Getting very anxious.

Join the club. I went through this immediately after I got my first super-O and couldn't orgasm for over a week, complete block, then it came back and I could do it with ease. Got blocked again now for several days myself. Apparently everyone gets it.

Try not to panic. It will come back (that's what I keep telling myself anyway). Can't give you any advice or I would fix it myself. Bit frustrating though.

I've had so many of these and I'm now quite used to them. Some dead spells last a day, some several days. I also know that if I overdo my sessions there can be a general reduction in erotic results. Excessive MMO practice can trigger a dead spell.

But I do know that the high sensations will always return and when they do I find myself, much to my amazement, sometimes taken up to a new and even higher level. Something can happen in an intermission which reliably and sustainably elevates one's MMO performance. I find that the dead spells are entirely beneficial

I now welcome these intermissions. I know they can be a trifle depressing when they, for no apparent reason occur, but be patient! The best days will always return.

@mog thanks for your post, I'm in my second dead spell, had a small orgasm again this afternoon and just hoping I'm back on track. Interesting to hear that you have them regularly and find them beneficial. I also feel they must happen for a reason.

Thank you guys for the comments. It can be a worry indeed. I dread the thought that I might be unable to erect or sense the pleasure. I have been laying it on a bit lately. Mabe I need to let it alone for a while. I do find this sooo difficult though. It's comforting to hear that others have similar experiences. And that the "out" periods are short lived. I insert at least once a day. If it fails, I'll try again later. If that fails I become anxious.
I suppose anxiety creates a spiral of downers and so it goes on. Many thanks for your encouragement.

You said it Mog. Excessive indulgence and stressful effort don't help.

@Tomasheen - see my thread on same topic just below yours. This is a complex and emotional thing. I also find it incredibly difficult to just forget about it and want to 'solve' it. I made the mistake of reading the 'my best super-O' thread last night and ended up in tears! I'm laughing at my stupidity now, it is just so frustrating to read about other people's success when you are struggling to feel anything at all.Each time this happens I think it's a lesson in life I'm thinking I need to stop being so jealous and be grateful for what I have got. Not helping yet though! Arrrrrrghh....

Smudgfish, I agree. Reading about other guys " amazing roof breaking, earth shaking, volcanic eruptions, clenching, screeching, tossing and turning, pillow beating orgasms" is very counterproductive. Depressing too. If I get as much as a little tickle down there, I must be grateful and enjoy.

you gotta give the prostate a chance to recover after you have squeezed it dry if you don't like gping through this dead spells I would recommend NEVER eyaculate and don't use it so often like every 2 days
I sometimes get this dead spells for months sometimes just zero libido or desire. it can be a little depressing

@Tomasheen yes, I think it's possibly more difficult having 'been there' to lose it all of a sudden because you know what you are missing. The thing that really got me yesterday was reading about people describing having 30-40 orgasms in one go with several long earth shattering super-Os thrown in then having a few more without even trying later... it was truly painful at the time reading that.Important to get it all in perspective though there's a lot more to life than orgasms and I'm always grateful that I managed a super-O on my first try some people take years to get to that point. It's all psychological and it does train you, one way or another, to have a positive outlook (either that or you cry).

Oh Smudgefish, how right you are. I've had an Aneros for about 6 years. I've had some great sessions, some wonderful orgasmic sensations but have I ever had the famous Super O? I really don't know. That can be very disheartening indeed. The unattainable height. The " over the edge" experience. Do you have to be in your 20s/30s to have these. I think that ones own experience, if satisfying enough, is your own Super O. I think we ger hung up on others experiences and neglect the little pleasures we do get. The " Must be more than this" attitude is very misleading. I wish the Wikki made more of this.

Exactly, in fact I'm using the term super-O very loosely. Sure I had one once but other than that who knows, it's all very personal. I'm always delighted with anything I get, and over the moon with a whole body orgasm.

I really think you have to go in with an attitude of not caring whether you have one or not. Just give up control and what happens, happens. It's easier said than done though. I think you have to almost be detached. This is prob why pot has always made my sessions a lot more intense. It gets me in that state of mind where I couldn't care less about anything. Now to figure out how to replicate that state of mind without it is another question. I think the most I've had is the start of one, but I get so excited when it happens I lose all focus. Don't know how to fix that. Maybe some shock therapy lol. Give me a zap when I lose focus.

