Correlation between prostate pleasure/sensitivity and Abstaining

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With strict Aneros sessions, orgasm without ejaculation, I've experienced very little downtime between sessions or loss of libido.

If however I have climaxed to ejaculation, I typically loose 24 hours of libido and satisfactory aneros sessions. I can't explain why, but sometimes this loose period has lasted 72 hours (arghh!).

Two keys I've found to prevent ejaculation: exhaust yourself with Super-Os, and avoid contiunous erotica. I use some erotica for warmup, but then shut it all off and focus on the aneros Os.

Good luck, enjoy.

Ok, I am experienced user and overtime this has changed but currently, If I go to long without masturbation with a traditional orgasm my Aneros session get weaker and weaker.

Once per week is usually enough to recharge my Aneros Sessions.

@bsmith14 what do you mean, I don't understand your response? Are you saying if you go too long without an aneros session it's ends up being weaker?

If I don't have traditional wet orgasms my aneros sessions get weaker over time. As soon as I have a wet orgasm my aneros sessions go back to being very intense. I have found that a once a week wet orgasms keeps things in check

I see @bsmith14, that is very unusual? This is the first I've heard of anyone experiencing this? Anyone else notice or experience that?

Other than doing the 21 day challenge I do not abstain from masturbation. I do find myself horny for my Aneros which usually leads to a wet ending. I have also found that I can super O 5 to 10 minutes after a super T. I would have to say I find no correlation in abstaining and my Aneros pleasure.

Seems to me that there is a bit of a dichotomy going on here!

On the one hand is the argument that there really is no link between horniness for conventional sex and horniness for Aneros activity. On the other hand, there are those that say that in order to have a successful Aneros session one should ideally be aroused for conventional sex.

I have to admit to being one of those who suffers a prolonged and serious refractory period following ejaculation, (possibly due to my advanced years), and that for at least a day following, my motivation for Aneros activity is not as strong.

For this reason alone, I tend to go for ejaculation much less these days, preferring instead to enjoy the pleasures of sex without ejaculation but looking to achieve orgasm in any other way.

This is an interesting and, (to my mind), important discussion. Would be interested in others' views.

There is bound to exist different patterns of arousal, strength of individual libido, tendency toward a shorter, or longer, refractory period...just to name a few...based on each of our ages, physical health, and what are our "turn ons"!

One consistent variable that contributes to a high quality Aneros session is how well rested I am before the session. Other factors include stress,..which I've gotten better at managing by using Aneros as a reward for tackling important tasks, which works incredibly well for me!

In my early Aneros sessions, where my rewiring was still very much in progress, abstaining from an ejaculation was helpful! Now, I split the number nearly in half, with some sessions ending with an ejaculation, but most ending with MMO's and Super O's!

I'm currently in my own phase of nipple discovery and exploration...having a hoot of a time! I didn't do nearly as much with my nipples early on, as I am now! They've gotten so much more sensitive as a result! It's a new level of arousal for me!

So, because of our differences, our responses are likely going to also be different depending on where we are in our journeys.

TG

Speaking of frequency, tried a session or two again recently, wasn't nearly as good. In general in fact, I've noticed my out of session feelings are less as well.

I took some advice of having a normal ejaculation to see if it would then, some days later, re enigize my prostate which normally works, doesn't seem to have had the same effect as before.

My chairgasms have stopped as well. Sad.

Not sure what to think, seems after my greatest session with multiple amazing things happening, better than ever, has left me where I was some months ago. I wonder if I've somehow 'levelled up' and now a new aneros will have different effects as well as new positions....?

I mean I could be speaking too soon, I'm still rewiring and I don't know normal is for me yet, however the last few weeks / months have been my having continuos constant aless sessions when I'm lying down or sitting, really strong ones as well. Now when lie down or sit i get them but they are very subdued.

Does having lots of multiple SO's / dry O's in one session tire out the prostate maybe? I noticed after my session was over I felt totally satisfied and not even a tiny bit Horney or aroused, just 'done' never had that from a session before.

Satisfied is a GOOD thing!

TG

Satisfied is a GOOD thing!

TG

Hah! Of course but you're missing the point a little, it seems to have possibly stunted my journey, i just hope it comes back. Time will tell, but I miss the constant chair and random aless orgasm rushes, where did they go? They have been with me for so long I had adjusted to them as a daily occurrence, I feel so cold without them.

It's normal to have dud sessions, even a period of them. Take a break for a few days and try again. I recently had an entire week of dud sessions that made me think that the Aneros didn't work for me anymore.

You can't force a good session. Either your body cooperates, or it doesn't. Don't let it discourage you.

It's normal to have dud sessions, even a period of them. Take a break for a few days and try again. I recently had an entire week of dud sessions that made me think that the Aneros didn't work for me anymore.

You can't force a good session. Either your body cooperates, or it doesn't. Don't let it discourage you.

