First Time Aneros User

Welcome aboard!

How annoying does it feel? Is anything uncomfortable or it's more of a general sense of the device just being there and not doing much, or not doing the right thing?  

I feel what you describe is pretty common for a lot of new users, not getting much good feelings at first, but you did get something out of it at the end when your wife joined you. I think arousal might have played a big role here, mainly in helping you focus on the actual pleasurable parts and brushing aside the more "annoying" ones. Positions will affect the device's mobility and overall sensations, for some guys lots of positions will work, and others prefer to use just 2-3 main ones, so you'll have to try a bunch of different options and see what feels better to you. On your back with knees raised and feet flat on the bed or floor is a good place to start, you might need a pillow or small cushion under your butt to prevent the tail end from hitting the bed. 

The only way to describe it is when I'm using another prostate toy and it hits a spot that doesn't feel good. Not painful, just not in the right location so there's little to no pleasure from it.  If I were to move it slightly in or out then I would feel pleasure. The aneros felt similar.  

I have to agree with you that arousal played a big part.  I guess I need to figure out what works best for me. I will use your suggestions and try it again.

Thank you.

Posted by: @sfinct

It was still annoying me but I got on top of her and then the sensations started to change. Apparently changing positions made the difference.

I agree with @Zentai's assertion that when your wife became part of the play your arousal level probably soared and this will definitely affect your body's response to your Aneros device (please see Are you "aroused"?).

Yes, a change in position can affect how your Aneros device interacts with you. As gravity acts on both your device and your internal organs, changing positions changes the pressure relationships between them. Combine this with your own voluntary muscle contractions and the resulting sensory response can be different, sometimes this difference is only subtle but for some men it can be significant. Instead of lying on your back, perhaps being on hands and knees or lying prone may prove more effective for you. By all means experiment with various positions to find what works best.

Good Vibes to You!

Okay. I'll have to try moving into different positions. All the suggestions are appreciated. Thanks!

@sfinct

Hi and welcome to forum.

When you say you are used to prostate stimulation, what do you mean? Have you used hands free non vibrating prostate stimulators to the point of being able to have multiple prostate orgasms simply from clenching your pelvic basin muscles? Or are you more familiar with active prostate play, such as massage and pegging or receiving anal, possibly leading to prostate orgasms but more often leading to an enhanced ejaculatory orgasm?

In any case, I recommend spending a lot of time with these toys alone in the beginning, if your partner allows you to. Direct partner play straight out the gates can distract you from learning the subtler aspects of these toys. Even seasoned aneros users have completely different experiences alone and with a partner. Partners add instant arousal, but they also can create a distraction. Being alone means harder to achieve arousal, but it also means being able to tap into deeper meditative states.  If your partner wants to be part of it right away, you could tell her that patience will bring both of you far greater rewards...

This is my first hands free non-vibrating device.  I've used toys, fingers and other active prostate play including pegging and I've experienced greatly enhanced orgasms from these.  I've also had orgasms from prostate stimulation alone. With such an active sex life I rarely get time to myself anymore but I will have to make some in the interest of a better sex life for both of us!

@sfinct

Great! So while you have experience, you are in for a whole new adventure with these types of toys.  I would say, pretend you know nothing about prostate play, as if you were starting from scratch.  I highly recommend taking the time to read @rumel ‘s intro, the links he provides, as well as the wiki gspot page thoroughly.  These toys are very subtle compared to active prostate stimulation, and they require a wholly different approach.

In terms of discomfort, I personally have a very activated prostate, and I can sometimes find the toys uncomfortable when I am not actively being sexual with them. For instance, walking with these toys in is very awkward because of discomfort.  I have to lay down quickly to stop those sensations.  I would guess that you just are aware of your prostate, but since aneros toys really hit the spot directly, you haven’t quite figured out how to turn those sensations into good sensations, so for now they feel uncomfortable.  I think that is what @zentai was saying though— sorry if I am repeating.

@divine_o

I appreciate your advice. I plan on dedicating some time to my new toy so i can hopefully learn more about it and my body. I'm very excited (and so is my wife). Thank you!

@sfinct

awesome that you are so motivated, and that your wife is supportive of you! Can’t wait to hear how you progress.

So tonight I told my wife that I was going to spend some more quality time with my aneros which she was definitely in favor of.  I tried a few different positions which did make a difference for me.  I closed my eyes and concentrated on the job at hand.  After about 20-30 minutes I started to feel something.  It was subtle but definitely felt good.  Eventually I lost it, mostly because I got tired and needed a break.  Now I'm really excited to try it again.  I can't wait!