Discussion on Seminal Retention

Prostate massage has changed my life! Practiced properly, it serves as a great way to experience orgasm after orgasm without ever ejaculating! After practicing for about 4 years, the orgasms I experience with prostate massage are far superior to ejaculating orgasms for me. Ejaculation is saved for sex with my wife, which has also improved for me. Better erections and better full-body feelings!

I have been researching concepts such as NoFap, and how retaining semen and abstaining from porn causes a man to have an increase in motivation, confidence and charisma.

This is a basic tenet of Taoist teaching and philosophy namely that preserving/retaining one's semen will lead to a longer, healthier life by maintaining high levels of Qi and Jing (Jing being a large constituent of a man's semen, please see Taoist sexual practices). In western practice it is believed abstinence leads to higher energy states and increased arousal. Scientific studies have shown that temporal abstinence leads to increased testosterone levels 7-10 days after an ejaculation but then levels off to a more homeostatic condition. Testosterone is a strong sex hormone affecting the libido and other aspects of the male psyche. To the extent this has a causal relationship to "... motivation, confidence and charisma." is not proven but the relationship is well associated.

I invite you to read the threads Are you "aroused"? & Aneros, Arousal & Abstinence as they relate to your Aneros use and the part abstinence may play in your journey. Additionally I invite you to embark upon the 21 day challenge....

I have looked into Prostate Messaging and people claim that it causes a man to ejaculate profusely and release his semen.

First, let's make a distinction between the general term prostate massage and the more specific terms prostate orgasm and prostate milking. Prostate massage is simply the act of stimulating the prostate, whether it be by fingers, a massager, a dildo, a penis or whatever. In and of itself this practice does not necessarily lead to any ejaculation, or fluid emission, it may simply be a stimulation of the gland to maintain normal healthy functioning. This level of activity may have little or no perceived effects on one's psychological state.

Prostate massage (while excluding other erotic stimulation, e.g. penile stimulation), when done for erotic purposes, may lead to prostate orgasms, typically these types of orgasms do not trigger the ejaculatory reflex, thus no semen is released. This is the type of orgasm most men on this forum are pursuing through their use of Aneros massagers. These types of orgasms can have a profound (please see) Psychological effect. Sometimes even life changing attitudinal shifts altering one's world view.

Prostate massage when performed as a Prostate Milking activity may have a variety of effects. The most frequently noted effect is a decrease in ejaculatory urgency/ability while simultaneously not completely diminishing libidinal desire for orgasmic relief (the prolactin rush). Prostate milking may be pleasant or uncomfortable depending on the method employed and the psychological effect can vary from peaceful serenity to humbling frustration.

Prostate massage when combined with other forms of erotic stimulation (particularly penile stimulation) may lead to extremely strong ejaculatory orgasms (please see The Super-T) which can be very draining with copious amounts of semen released. This typically induces a dramatic refractory period with all of the attendant qualities thereof.

I was wondering if any of you feel unmotivated or lacklustre?

I can only speak for myself here but prostate massage which leads to dry-O's & Super-O's leave me satisfied in a way which is difficult to describe, both relaxed and enervated physically, peaceful, emotionally balanced and empowered psychologically.

Do you feel contempt or successful in life?

I feel quite the opposite of contempt, compassion is more like it, a feeling of well being that I would love to bestow upon my fellow human beings.

Do you think aneros has improved your life?

ABSOLUTELY !!!
Good Vibes to You !

I can feel unmotivated or lacklustre from time to time. I suffer from depressions so that is just the way of life for me. These are just normal human emotions.
What I have learned though is that taking care of yourself and a little self-love can go a long way in having a more positive outlook in life. Taking a step back to smell the roses, or just connecting with your own body can be very powerful. How you go about this is your own choice.

If I look specifically at prostate massaging I would say that, yes, it has improved my life. It can be a great emotional outlet and can make me feel better than a good talk or crying; especially when I feel like shit. It can be way more than just a creative way of cumming.

The powers and benefits that the nofap community claims can be gained in a multitude of ways I think. I can notice a similar thing in a new person at the gym for example where they can be brimming with confidence and charisma after a bit of hard work.

If you agree that learning more about pleasure that was not previously realized, and expanding one's sexual acceptance qualifies as an improvement, then absolutely yes.

I can also personally attest that extended orgasm denial can have a positive influence on the achievement of prostate pleasure. I have found that my sessions had fallen into a routine. They are now changing. The only way I can verbalize the change, is they are now a deeper experience. It also seems as if there are more dimensions waiting.

Aside from the positive impact on Aneros use, I feel that I am a better, nicer person. I argue less, and listen more. I have more energy. Since I am no longer chasing the next orgasm, I am more relaxed.

If you research the science of male orgasm, you will discover that the release of prolactin following a full orgasm, can have a dramatic impact on your mood and personality. And, the impact lasts for days to a week. It is easy to suspect this could have a negative impact on Aneros sessions.

Good questions!

Xileh