Don't know what to do next

Welcome and let me compliment you on a very complete and well thought post. I don't think I can cover every aspect in a single reply but I believe I can help you with some pointers. I

First I'm about your height and weight, so I can take a guess at your body shape and that you may experience the "tail" of the Aneros rubbing on the bed and interfering with mobility. You might think about doing a little shortening there to help that and might be surprised at the results.

Like you I'm not a fan of the p-tab pressure since I have 0 natural padding there. The sensation can overpower the prostate feelings so adding something to the tab to soften it could help.

It looks like you're in top physical shape, have experience moving energy around your body, have nipple sensitivity. On top of that, you had great progress right from the start. So on paper you're doing great and checking all the boxes, so I understand that makes it even more frustrating.

I'd say that your 500 jolts experience could easily have been a Super-O but maybe you were not ready to process it as such. I find that sometimes the mind will just be confused and not know what to do, you might need some time for everything to fall in place.

Nipple play is very important for success for a lot of people, so working on building that connection with the Aneros might be the ticket.

I'll end this by saying that it's very clear to me that those 10 months were not wasted and you're probably further along than you think. Your body needs time to process all this and having ups and downs and duds, while not very fun, is part of finding your groove. Don't give up, you're doing fine.

@zentai Thanks for the encouragement, it was very helpful.  I’m starting to understand why I’ve plateaued or have had an apparent setback. Been reading ‘Idendifying Obstacles to Progress’ post. The main issues holding me back are relaxation, mind noise, and impatience. I fall into the trap of trying to make (or force) something to happen. Head’s been in the wrong place. My guess is when I get closer my ego could become another issue. When early on making the progress I did, I had no expectations. So next is just half hour sessions for now “meditating” and relaxing.  

Firstly, congratulations. You've made great progress in less than a year. Don't short change yourself, be proud. You know the potential is there, trying one's best to let this be a motivating factor rather than a frustrating one is an important 'mental framing' going into sessions (personally).

You are also right that taking on too many new ideas can be a hindrance.  Especially as you have identified a busy mind as a hindering factor. Read enough to give you an idea of what to try next, then stop 😉

Your ability to visualize moving energy around your body is an invaluable tool by all accounts.
(Something I have yet to learn but fully intend to.)
If I were you, I'd be using that ability to initiate sensations. Then be gently willing/allowing them to change or grow within. Paying gentle attention to that feeling, experiencing the pleasurable ways they change, be it to peter out or swell.

Arousal is important too. Stating the obvious I know, hahaa.
If missing one Aneros session means you will be twice as excited for the next, do it.
Quantity is not the most important thing.

All the best getting your Anero-mojo back!

@kazama Thank you, I appreciate your comments. Regarding energy, read the post ‘Moving Energies Around’ by @mmgbenis, if you haven’t already. I was just sitting on a park bench, and as I was reading the post, I casually tried the techniques and they work! (for me with no effort). They are simple and should help you with energy movement. I can’t wait to do them in a session. 

To any Newbie like me reading this, read and re-read the wiki until you fully understand it. I lost 6 months with my head in the wrong place (expecting/hoping to get to a super-o) and having the wrong or incomplete information.

“Moving Energies Around” works! I do them in between sessions, though I haven’t had an orgasm with them yet. The exercises provided a shift for me, from the plateauing or apparent setbacks I’ve had since March. 

This is just energy movement and only with the first of the six exercises, are you touching your body, and that’s barely touching just one nipple. The rest of the exercises, your hands are in the air hovering above your body. The first time I really learned them, the next morning, they triggered multiple sets of large P-waves, which I hadn’t felt since last March.

Now I’m making progress again. 

In the wiki I found one missing element that made another shift for me. It was about mildly and continuously holding a low level anal contraction throughout a session to encourage involuntaries and from that low level base point, increase the contraction, then go back down to that base point. I starting getting involuntaries, and the small good prostate feelings have fully returned and have started getting larger. The first session doing this, I was saying to myself OH WOW!, when the involuntaries made the head of the Helix thump on my prostate. It felt incredible. It gave me a preview of where this will go.

I later thought, you’re using training wheels, wait until you’re flying a plane. Maybe someone could confirm this analogy.

A week ago, I had a rather uneventful session, less than an hour and a half. I did’t get involuntaries. It wasn’t a dud, a lot of it felt good. The only difference, is at the end for about 10 minutes, I substituted a Progasm for the Helix. I’ve only tried out the Progasm two times before months ago.

