into a wave. This session had me penis starting to get hard (whilst fully concentrating on sensations in the anus) and towards the end I was dripping quite a bit of precum, more than I ever have done. There were a couple of moments where it really felt like something was about to happen. In my head I'm expecting it to where you go so far into it that you have no control and that it's going to feel like my anus turning inside out (but in a good way) or something. But I never quite get past that point of no return, it just feels like it's close. Unfortunately this session wasn't planned and so I had drank a coffee beforehand, so I think my body was getting confused with the need to pee. When I finished, I peed for a long time so clearly my bladder was full.

One tip I've learnt in the last 6 months is to stay at still as possible. That helps me concentrate fully on my anus. I have also started listening to various meditation tracks on youtube to drown out background noise.

techpump is right, talk to her.... If one day (or night ...) you do the same thing and a Super O arrivés, you WILL wake her up...and have to explain.

@kenman it's cool, we're busy people!

The whole "hey I'm going in the room to meditate" bit is lying to your girl, that's not really what you're going to do, although I do find Aneros sessions to be a bit of mindfulness/meditation sometimes. Sexual development happens through time. You aren't a natural born sex god from a few high school attempts. As years go on your orgasms and sexual energy expand exponentially. Prostate stimulation is certainly one of those things that adds zeros to right side of the number...lots and lots of zeros!

In no way am I labeling you, your girl, or your relationship, but I have the feeling that women today assume that men are "cumming as hard as possible" just because they are cumming. Like the fact that ejaculation happens means that we men are "having" the "hardest orgasm we can possibly have, period." That is simply not true. So it might be difficult for a woman to grapple with the FACT that Aneros or any prostate stimulation can, will, and does have a resounding impact on the strength, quality and explosive power of our orgasms and even ejaculations (if you so desire to go down the TO route with a toy in your ass). What women need to learn and learn quickly is that the more powerful the orgasm is for a man, the better honed he becomes at sexual pleasure, both giving and receiving. If you learn more about yourself through orgasms/ejaculations, you know more about your sexual stimulation thresholds and lots of other things that go hand-in-hand with sex. You may become a much better lover because you know more about YOURSELF and your orgasm, and that's what I'm not sure women really get. Regardless of privacy, you should feel good about giving yourself an hour or two to explore yourself and your body.

Here's a question: If she had a toy that she wanted to use on herself and needed alone time, would you give her a hard time for being alone? Or if she just wanted to masturbate without a toy, alone? Would you feel jealous or 'left out?'

That's the question you need to ask yourself, and if she does have a hang up with you experiencing all this pleasure, she needs to be a partner with you and work it out with you.

Ultimately I think if y'all used it together it would be a great time for both of you. You mentioned that you "used it in front of her"--what does that mean? Was she just sitting there, not doing anything? Sounds awkward. I'm a HUGE fan of this forum, and if you've read my posts, a massive fan of any and all things prostate and sex-related. But, don't pay a load of attention to the "rules" of Aneros use, like the whole "hands off cock" deal. My wife sits down between my legs (I lay flat on my back with knees bent during all my sessions) and gently caresses and touches/tickles my legs, thighs, ass, stomach, nipples, my whole body, even my balls, except she doesn't touch my cock at all. This catapults the sensations into the next dimension and I have dozens and dozens of dry Os and sometimes super Os. As I start to swell she wants to play with it and suck it, and at some point I let her. It is rewarding and unbelievable and she loves that I'm getting off this hard. It's not just because of the toy. Its because of ALL OF IT COMBINED. It doesn't feel exactly like that when she's not there with me, and I generally get off extremely hard when she's not there with me. But it's all a part of the journey and is all very, very fun!

I would try to talk about sex with her a whole lot more and all kinds of things relating to you, your drive, what you like, what it feels like, etc. If you can't then keep on with what you're doing already. If you can, ease into it slowly. Good luck and keep us posted!