female orgasms

Hi anerosmith

Fundamentally I think the answer(s) to your either/or style question is: Yes & Yes.

Remembering that males and females are one basic body type with some specialized functional adaptations, and
that our genitial/sexual/sensory tissues are variations on common structures and wiring at the foetal early development, and
observing the visible physiology/timing/rhythms of female orgasms when with women,
IMHO, the answers is Yes, with caveats and the complexities of each individual journey's uniqueness.

Given the "mutual prostates" practices mrs. a and I have evolved, including but not exclusively our Wedding Band position of lying side by side, heads to toes, me very slowly and gently fingering her G-spot and surrounding engorging tissues, she slowly and gently fingering my prostate, I go through the cycle you so well set out in your great "...Easier and Variations..." thread here. I'll comment more there.

When I reach full body convulsive Super-Os during this we have to back off because of my many wounds and scars and painful muscle spasms and other chronic pain being triggered or amplified. Mrs. a also has multiple full body convulsive (between the Darwin level and the ArcticWolves level) episodes during our sessions which can last frequently to two hours or more. These sessions are about as directly analogous as male and female can get simultaneously IMHO, and the answer here is YES!

See the Tantra & Bio-Electric Sex post too in my blog: http://www.aneros.com/displayblog.php?id=3544

On second thought, I just realized that while on occasion I massage mrs. a's clitoris simulanteously while we are in the Wedding Band, we haven't also simultaneously done the Full Penis Retraction - "Male Clitoris Massage" external prostate massage (See my thread below http://www.aneros.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=3198 ) on me to push that parallel even further, YET! Report to follow...

All the best to you in your solo practice and to you and your wife as all of this greatly expands your love-making possibilities, sensations and deeper levels of shared orgasmic energies!

artform

Thanks artform
You must be very lucky to have that sort of relationship.
My good lady doesn't know of my aneros yet:I suspect she would be too inhibited to experiment.my sessions usually happen when we are unable to be together.
However each time I have that mind blowing expeRience I feel I am more able to understand her needs for intimacy and a womans need for meaningful sex rather than the getting our rocks off that I have often gotten used to
Cheers

Hi again anerosmith

I understand where you are at generally but I hope you don't loose hope that by gentle incremental steps of mutual exploration something wonderful may be possible. I/we recommend the David and Ellen Ramsdales' book Sexual Energy Ecstasy: A Practical Guide to Lovemaking Secrets of the East and West. It is our prime "pillow book" now.

In the next few days Mantak Chia's book The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know will arrive to further inform us and our mutual practices from a Taoist perspective. Healthy relationships keep growing gently. 🙂

You are at the point of beginning the next stage of whole body ecstasies, which are a world beyond reproductive sex, sacred and central as that is particularly for certain years of our lives, and recreational sex limited to mock reproductive sex and/or power dynamics. BTW are you getting Day-After Effects the next day or so following an aneros session?

The vastly greater satisfaction and spiritual experiences, the whole body health, whole person peace and fresh energy/uplift that these orgasmic energies can propel us to is a treasure no person would want to miss IMHO. The Bio-Electric Sex (of Dr. von Urban) position and potential results the Ramsdales describe, is something mrs. a and I stumbled into unknowingly before we saw a general recommendation for the book. See my blog for the results in the Tantra and Bio-Electric Sex post: http://www.aneros.com/displayblog.php?id=3544

I think that this is a non-threatening, gentle cuddle, quiet experience of the energies rebalancing and sharing that both partners can feel if relaxed and open to the subtle bodily sensations. Each incremental step (which I still generally pioneer) introducing more techniques of energy sharing becomes a mutual adventure. 😀

Our adventure began when I found Aneros, and before buying the MGX, introduced the idea and my need and asked my wife if there was an area of eroticism that she had been thinking of exploring. She had never had an ejaculatory orgasm and that was her focus of exploratory curiosity. Thus we defined the two interests as "our mutual prostate adventure", bought my aneros and her toy/tool, as well as some books as neutral objective references on where we were headed, and off we started with some mild trepidation and a "wait and see" reserve. Neither of us have the slightest regrets and it has transformed our love-making, both in techniques (mostly energy exchange focused, sometimes merged with repro mixed and ending with a Super-T) and frequency (we both want more!). This is but one 60 year old couple's path (married almost 40 years, with two great grown children) and not a universal panacea, butt...

For example in books, we got a good how-to, scientific, practical one on Female Ejaculation and Jack Morin's Anal Pleasure & Health, which helped mrs. a get beyond just knocking at my backdoor! 😆

She now marvels at all the varied twitching, pulsing, buzzing activities and energies in there, in me, just as she loves me reporting and confirming my feelings of her buzzing, pulsing and billowing engorgement and energetics as I am fingering her prostate (G-spot) for an hour or more slowly building to the flowing waters of the goddess! Before this adventure, anything beyond a touch or a tickle at the anus was a definite barrier, now it is just a natural part of this mutual practice, as an example.

There are also the "wife's perspective" sticky thread here and those of we couples who post too, as resources for your wife once she knows. http://www.aneros.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=440

Regardless of how old you and your wife are, or how long you have been married, I suspect that when you find a way to open this expanded loving/living with her, that it can/will be(come) a positive for her and your whole relationship. Your sensitivity to female orgasm and your question here makes me think you are a prime candidate for mutual practice, however you two come to define yours. In introducing your good wife to your practice, focus on the huge mutual benefits and opportunities, because they are/can-be the real core of this whole practice ultimately for you and for her too.

all the best to you both

artform