The following morning, I was taking a long walk. I was walking across a vast empty shopping center parking lot towards the health food store. I began getting this massive P-wave and it made me get really hard. It lasted a couple of minutes, Before going into the store, I had to wait outside for it to subside, because it wasn’t easy to quiet my vocalizations, plus I didn’t really want to quiet them. 

It started again when I was in the store (I got out there as fast as I could), then it continued in waves on and off, four more times, as I walked home in 10 or 12 minutes. Energy was collecting at the base of my skull, the same as it does, when I have long love-making sessions, which feels incredibly good. I wasn’t sure, if I was having orgasms or not, because this wasn’t like a penile orgasm. 

Later that morning after working out doing my exercises, I was taking my ice bath and it started again. There were three them. The last one was big and I knew, it absolutely was a dry prostate orgasm. It lasted around 20-25 seconds. I’m not so sure if it was super-o, I wasn’t out of control, (which would have been amusing since I was in a tub with water over my chest), but it was a lot bigger than an ejaculatory orgasm. It felt different and it felt great.

My following session last night was a dud. I was tired. I thought it was a mistake that I tried. I actually dozed off. However, this morning after my exercise routine, I was in the cold water and it starts again, nowhere near as big, no detectable orgasm, (or maybe one that was subtle), but he felt good inside. What started happening is that my legs began involuntarily and erratically shaking for a while, then stop then do it again, then again (my legs were bent with my feet at the spout). This wasn’t shivering and since I’ve been doing ice baths a long time, I generally don’t shiver. Two times separately my arms did the same thing with my hands shaking and flipping. At the end, I just started laughing about what just happened and how ridiculous it was with me in a bathtub filled with water.

I don’t think I quite there yet, but @zentai might be right, I could be further along than I think. 

@zaqpol

Happy to hear that you're still making progress. To me, anything that feels better than a traditional orgasm is a Super-O. Now you might think that this wasn't THE Super-O, or if it was, that's it's not that good. To use an analogy, a 20 hp Ford Model-T is a car, it's a lot better than a 1 hp horse drawn buggy . A Dodge Challenger is also a car, and it's miles ahead of both. But it's a toy compared to the Buggati Chiron, which is still a car. A 1 479 hp hypercar !   

The same is true with Super-Os, there are small Super-Os, bigger ones, and huge ones and beyond. So if you decide to use my definition, you can say that you've had a small Super-O ! Congratulations ! Think about it, it's not just a play on words, and now that you're there, you can work toward better Super-Os. 

Your training wheels analogy is a good one and it's been said before that the Aneros is like Tantric training wheels, which I think is quite true. 

Someone will correct me if I'm wrong, but lot of the sensations you describe that happen randomly outside of your sessions are pretty textbook signs of rewiring in progress, so that's more good news for you. Think of where you'll be in 6 months ! 

it sounds like a few hundred prostate bolts that feel that good are pretty close to an orgasm for sure. i feel like i'm at a similar stage - i had jolts and pulsating but it doesn't quite feel like i'm quite there as i'm holding the contractions and my body hasn't gone into an involuntary state of orgasm

i'd be interested to know @zentai how a super orgasm feels better than a traditional orgasm? what physical traits you feel

@steadyeddy

I don't want to hijack the thread, and this would require a long post as we all have different definitions of what constitutes a Super-O. And since they come in different sizes, strengths and flavors, I can't just say "The Super-O feels like -->THIS<--" and leave it at that.

There is a real risk of sabotaging your efforts when you expect specific things to happen and giving you a laundry list of what I personally feel could lead you astray... I'll just say that the Super-O is a story we're all telling ourselves and that your version is the only one that is important. Still, I'm not avoiding your question and I'll be happy to share, just need to think about the best way to present this...

Edit : removed extra spacing

@zentai apologies i don't mean to hijcak the thread either

im fascinated by @zaqpol 's progress, not least because i can relate somewhat

i have really learnt from reading other's experience and knowing what feelings may be experienced in the lead up to orgasms, and how you react (or don't react as the case may be) has helped me in my journey so far 

@steadyeddy

Hey no need to apologize, this was about me. I just have this tendency to spot something interesting in the thread comments and run with it, and sometimes in my eagerness I'll even forget the original topic, and that's seldom helpful for the original poster... 

To add something on topic, it's pretty interesting that both you and @zaqpol have similar responses (the jolts) and that both of you don't think they're orgasms. Not saying you're right or wrong. But if we were to find a method that works for one of you, and then find out it it works for both, that would be pretty exciting !

