Father to son

I could give more reasons why the family unit shouldn't exist...if man is to become sha-man then children should be made aware of the ecstatic. As long as the family unit exists humanity is on the path to degeneracy

Talking about aneros is talking about your sex life, none of which should be shared between parents and their children. Privacy is very important to them. Often times they will remind you about it themselves, at the very least by showing unease or even lying. Please respect them.

I have discovered, though, many key concepts and abilities can be taught that may help or at least avoid restrain their sexlife. These very concepts and abilities the Aneros journey helped me identify I can easily promote, even at early age and without violating their intimacy.

Words wont do them justice but here are some, as reminders :

discretion in sex/intimate matters but no shame,
acceptance and goodwilled love of self,
let your body, not society, be the only judge of what you like,
relax,
relax even more when It's difficult to,
not be forcefull,
accept the cycles nature put in our lives, welcome what pleasure is in order today, chasing something else will only ruin it,
pay attention to one's sensations,
be aware that your mate's sensations might be the same or different but paying attention you might realise you know/feel them already,
the importance of love and also trust between lovers,
not be selfcentered in a relationship but also not be othercentered or selfdenying,
always strive for balance,
avoid negative judgements,
understand male and female are both opposites and indentical,
both points of view are nested in every gender,
there is some yang in the yin, some yin in the yang and they keep transforming into each other in various rhythms and paces...

Some of these don't even apply to love/sex life only.

I've been wondering the opposite. How do I tell my dad about Aneros? I know he's having prostate problems and I'd like him to try an Aneros before he decides to take those castrating pills. I almost left an anonymous christmas present at his front door this year. ...I don't know.

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To answer the original question: it will vary widely depending on the maturity of the son, and on the father/son relationship.

My instinct is that in most cases son would need to be well into his 20s before he is ready. If he discovers it on his own earlier than that, so be it.

It is a tricky question because, on the one hand, there are many benefits to having this knowledge. But on the other hand it is a private matter, so must be handled carefully.

Darwin

Talking about aneros is talking about your sex life, none of which should be shared between parents and their children. Privacy is very important to them. Often times they will remind you about it themselves, at the very least by showing unease or even lying. Please respect them.

My parents talked openly about their sex life, and I'm glad they did. It was never weird, and we just made anything awkward into a funny moment.

My opinion is that if the parents treat sex as something weird and not to be talked about, the kids will pick up on that, and it will be something weird for them to talk about. If you treat it as a beautiful thing with nothing in it to be ashamed about, then that's the impression of sex they'll come away with. If you've managed the latter, why would talking about Aneros be weird?

Agree, but most people live in "Pleasantville" old movie but so topical. Even the bathrooms did not have toilet pedestals installed. Most folk would find it not pleasant to image their dad inserting an Aneros up his bum - it would be an indelible image that the son may never be able to shake off.

I think I have to go with @Darwin on this one.

I don't have either a son or a grandson but I do seriously wish I had a mentor when I was coming of age.

IMHO, discussing any of this is probably inappropriate until the youth has reached manhood but once that has been achieved, I do believe that the sooner he has a serious discussion about it with an informed adult, the better.

@Pommie, mm I am trying to go back a long time into, say, my late teens when I was beside myself with frustration. A mentor, who! A peer may be, a much older person? Perhaps a female rather than a male - I would be more likely to accept. The risks, who would have been detached enough. A father? I think not, A mother? More likely.
If properly presented as a health, wholeness, fun experience - I do feel if it was got right it would have been a blessing, if it was got wrong it would have been a disaster. Perhaps we would need first to be open and happy to celebrate ejaculation as a great moment of joy not as a desperate need to release, then move on towards the prostate.
See I am trying.
My dad would have been greatly blessed particularly when he was older and struggling a lot as I was until Aneros burst out of the cake....!
Still trying to work through this question.

@Wandering_SmokeYou could try contacting the doctor your dad is seeing about his prostate problems and point the doctor to the highislandhealth site. I have read of numerous cases in which doctors have proposed the usage of aneros products for health benefits, so this would not be unusual.

Since I am not a father but am a son, I have a opinion here. I would have wanted my father to be open with me about sex but he wasn't. But if he was open, I would have wanted information about the sexual changes I was going through, about sex with girls and boys, and about prostate massage told in a factual comfortable way. The aneros information given along with the rest of it might have provided relief from my obsession with ejaculation and a more rounded experience and understanding of my erotic potential and that of other boys and girls. This is all speculation because I don't have a son and my father never talked about this.