Hi Orgazmo! I'm not into pot and really don't want to start it. I recently bought a new Eupho Syn, much smoother than the first one. I had hoped it might reawaken some activity. Twice now I have put it in and got nowhere. It's not easy not to care. I care very much and feel really down when I keep getting dud sessions. I did have one little hint at something beginning but it ended there. I also have Syn Helix but that is useless. So I've given up on it. I have lain there, doing nothing and " not caring" hoping that it might begin. But it doesn't. I only hope it's not a symptom of anything serious. I do fing ejaculation very difficult to reach. It becomes too exhausting! I wonder if I'm not producing enough fluid to make an orgasm. I used to love the erection that resulted from the aneros being inserted. It would begin almost at once, and fill up in contracting surges until it was really hard and then continue to do a dry pumping action which I got serious pleasure from. Now it begins half heartedly and flickers out like a spent candel.pissed off! Truly pissed off!

@Tomasheen I'm the same as you at the moment. I've totally given up and I think there is something wrong with me. I go from one theory to another but know it's all in my head and the more frustrated I get the less likely it is to ever work again, so I am training myself to chill out and relax about it and view it as a big lesson in life.
Please ignore my thoughts if it doesn't ring true with your experience as we are all very different. I'm seeing as a spiritual thing and really going down that path, obviously it is very personal and you may be different. I have had a long discussion with a clairvoyant friend who has identified what is happening with me very well and it is certainly linked to my current stress and some painful childhood experiences (she could even tell me what those were without me saying anything). I'm now concentrating on meditation and listening to myself a lot more in fact my clairvoyant senses are waking and I am getting some very good help that way. A bit strange if you don't believe in that sort of thing but I'm hoping it will eventually lead to me being a better person and maybe orgasms again but patience and acceptance is something I have to learn first, and be grateful that this is helping me see what is wrong in my life.

I can certainly identify with your feelings they can get very overwhelming if you let them.

One last thought, again it may not work for you, but have you tried sinking into the feelings of desperation you get? It's almost like having an orgasm for me I have to breathe into them and let it wash over me, not easy, and then sometimes I realise what I am holding back and it floods out. I have only managed to really connect with my feelings a few times like this, as I say it's not easy. You have to be in the right mood for it and it can be painful but very refreshing when it happens.

you know....dead spells happen. I wrote a number of posts early on expressing my frustration, because I was expecting something that would "blow my mind" and it was not happening. Even when I first heard about this thing, read the wiki and thought "if this is really true then I'm going to a: get real addicted and b: experience something cosmic. Another thing that was happening was that when I would express that frustration usually in chat, the next session would kick up a level, like the actual expression was a necessary part of the journey.
Now 2 years on I am neither addicted in the sense that I have to have it, nor have I experienced anything approaching an out of body experience. I am not addicted I think because this is a natural rhythm and unlike introducing a foreign chemical into your system, it can't be forced to happen. And if the body don't want then it don't want. The great thing is just because it don't want now does not mean it won't want later.

@Tomasheen how are you getting on?I was doing really well until yesterday and making progress, then I had a frustrating setback and I'm back in a 'black hole' again.
I hope you are getting somewhere.

Hi Smudgefish! Yea, I did have a most unexpected turn of events yesterday. I put in my Eupho, not expecting anything and to my delight, I had a very happy session. Very orgasmic and recurring for about 3/4 of an hour. Took a two hour rest and tried again with similar experience. Felt relief from the anxiety. A feeling of " so I'm still able to do it. I haven't lost it!"
I'll wait till tomorrow and see if it happens again. Thanks for asking. Hope you get sorted out too soon.

@Tomasheen I'm pleased to hear it. Keep trying it's worth it, and each dead spell really does seem to do some good.I have just gone from nothing to having a proper super-O tonight to rival anything I have had in the past. I had forgotten just how good they can be! I'm still a bit shell-shocked to be honest having just spent 30 minutes in a state of complete ecstasy, could have gone on forever but had to stop it because of work tomorrow and of course now I can't sleep.
I've really been getting some bad emotions up recently I think I've managed to express them (mostly on the forum) and it's actually worked wonders.

@smudgefish Congrats on the super o. It's always good to have an outlet to express problems even if it is over the internet. I completely understand that feeling of not being able to sleep after one.