I guess that no particular jolt is an orgasm, but what about seeing them as a sum ? When you masturbate to ejaculation, what stroke is the orgasm, only the last one ? Then why do the others ? Sorry just rambling at this point... 

i would say an orgasm is your body going into automatic physical response due to a build up of pleasure, as opposed to these 'jolts' being pleasurable feelings coming from the aneros moving against the prostate but not yet to the point of your body is having an orgasm, as such.

having said that, the moment i describe i had numerous 'jolts' of pleasure, that were simultaneous, from my prostate and into my penis - similar to a penile orgasm, was actually an orgasm - just not sure what type

@zentai @kazama

I think I’m there! I had a great session!

I wasn’t able to get involuntaries going that frequently or strong. They were very subtle and most of the time not there. I focused on my rectum constricting or clamping down onto the Helix, which would put pressure on my prostate, but also made my rectum feel good. I periodically pulled the device up as high as I could. It seemed to be less about contracting my anus and perineum. Though this was the first time really enjoyed the pressure of the P-tab on perineum. 

I had at least two series of orgasms. Some may not have been orgasms. It was hard to keep track, as a lot flowed together. There would be pauses but other times orgasms seemed to flow one to the next. They varied in intensity and duration and characteristics. The feelings didn’t extend much beyond my prostate. This was by no means an out of body experience, and because I was bearing down with my rectum, I was very much in control. I would have really liked to have lost control, but this was a good start. It was not easy to tell, but I don’t believe any of the orgasms were stronger than an ejaculatory one, like the one I had in the ice bath. My dick was fully hard during a lot of it. 

I wasn’t paying too much attention to time, I’m guessing once everything got going it might have been 45-minutes or possibly an hour. The first set there were at least 9 or 10 orgasms and the second set maybe 7 or 8, but I’m not sure about that it could have been more or less. In between the sets I really had pee, and did. Were they orgasms, Mini-Os or Super-Os, I not sure and doesn’t matter right now. Once just my arms started moving and shaking with my hands slapping down. Twice both my legs and arms shook. A couple times it was mostly my pelvis that would sort of rotate or rock side to side. The build up of my breathing and vocalizations, reminded me of hearing women when I had sex with them, granted the voice register was lower. It made me think we’re really the same as women. 

After, I went for a long walk. I got home my prostate is still buzzing and he wanted more. I’m writing this the following morning and it’s still very buzzy in there and more noticeable when I sit. Next time I need to be less in control and to focus on expanding the feelings beyond my prostate.

Another point, I had just two of the prostate jolts during my session and they were definitely not orgasms.

@zaqpol

Oh yeah, you're there ! That's more than great ! Must have felt amazing. Right around 20 orgasms in under an hour, that's just wild.

You're right, whatever label you want to put on those orgasms, is really not important. Once they really start to flow together, and I guess you experienced some of that, and you don't know where one starts and one ends, and they all just stack on each others, things will start to get really interesting. I don't think you'll have to wait very long for this to happen. 

And well, yep, these jolts were not orgasms. I tought they could be weak mini-Os, but they're more like some kind of stronger involuntaries. 

You've got this ! Take care and keep us posted.

@zaqpol i would be interested to know how you distinguish between the jolts and orgasms - and what you feel during those orgasms

@steadyeddy Good question and I’ve been thinking about this since my last session. I think I have to break it down into three categories: p-waves, prostate jolts, and orgasms. These might not be easy to put into words, but here goes:

P-waves are the softest and generally come on slowly and build. They can be small, medium, or big. I feel them starting in my prostate, but they can expand throughout my pelvis a few times into my abdomen. They can be big, but are not intense, like an ejaculatory orgasm. Until my last session, p-waves would only happen outside of a session. I could be sitting, standing, walking or lying down. I’ve had them a lot driving. They can happen up to several days after a session. They generally last for 30 seconds to a minute, but I have had them last much longer.

Prostate jolts happen very abruptly. They’re big and only effect my prostate. I’ve only had them with my Helix in. They feel good for a few seconds and sometimes they just feel neutral, and a few times haven’t felt good. Because of how big they are and fast they come on they make me make a brief vocalization as they happen. I suspect they happen because of direct contact the Helix. Jolt best describes them for me as opposed to pulse. 

