First time sex with aneros

A settling warm shower with or without your playmate might make a good start and a slow ramp up into oral edging alternating with anal contractions might do the trick. Have your sex mate offer some ideas.

Thanks @rook ! That sounds really fun, I'm excited!

@Tatornator I'm so glad you brought up sex while using an Aneros. I have found it to be a mixed bag over the last 14 years of using Aneros products. There are many, many ways I have used Aneros in conjunction with sex with my wife. If you don't mind, here's what I've learned:

-Some toys prevent me from getting hard enough to have sex. While sex is highly arousing, having that toy in me can hamper my ability to get hard. I can get hard with any toy in me when I'm alone and working on a TO with a toy inside me, but with my wife, sometimes it's just not letting me grow. I find smaller toys make for much easier erections.

-Position is everything. The only times an Aneros stays in me and doesn't slip or shoot out of me at 100 mph is when I'm on my back on the floor and she's on top (the best), on my side either behind or in front of her (second best), or in full missionary position with my legs more straight and not bent or at my sides (third best). If we're in doggie position or standing, it's not going to stay in me at all. There are other positions that don't really work but they are just variations on what I've listed. The P-tab arm is what makes the toy fall out of me. I have the MOST success with the Peridise. It's not as direct on your prostate, but it's still in there and still feels really good. It has never once fallen or slipped out of me and I've used Peridise while with my wife dozens of times. I also have better success with toys that are larger, like the progasm and maximus, and the PS-New. Those are more bulbous/bigger and maybe staying in me better.

-Start your session before she is ready. I've spent maybe 15-25 minutes on the floor warming up for her with Aneros in, so that after this period of time passes I'm getting ready to get hard, my ass is totally used to having a toy, I'm more lubed up, and my whole body is more excited for sex. Like @rook suggests, warming up can really help a lot!

-Get a blowjob or handjob instead of penetrative sex. This might not be what she wants, but if she can't have sex but wants to be intimate with you, these work VERY VERY GOOD!!! Some of the greatest prostate moments I've ever had come from when she's given me oral. She sucks me and gets me almost fully hard, then tickles and caresses my legs and body, tickles my balls, and lets the toy go crazy from all this. Then she will go back to sucking, and back to touching, until I'm losing it bad!! Then she sucks until I'm hard and goes to town. The hardest I cum is from her blowjobs, and the hardest I cum alone is from a TO with an Aneros in me, so you can imagine mixing the two together is enough to kill someone!!!! Also, have her look into a "Lingam massage." Easy to perform and pretty fun. With Aneros in, though, you're in for a soul-expanding, mind-altering delight! If she can keep you from cumming during a lingam massage for at least 20 minutes or more, you will have the experience of a lifetime!

I hope some of this advice helps you and your lover. Aneros wasn't made to really assist intercourse, but if you work at it, the Aneros can be an unreal addition to your lovemaking. Plus, if you're in the right position and everything is going as you both hoped it would, you'll probably find that your cock will be bigger and harder than usual, which should REALLY get her into your using Aneros during sex!!! I know it makes this happen to me 😉 Good luck!

@Tatornator@techpump Give it some more try. Since i bought it for my husbands birthday in may 2017 we have used it mostly when having sex. All sorts of sex, foreplay, sex in all different positions( only once it slipt out when he had an orgasm) and he says it is better than ever always 12-15 out of 10. I love to give him a ”Lingam massage” I start with massaging his back and goes down and massage his butt and put in a finger and gently massage inside all around and finally some extra on the Prostate now I can se a lot of precum. I put in the Helix and he turn around and I put something under his ass. This is the hard part for him, he does not feel comfortable to be passive and just resieve but when he accept it he now enjoys it a lot. I think I like this even more than him. It is very arousing to have his pleasure in my command.

@Lovingwife your sex life sounds wonderful! I wish I could have sex in every position with Aneros inside me. It just doesn't want to stay in sometimes in certain positions. I wish it did, but it can't! However, when I do use it during sex it's really awesome and amazing 🙂

Have you tried pegging your husband yet? I think you would really, really like it 😉

@techpump Thank you, our sexlife is wonderful. No I havn’t tried pegging my husband yet. And yes I think I would really really like it I just dont want to scare him, you now if you wait for something good you could never wait to long. I tried to find a strapon that is small and not looks like a cook, I have seen some red one’s if someone know the name please tell me. It shouldn’t be bigger than helix and not have a thicker base either. I like to use silicon lube or coconutoil. I bought a strapon and had it on once but he was scared to hell, (it was not expensive, it was very big and black I bought it as a jokething) maybe it was stupid but of course we didn’t use it, it was more like a fun thing.
By the way I ordered the epho and mgx trident yesterday, it could take a month to get them they told me.