@Canacan very well thought out series of lessons. i did make it a point of talking with my sons (4) in a frank and (for me) open manner when they became sexually active, and always let them know that they could speak with me about anything. Once they became sexually active (and this culminated in marriage in all cases), I have not had any discussion about sexual activity, mine or theirs I do believe that as my sons move into middle age (my oldest is 39), I will tell them about the benefits of Aneros.@Wandering_Smoke: I agree with anlcomplsv: The HIH site is sufficiently generic that it would not be off-putting to someone who is more conservative in his relationship with his rear end.
BTW: my father never spoke with me a word about sexuality. And I'm pretty sure he knew that I masturbated in the bathroom in my adolescence.

I like Armon-neat's approach: let them know the door is open and let them choose what they feel like talking about.

I never spoke with my father about sex that I recall. I think too many parents(mine included) rely on schools these days to teach our children about sex. Is this right or wrong? I think schools kinda leave out the whole "love" aspect of sex. Alot of liberal schools nowadays are teaching 10,11,and 12 year olds about transgender topics and homosexuality. Right or wrong again, who knows. I think its important for kids to get the information they seek so they can realize if they are transgender or homosexual that they can see they are not so different or weird but then again you dont want to confuse or encourage straight kids to be something they are not. Its tough. I have two sons and one daughter and will make sure me and my wife have the talk with them and hopefully educate them properly. I will even broach the topic of aneros one day too as I feel this is very important part of male sexuality as well as prostate health.

@ineverknew
I perfectly trust school and porn to entirely mess up sexual education of the younger generations. I feel a parents role is both to say what has to be said and also preserve anybody's privacy... Thin line.

@Canacan, ha ha, yeah good point. Porn is a big worry as my 8 yr old has alread been googling "boobies". I want my kids to have the freedom to use the internet but definitely dont want them getting hooked on porn at a young age, that can devastate their sex lives later on.

@ineverknew
The problem we face long before any risk of getting hooked (which is neither good nor as bad as some would like you think) is extremely misleading information.

For every adult who grew before the internet, porn is obvious as what it is : the most unrealistic (hence fun) fantasies with unrealistic looking protagonists only lightning, heavy makeup, props, plastic surgery and/or CGI can produce.

Taking this as educational at younger age is an obvious mistake to everybody. But kids don't know better and they strive for knowledge (if not already titiliation). The result is a mass disaster.

@Canacan, a bit off the topic but your words "The result is a mass disaster". I am not sure this is actually so. If the community was less uptight and porn not so hidden, then the porn might not be as extreme. Of course not all porn is extreme, but to label all sexual stuff under the heading of porn we are inviting the disaster.
A donkey in old England was to be hung for doing lewd acts in public!
Most will disagree with my more open attitude, but it seems that the more puritanical cultures have the most problems and the worse excesses and the worse punishments! If we hide our bodies as dirty or shameful we generate dysfunction. Girls/women buy huge amounts of make-up and pierce themselves in anger at their shame. Dash it, I have over stated the case as usual.
I made a vow this morning not to post anything - and look I have broken it. I'll vow again tomorrow!

Please don't, I'm not even going to try sounding unbiased by point blank admitting that that is just too weird. Now if you're concerned about health problems, like you are @Wandering_Smoke then totally. But as a young guy in his early 20's, I would not want my dad telling me what he's doing in the bedroom. If the topic gets brought up or if you guys are just very open about your sexuality, then sure, go ahead. But if you didn't even have the birds and the bees discussion (or it was extremely awkward), then don't. Your son will get curious enough on his own if he's interested. We all did.

General sexual activities are not really something you normally "share" with your family. Your wife, sure. She is your partner in all things. Your kids? absolutely not. I've had relatively open discussions with my older brothers and sisters (age ranging from 37 to 55), but when I say relatively, it's certainly NOT detailed. With parents? If my Mom wanted to share her extremely personal life with me that's her prerogative, but even being near middle aged that really is not something I want to hear. I love my Mom (and Dad), but that kind of stuff truly needs to stay within the borders of partners only. Parent to parent, child to child. Not Parent to child. I can see Child to parent though as some younger kids might actually seek help or advice (I'm sure that is fairly rare overall though) A parent is just that. Not a friend, they are suppose to be your Parent. The "friend" part comes much later in life, and that should not include private sexual toy usage.

This is just an opinion, but I feel pretty strongly about that overall.

@Drummel
Sounds very sensible to me.