Prostate orgasms (and these are very new for me) come on slowly like p-waves do. They are similar to an ejaculatory orgasm, but happen much more slowly. There is a ‘lightness’ about the feeling and energy, (maybe because I wasn’t squirting out fluids with force). Instead of 5+ seconds with an ejaculatory orgasm, so far prostate orgasms have lasted 20 to 30 seconds. In my last session, none of my orgasms were particularly strong in intensity. They were either the same or weaker than an ejaculatory orgasm. What I first recognized as a prostate orgasm, when I was taking my ice bath, that one was much more intense than even the best ejaculatory orgasm, which I take @zentai ’s point that it was a super-o. That one felt like, if it wanted to it could go on indefinitely, but it stopped.

Regarding my last session, When Zentai did the math saying I had about 20 orgasms, I thought, I really had 20? I am very much a newbie and don’t want to mislead anyone about what I’ve experienced. So, I’ve been trying to analyze were they all orgasms. The six or seven, I had where parts of my body were shaking, absolutely were.
Because, for me a prostate orgasm has similarities to ejaculatory orgasm, but it also has similarities to p-waves. I’m now wondering if much or what I though were prostate orgasms were instead very large strong p-waves? I will have to see if I can distinguish in my next session, that’s assuming I have similar experience.

Since that last session, for the last two days, I’ve a lot of p-waves that come on their own. But I also now can make them happen ‘on demand’ if I constrict my rectum. It works if I leave my anus and perineum fairly relaxed, and if I ‘pull up’ my rectum towards my prostate.  

Hope this helps.

@zaqpol

Hehe nothing prevents you for having any number of orgasms even as a relative beginner, whether it's 7 or 27. Don't second guess yourself too much. 20 "events" in an hour isn't unreasonable, whatever they really are is for you to define. That's part of being the first explorer, you get to name everything !

I think the jolts might be what I would associate with auto-fuck  : sudden, feels like a longer stroke from the toy, and completely involuntary, taking you by surprise even if you're relaxing everything. And yeah sometimes you're not sure if they're pleasurable or not. Like they're somehow "invasive".

Those are very rare for me, only happened with Progasm when I was starting out, probably because of more aggressive contact and more tension. Don't think I've used the Progasm more than twice this year and no jolts... I'd be curious to find out if we're talking about the same thing.

@zentai 

I’m not sure if these prostate jolts are an auto-fuck response (not that I’ve experienced that yet). Last winter when I had those long series of them, some of it was involuntary, but much of it wasn't. When they happened it could be from the device just touching my prostate, or me moving the device with contractions, or just moving my body, or with no input from me at all. Now since they happen infrequently, they’re a familiar surprise. ’Invasive’ is a good description, but that doesn’t mean they are unwelcome. Your Progasm experience sounds similar to mine with the Helix. I wonder if these have to do more with newness, (whether a new practice or a new device)? Unlike @steadyeddy I only feel them in my prostate. Have prostate jolts been overlooked in discussions? I can’t imagine only a few of us have had them. Would there be other forum members that might have knowledge on these prostate jolts?

@zaqpol

I think it's a case of people labeling things differently. There are so many different sensations, it's hard to isolate them and put them in categories so I guess at some point most people stop caring that much and just enjoy the ride, and that might be the best option.

Unless we all get brain scans and compare readings, it will be next to impossible to know if we are experiencing the same feelings, so we're mostly stuck guessing and comparing notes. For those of us that just NEED to know, it can be a little frustrating. Even describing these sensations is not an easy task.

I still don't know what to call these jolts and I'm still curious to know if there is more to them. I hope others can share their insights.

Two weeks ago, I had my first series of orgasms with the Helix. Following, I had a dud session, then a better one, but nothing noteworthy. I started to wonder if that orgasm session was maybe just a one-off.

Other than once, I haven’t been able to get involuntaries going much and I was determined to get them. Last week, I plotted a sequence of contractions, I thought would get them going. 

I was rested and energized from the day, then took a long hot bath. First, to get myself aroused for roughly 15-20 minutes, I caressed myself, and replayed sexual fantasies in my head, and did deep breathing. Then I started doing the ‘Moving Energies Around’ exercises. They became more intense as I went through each exercise. This got me primed.

Lubed up, inserted the Helix. I laid on my back with legs bent. I decided to just stay quiet with the Helix in for about 15 minutes, before starting the contraction exercises. I never got to contractions. My prostate started feeling good! I started building towards an orgasm. It took a while. At first, it was hard to distinguish when one orgasm stopped and the next began, though fairly soon into the session there were breaks between orgasms. I would think, oh that’s it, then it would start again. They got strong, more than an ejaculatory orgasm, but were different and in slow motion. It felt tremendous. 

