Disappointment and confusion

I'm wondering if anyone has any insights on anything I have said.

The frustration you are experiencing is a very common phenomenon with new Aneros users, I advise doing some more reading and give yourself more time. The Aneros experience is not a race or competition but a learning journey without an end point. Frustration is the result of expectations not being met, when you start dropping your expectations I suspect your frustrations will abate with them. I would recommend you read the two threads Identifying Obstacles to Progress and the companion thread Identifying Facilitators to Progress.

You are correct about there being a learning curve associated with Aneros use and prostate play. Early sensations are subtle and require you to learn to tune into your body in a way you may have never done before. Be patient and don't expect anything but acknowledge each small sensation with thanks and mentally encourage your body to expand upon those sensations. Given time your body will respond to this expression of intent and the sensations will grow in intensity in subsequent sessions until they reach orgasmic levels.

Has anyone had anyone had any experience using the Njoy Wand and if so, how does the sensation compare to your Aneros when used properly?

Yes, I own and use the njoy Pure Wand for prostate milking and it is an excellent tool for that purpose as well as general anal massage. The main drawback with it is it does require manual manipulation which can be a deterrent to the relaxation level needed to experience prostate based orgasms. However, if you can instruct your partner to be the one manipulating it you could be in for some very enjoyable sessions.

Lastly, can anyone comment on how you use your Aneros with your partner? My girlfriend is pretty upset that it seems there is nothing for her to do. We tried leaving it in during sex, but it didn't feel like I was getting much pleasure from it.

Have your partner read The P-Spot Blowjob: Blowing His Mind!. Once you have become sufficiently experienced with prostate stimulation using your Aneros solo you should be able to easily have enhanced intercourse and oral sex with your partner, it is really a matter of getting yourself attuned to these new prostate based sensations, again you need to be patient for your rewiring to become evident.
Good Vibes to You !

@Pnewby We used it for nearly one Year now. She can give you a blowjob or just edge you while just slightly push or pull (and pulse) it forward on your Prostate and then live it in for intercourse. She can use vibrations on it if you wish(with a wand for ex).( My husband don’t like electric vibrations). You can just squeeze a little extra and enjoy. You will have much more fun, stronger orgasms moore cum. It is also really nice if she gives you a good lingam massage with it in and of course with a Happy Ending. Have fun and enjoy!

The stubborn wife

Thanks to both of you for your suggestions. I had my girlfriend read this entire post and look forward to hearing from anyone else who can further elaborate on what has worked for them. I must say, this type of play is new for both of us, highly pleasurable, and we eager to continue exploring each other in this manner. I look forward to hearing input from anyone else who might have suggestions.

I have both the Njoy Pure Wand and the Helix Syn. I have used both, solo and with a partner. With a partner, for simplicity and quick reliable gratification, the Njoy is pretty good and also has the advantage of being used by either sex. The Helix Syn is a much more subtle toy. The best comparison that I can make is the Njoy is like listening to music with a heavy beat, easy to get into the beat and move, regardless of what else is going on... The Helix Syn on the other hand is, at first like learning to listen to a delicate piece of music, you need to listen closely and patiently...

I wish using the Syn was as easy as putting it in and voila, it performs but that wasn't my experience. I found that spending quiet time with it, putting it in and letting your body decide what to do with it was what worked for me. It takes some time to get used to but, as many here will tell you, it's well worth the investment in time. It awakens your prostate in a very different way, for me, it's almost like my prostate became self aware of itself. Once that process happened, I found that I can take the knowledge of my body, that I learned from using my Helix and turn those feelings on whenever I wish, even without a device (what some call Aless). It will add a whole new dimension to your sexuality and sex life. As much as, right now, you are wanting to use it with a partner, you may even surprise yourself and find that you will treasure your solo time with the Helix.

I would suggest looking around the forum just to get a general idea of how others use their Aneros toys and then embark on your own journey of self discovery. When done right, your new toy will teach you to listen to your body in a whole new way, it will awaken sensations that you didn't realize existed.

I wish you all the pleasure you can find from your new toy, and that for a while you suspend all expectations and just "go with the flow"

Peace To You and Your Partner...

@Vain I think your analogy between the Njoy and Aneros is spot on. My girlfriend doesn't want me to use either product without her participation so I don't know if the Aneros will be a good toy for us to use together. Can you say exactly how you used your Helix with your partner once it worked for you? She's not really in favor of me using it without her.

I don't know how well what works for me, would work for you, since my prostate is used to the subtle movements with the Helix. When using it with my partner, once the Helix is in, I relax for a bit, so that I can sort of feel the Helix gently touching my prostate. Then while my partner is going down on me, she slowly plays with the little tail so that the Helix moves inside me...But more often than not, while she is sucking me, certain things I do cause the Helix to move inside me, sort of autofucking me... things like, I clench my sphincter and when I release it, the Helix moves on its own. We are all different but for me, when I am having sex (blowjob, intercourse), when I move, the Helix moves, almost like I am being penetrated while I penetrate my partner... I guess it's easier to visualize if you picture doggy style, while you thrust in, your ass moves, sphincter tightens up, moving the Helix inside you...

I'm hoping there are others here that could chime in and share with you how they use their Aneros toys with their partners. Since my initial reason for using my Aneros was for self exploration and self discovery (which it still primarily is), it was a slow (intentionally slow) learning process... Even now, I sometimes have times where I go to play with my toy and my body doesn't seem to respond to it, so I just take it out and try again another day... I am fairly sure that if my first experiences with the Helix was with a partner and my previous anal experiences were with Njoy, I probably would have come on here with the same concerns as you have... Using the Aneros toys (solo) has taught me how to listen to my body, how to slow down, enjoy delicate sensations and that, in turn, has translated into heightened sensations when I am with my partner... When I first bought my Aneros, I honestly thought I was buying a sex toy. I haven't thought of it as a sex toy in a long time. It's more of a meditation device for me, granted one that gives me pleasure but I don't connect it with sex, masturbation or anything like that. When I use it solo, it gives me focus, calm, sometimes even an "out of body" experience.

Since your girlfriend bought you the Helix, I would encourage her to look around the forum, read the Wiki, maybe even ask questions as you have. In that way she might understand how you using it solo isn't doing something behind her back but rather doing something that would eventually compliment your lovemaking...