Forcing Myself to Relax

Posted by: @tbob

So did I just stumble on to the true meaning of relax, that you have to fight to stay relaxed ...

I'm glad you have come to the realization that relaxation is an important component of your journey but I don't think you "...have to fight to stay relaxed ...". Relaxation should be an effortless exercise, it is a matter of letting go of your egocentric mental state and settling into just accepting being in the here and now of your body. Please see @darwin 's classic post relax, relax, RELAX for some details on this important aspect of your learning.

Good Vibes to You!

Posted by: @tbob

So did I just syumble on to the true meaning of relax, that you have to fight to stay relaxed , and good things come from that, or did I just bumpinto the right thing for me.

Not really lol fight and relax don’t really go hand in hand. Maybe you finally gave up the expectation and started to move forward.

@rumel Mentally I'm relaxed, its the physical, as in not allowing my anal rectal or pc muscles to contract so deeply so soon in my session,  even though its involuntary. It is a battle btwn. the mental and the physical, as in I want my body to stay as relaxed as my mind for as long as possible. By doing so, it allows the aneros to move more freely and I can feel every movement inside me, which seems to be taking me to that next level of pleasure . As opposed to the clamping down, which I in my case isolates the aneros to one spot, feela very good for a while, but once it dies down, its like I've somewhat desensitzed my prostate, and it never comes back around or goes higher pleasure wise. Although I would classify this as a good session, this releasing or relaxing of the muscles has already brought me new and greater pleasure.

@rumel  I should also mention that part of my battle diciplines is to fight relaxed, countles hours of training to master it. Has kept me alive in some very hairy situations. Turns out I can apply it to aneros. So I can be a better Lover and a Fighter.LoL

i was going to post something similar to this. i recently had a new experience whereby i felt like i had completey avoided tensing, squeezing or trying to force an orgasm. i would describe it as fighting the temptation to chase an orgasm, like you would during traditional masturbation. and although i didn't reach previous peaks, i definitely felt a build up like a true orgasm when i got really relaxed. i feel like this is an avenue worth pursuing and enjoying

Since I've been using the aneros, I've gained the ability to poop without accidentally clenching and cutting it in half. I can feel the impulse to clench rising, but if I concentrate just right, I can override it. So I can relate to the "struggling to relax" thing.

A n n n d   Nothing, just when ya think ya got something going on, boom! the bottom drops out. Suddenly I have gone back to the begining, were I feel nothing.  This sure seem to be a feast or famine journey. I so hate this some times. The weird weird wonderful world of aneros.

@clenchy oh man! Haha TMI! Got images of Guillotine sphincters chopping poos up in my head now lol 😉

@helghast I guess it was TMI, but I'm curious if this is a common thing people have noticed. Maybe it could be added to the wiki milestones list "No longer cutting poops in half"

I get it. My first super o was like trying to catch a large, jiggly, unstable bubble, and carry it with dry callous hands without popping it! I could tell by the pleasure I was feeling that there was much more to come, but training myself to relax was not easy.  I could feel myself wanting to clench my teeth, tighten my arms or hands(like I knew this ride was going to force me to hang on for dear life). I kept telling myself to just let it happen...take me! When the twitches began and I felt like I knew the big one was near, I was able to completely relax into the orgasm. It blew my mind completely, but relaxation was a battle. Perhaps I am more tense than the average Anerosian.