In the middle, my legs shook and my pelvis moved, plus hands slapped down a few times. The middle was also when the orgasms were strongest. At a few points, my pelvis was jamming hard. I felt the orgasms in my prostate mostly. My dick was rock hard through the first half, then softened to completely soft for the last third. I was less noisy. Partly because I didn’t want the tenants on the 1st floor to hear, even though I was in the attic. After my warmup, the session lasted well over an hour, longer than the first orgasm session, though I had fewer orgasms, these were more intense and the build up took longer than in that first session.

I didn’t get the involuntaries, I was looking for, but at times the Helix felt like it was subtlety moving on its own. When I glanced at the mirror in front of me, I couldn’t detect movement. After the session, I felt lightheaded and great. My prostate was buzzing and I’d get these sweet prostate after spasms and had a few P-waves just after the session.

As it turned out this session was the Do Nothing approach and that wasn’t my intension. In the past the Do Nothing approach did nothing for me, but this has changed. 

I had another session a few days ago with the same prep and had similar success, though a little shorter in time, fewer orgasms, but again with the Do Nothing approach. The feelings started pretty fast and got interesting in less than 10 minutes, then by 20 minutes it was full on.

I’ve had 3 sessions with multiple orgasms, with 2 of them in a row. 

I now feel, I’m solidly there! I’m on my way.

This morning my session was of a different character. After putting the Helix in, within 5 minutes I had strong prostate sensations. But what happened is it just built and built and then started over again. I had a series of these and I felt like I had a mild orgasm once, but no fireworks. Later I had these very long extended soft P-waves that went on and on and on. No session gives the same results, this must be part of the discovery.

I’m at the beginning of my journey, and don’t know a lot, and have a long way to go, but now, I have no doubts that I’m there, and that I’ll keep hitting it much of the time. I’ve yet to have full body orgasms or life changing Super-Os, but I’m content with the progress I’ve made, plus it feels so good and is so much fun! Next, I need to expand the feelings throughout my body and let the intensity increase. That will involve a lot of head work. I still would like get the involuntaries going.

It was only 6 weeks ago, I felt I was going nowhere with this and for a long time, which was when I wrote my first post reaching out to this forum. If I didn’t put myself out there publicly to tell my story and to ask for help, I’d still be stuck and nowhere. I traveled a great distance in the last 4 weeks, starting then with my first P-waves in 6 months. I have to thank you @zentai for your reassuring support and encouragement, which helped me to figure out, how to get to where I am.

@zaqpol

Thanks man ! You made some fantastic progress in a short time, I'm happy to know that I may have contributed a little to your success. Hope to read more about your progression. Take care !

Hey I'm taking a break right in the middle of an awesome Aless session because otherwise I'll forget exactly how this happened. 

I got the jolts and I'm very confident that they are what you describe. It's just that for me they come pretty close to the beginning of the ramp-up to the Super-O. And I get only a few and then there is no "space" between them anymore. Like I'll get 10-15 then the feeling becomes continuous.

It was hard for me to conceptualize that you were having so many and not following with the Super-O, so I was certain that we were not experiencing the same thing. Still no name for them. It's like a blast of hot energy deep up your butt. 

Edit : That post was a mess, made a couple of fixes. Same info and conclusion. 

@zentai I wonder if your original hunch that my brain wasn't ready to process having (or going into) having a Super-O was correct? Other than last winter, I haven't had many jolts that frequently. When I've had them it's only been one or maybe two in a session.

I had two distinct jolts in my first multiple orgasm session two weeks, but not in the two following multiple orgasm sessions. And as I mentioned in my last post my session after those first three, was not multi-orgasmic.

So back to my first multi-orgasmic session, (orgasms were only in my prostate and equal to or less than an ejac-O). Were the two jolts my body trying to push me into a S-O and my brain still wasn't ready? Could this be ego resisting letting go (even though consciously I want that)?

I think we may be experiencing the same thing as you, I'm just might not there yet.

I won't be getting to another session until next week. I hope the jolts reappear. I'll keep you posted.

@zaqpol

Could definitely be an Ego thing. Also keep in mind that some of the sensations are almost alien at some times and you may, without being aware of it, sabotage yourself because you don't think you're ready. I'd call it "unease at the gate" instead of terror at the gate because the pleasure level is a lot lower and there is nothing scary on the other side. If you get terror at the gate my guess is you'll be aware of it because it's scary for real.

And you don't absolutely need those jolts, they'll be a part of some super-os and not other. So it's super important that you do not equate the two too strongly, and don't *expect* them to lead up an automatic orgasm or you may break the spell. 

