So the headline first, after several years of rewiring I just had my first super-O.
Not surprisingly, a lot of thanks has to go to this community and its great advice.
One thing is clear to me from this process, although physiologically we may all be the "same" the path we take to a super-O or even just a new source of pleasure, however, we may find it - will differ for each individual. This can be a frustrating process, but one that is made INFINITELY easier as a result of all on this community sharing their experiences and continually replenishing the pool of new ideas that allows us to experiment and make progress to the next step in our journey.
I started out with a cheap knock-off, but now own a Helix classic (butt arm lopped off) progasm Jr and Progasm. I think the Helix is my go to toy, but the others have their place, as I think for me at least, a constant mixing it up helps find new sensations and pathways to pleasure.
I have had p waves and moderately strong dry orgasms, lasting form a few seconds up to about 30 seconds if I am lucky. But generally a lot of feeling like I am on the verge of something bigger. I spent a lot of time trying to "relax" into the next stage, without success.
Recently I have been reading and re-reading Shockedwaves "Videos of my ANereos/MMO sessions" and also Spinsizzle81's new perspectives threads.
In the process of doing that I came across a few interesting points in my trying to relax into something bigger. Notably:
1: Have no expectations, but constantly question exactly what your feeling.
2: Be happy with the sensations you having, but try to "resist" the pleasure that leads to orgasm.
Now this isnt exactly what either of them said, but it was what I took away from the threads.
So last night, I thought lets just give it a try. I had no expectations, as I am a bit sick and exhausted, not good material to work with!
I also started late as family was late off to bed, so I didnt have a lot of time. But with my two new matras to try for the session I slipped in the Helix and started watching some porn. I was wearing a CB 6000 knock-off chastity device, as I find the additonal pressure on the perenium area actually helps with the buzz down there. I was standing, as I have back problems, and sometimes this helps to reduce the after effects in terms of back pain form lots of contractions in lower back (often not as I go to long!)
After a while I had some interesting P waves, but was not really into it, so was just saying to myself : no expectations. But I did start questuioning what was going on: ooh, that buzz is really on the surface of the pernenium, will it go deeper? Maybe it'll fade? is that a pulse, or is it still a buzz? Is that my prostate now feeling it, or is it higher?
This seemed to actually help things along.
Then I started to feel it building towards the dry orgasm and i started thinking "No no no no!" and tried to concentrate on it not happening (without actually doing anything physical to try and achieve that).
I did not succeed in this and had several, rather minor dry orgasms of several seconds up to maybe 7 or 8 seconds duration.
At this point I needed to get to bed, so decamped upstairs and lay on my back, with my legs flat on the bed and waited to see what happened. At this point I was still saying, " no expectations" which was true, the session had not been anything particularly unusual at this point and I was not 100% "on task" due to being a bit sick and tired.
But when the P waves resumed i went through the same process of questioning the sensations and then saying "No!" to dry orgasms (that came anyway) at a certain point, maybe 15 mins in, i took off the chastity device to add to the sensation of liberty that helps feel all of the contractions/sensations in the genital area (this is often part of my routine).
Very soon after the next couple of dry orgasms, I had a dry orgasm that was more intense, I felt the entire groin area in a constant state of orgasm. The best I can describe it as the feeling you get at the most intense part of a normal orgasm paused. This was then continued for about 10 uninterrupted minutes and was clearly way out of the league of anything else i had experienced. It just never let up, a constant state of orgasm, for 10 minutes, I couldn't move, I was still breathing but wasn't really aware of it! eventually it started to subside and reduce in intensity, it ramped up a little bit again at that point, but I was aware my back was in pain and I would suffer today (I am, but it was worth it). so decided very happily to call it quits at this point.
I didn't have any uncontrollable shaking or feeling of not being in control, but I understand others also have what might be called a "calm" super-O.
Anyway, as has been stated many times before, who even cares if it wasnt a super-O, cause it was the most amazing orgasmic experience I have ever had to date. If life gives me a better one in the near future, so be it 😉
Which is just to say, thanks to the community for helping get me to this point!
Cheers
M
Awesome job!
@Mtay69 I like your recommendation: "Be happy with the sensations you [are] having, but try to "resist" the pleasure that leads to orgasm". I believe the key word here is "try". That is almost what I attempt to do in my recent sessions. The more you try to deny your pleasure, the more your prostate stimulator will make you feel. A lot like male chastity (BTW, I own and wear a genuine CB-6000S; I owned a few "knock-offs" but found them inferior). I never really tried combining wearing a male chastity device along with the Aneros. I'll have to give it a try!
Mtay69 Congrats on achieving such pleasure! Every time you think you've reached your limit with Aneros it shows you something new.
I have found an amazingly simple yet highly effective therapy for the lower back pain that sessions may aggravate.
@Mtay69; awsome post. I tried the "no expectation" mindset but think it's distube my consentration of being arousal. It's a new way of thinking but will give it a new try.
Folks .
Could you guys give me what you do mentally or physically to resist the pleasure to orgasm.
I see that Goldenboy links resisting the pleasure to his work with the aneros toy. Does this resisting the pleasure also apply to ALESS sessions as well???
You guys please fill me in on your methodology and what it has accomplished for you in this resisting business.
Thanks
@Turnrow Basically what I do to "resist" orgasm is to revert from minor/subtle or moderate contractions to more of a "do-nothing" approach. The mindset follows. However, I know this is going to be futile, since the auto contractions almost always will take over, and I am right back where I started! In this way (much like semen retention or male chastity) by denying the pleasure, I am creating more pleasure. I did have pretty extreme Aless this morning for an hour or two. Since these are not as intense, I basically just accept them and move on.
BTW, I am considering getting back into Aneros with a Helix Classic. I feel the need for more besides my usual HIH 950 therapeutic massage. My first Super-O was with the Helix and I am anxious to see if my re-wiring is permanent!
To follow on goldenboy's point, years ago I frequently enjoyed handsfree orgasms to ejaculation - which involved the clenching of certain muscles which pushed me along until I would release a large amount of semen, usually in my briefs. For the prostate orgasm, I identify those same muscles but rather than contract I make a deliberate effort to relax them. That drives me further and further up the ladder - with gentle little dry orgasms that keep coming and after a while become automatic and start increasing in intensity. By denying myself an ejaculation, I am creating more pleasure. Climaxes are not mountain peaks but are plateaus.
@Mtay69; awsome post. I tried the "no expectation" mindset but think it's distube my consentration of being arousal. It's a new way of thinking but will give it a new try.
What i did for this session, was to just mentally kind of say to myself "no this isn't going to become an orgasm, I am against the idea!" as this failed, i actually started to say out loud " No no no no no..." seemed to work, but lets see for next time....
@Mtay69 I like your recommendation: "Be happy with the sensations you [are] having, but try to "resist" the pleasure that leads to orgasm". I believe the key word here is "try". That is almost what I attempt to do in my recent sessions. The more you try to deny your pleasure, the more your prostate stimulator will make you feel. A lot like male chastity (BTW, I own and wear a genuine CB-6000S; I owned a few "knock-offs" but found them inferior). I never really tried combining wearing a male chastity device along with the Aneros. I'll have to give it a try!
Thanks, will check them out, if the aneros has taught me anything, you have nothing to lose when trying new things 😉