Edit to add : You'll "sabotage yourself" by relaxing or tensing a little just at the wrong (right) moment, just some small thing that you hardly notice, instead of letting go, because what comes next is uncertain and you're not comfortable with it. Well, if you're like me you'll do that kind of stuff. 

@zentai Good point on me possibly self sabotaging myself. I haven't been experiencing duds, but since my first three multi-orgasm sessions, I’ve yet to repeat multi-orgasms or body shaking. I'd thought it may be a while before they decide to return. But, you may be right, I could be doing something at the wrong moment that stops progressing.

No two sessions are alike. I’ve made progress over time, but it’s not linear. When something’s happened once, I hope it’ll happen again, but it may not or if it does, it’s in a different way.  I’m not complaining, I've had good sessions recently with a range of sensations and responses and some single mild orgasms.

I keep wanting to do contractions (though involuntaries have started coming back on their own somewhat), but lately within the first 5 to 10 minutes of just laying still relaxing with the Helix in, things start happening, so I haven’t gotten back to being very active. Later in a session it becomes an effort to do any contractions.

Something started to change in me after my first multi-orgasm session and clearly evident after my second. I felt this extraordinary sense of well being, as well as this strong self confidence. These feelings were more expansive than usual. It’s waned some since, but it’s still there.

The most remarkable part of this is that something in my face subtly changed. I saw this mostly in and surrounding my eyes. For me this is uncanny because, I now look like a different person to myself.

@zaqpol

That's great to read !

Those changes are really remarkable and must feel really new and exciting. That's not something I'd suggest normally, but I'd advise you to take a short break from sessions, maybe just skip your next one, and use that time to really reflect on what is happening inside you, it's an amazing opportunity to gain some insight and you'll beat yourself up later if you miss it. These things don't always come back, or they'll be different, as you said.

You may feel that things are not progressing fast enough, but do take some time to get some solid mental footing, to a videogamer I'd say : "Save your progress", to others it might be : "Since you got somewhere, check around, mark your position on the map so you can see later how far you went." Take care !

I’ve been sidelined. Haven’t had sessions for a couple of weeks, because of a yeast infection on my inner butt crack cheeks and anus, as well as the head and mucosa of my dick. Now it spread to my perineum and scrotum, penis shaft skin and towards my tailbone. It’s gets extremely itchy and sore. 

Yes guys can get yeast infections and it’s the same as what the girls get. I’ve had this on and off for 25 years to varying degrees. Have done many traditional medicine and alternative treatments. Any of these approaches work for a while, then they don’t. Doing a couple new alternative treatments now, improving, but could take a month or more. Reluctant to try oral anti-fungals because of the rare potential side effects of liver damage or heart failure.

Because of the rawness and soreness, the last several sessions I had before stopping were not the best. It was only October since I had my first series of multi orgasm sessions, but it seems like ages ago, sort of like it was a mirage that has vanished into the mist. But, at least I wrote about it, so I know I had them. My setback has been a month now. I’m now barely aware of my prostate. Actually, this is the first time in over a year that I don’t feel him at all. I feel like when or if, I can get back to riding that I’m back to square one.

Having sex with my girlfriend/partner of 31 years hasn’t worked great for several years, because she’s older. However, over the last several months, we had been slowly progressing with improving making love, though not close to were we where in our 30s and 40s (at least not yet), but now with this infection, that’s out too.

Periodically I’ve been doing a routine of energy exercises, Kegel’s, and masturbating sessions. Trying not to be too dark and sorry if I’m being whiny. I’ve lost focus because of this and it’s been a considerable setback. I know it only has been a month, but not sure how, when, or if, I’ll get back to where I was.

@zaqpol

Man that must really suck, and I know that's an understatement... can't help you regarding the infection...

Aneros-wise, write-write-write some more, solidify what you learned so you can get back and convince yourself that's it all true. Work on the mental aspects, Kegels and your energy work, try some Aless tricks, you can still make progress without the toy. Not talking about trying to hold on to what you have, I'm talking about real solid progress. You won't be starting back at square one if that's not what you want.

Wishing you a speedy recovery.

Somebody's getting itchy. It's been about 2 months since my last session. Infection has been quite unpleasant. Lost momentum with Kegel's and no progress with a-less, plus haven't pursued it since the beginning of my hiatus. This morning dreamt, I was slouched in a canvas butterfly chair. I had a single prostate orgasm! This was more than a p-wave. Woke and thought WOW.