100% Agree!

It's normal to have dud sessions, even a period of them. Take a break for a few days and try again. I recently had an entire week of dud sessions that made me think that the Aneros didn't work for me anymore.

You can't force a good session. Either your body cooperates, or it doesn't. Don't let it discourage you.

I don't doubt it, but my sessions since the amazing one i had the other day have not been duds at all., they're just less as nice, like they're toned down by half. A dud session would make sense after such a session but i felt i was having a normal session except the pleasure had the volume turned down.

That coupled with the less sensitive a-less feelings makes me wonder/ponder.

@inhope,I do hope you are not returning to the path of trying to over-analyse everything!

As @Jtokle suggests, take another break for a while and come back fresh in a couple of weeks. After all, the last break you took did no harm so my guess is, you are due for another one.

@Pommie no sir, not returning. Always question. Always. Its how i got this far, not necessarily asking questions but stating what is different from session to session and then working out ways to try out something new. Its why after 10 years i am making progress, just look how far I've come in the last year, its been like a steam train. This is why things have changed.

Pommie, do you remember when you were first rewired having constant chairgasms, daily? and then suddenly they stop and only occur after a big/great session? I feel the energy is lost in my prostate, like it is numbed slightly. Which is cool, i am asking because i want to work out when i have my next session, i don't want to overdo it but at the same time i want to keep the rewiring process going, which is what I feel i am currently loosing.

@justfortonight - This thread is a great example of how much variance there is in people in terms of libido, arousal, and orgasmic availability and intensity after ejaculatory orgasms, and what works for them in their Aneros journey. You'll just have to experiment to see if ejaculatory orgasm abstinence is something that helps you.

It helped me for the reason that because I'm not ejaculating very often, I'm not getting the refractory period, so my arousal and libido stays high. It also makes me focus on learning to experience pleasure and orgasm in a new and different way. So I can do Aneros sessions daily without having too much duds. I find that somewhere in the one to two week time frame of ejaculatory abstinance in conjunction with daily sessions, things start to get very intense.

@Love_is that sounds exactly like me, but i find that a little frustrating? those than can super O every session, even if its the next day. its like for us we have to work up to the awesome feelings over a period of days/weeks. It needs research, proper research, it defies logic.

@inhope - From reading your posts, I see that both you and I are both in the long term grinder category. You have a few years on me though. I'm at seven plus years, I think it will be eight in a few more months.

Now I don't know you enough to know what has held you back in this regard, but I do know myself well enough to hypothesize what has held me back. In part, I would say that my libido has dropped some since I've gotten older, so that has been a challenge. But more importantly, I've had to work through and still work through a lot of negative religious, cultural, and parental training regarding sex and my sexual desires. So much shame and false belief to peel away in that regard. On top of that there is self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and pessimist issues. Lately one of my challenges has been the attempt to quite my mind and keep it focused on my arousal and the sensations I'm feeling from the Aneros. I'll be in the middle of a session, and suddenly I'm thinking about something that happened earlier in the day and my arousal has disappeared. Frustrating to say the least! LOL

I'm ok with there not being any research about this, as this has been a very personal and transforming journey for me. I wouldn't trade these long years of very gradual progress for anything. As this journey has surprisingly been much more than just about my own personal pleasure. There has been so much of discovering myself and personal growth.

For me there were really only two things that were a barrier which changed things:

1. is that i am of smaller stature and because of this larger devices won't work, this includes the MGX as a large device, I'm small so the SGX was better....

2. when i got the peredise, that was when things changed massively. Thinner, smaller, narrower = better

Thats pretty much it, the peredise was what changed the game for me, the second smallest, just enough to make me feel amazing things. Works every time.

From using that i was then able to train with the Eupho, a similar shaped device. None of the others work too well but the SGX and Eupho / peredise really get things going in a good way. (the eupho / peredise especially, the SGX only works when I'm 'warmed up')

I had to question it a lot though and even go against advice here re: the peredise being any good for me, it worked really well.

All the advice i was given was relevant but ONLY relevant when i could feel something, ANYTHING in my prostate which prior to the perdise purchase i could not feel, its what would anger me when i would report back that i could feel nothing from the techniques and devices i used. Now that i feel things those bits of advice are now becoming relevant to my journey.

In regard to arousal i have something new to add, from my own perspective of course.

My last great session was the culmination of several really amazing sessions. See my most recent thread about it (the gist is i found lifting my legs resulted in powerful orgasms that would only end when i returned my feet to the bed...uh amazing) it was actually my best session ever.

After 4 or 5 of these amazing 'leg-lift orgasms' i felt a HUGE drop in arousal, so much so that i just felt indifferent/satisfied.

The thing now is i don't feel aroused at all, several days afterwards as well. This is what i don't understand when others say they haves sessions every day and have super O's every day too.There must be some regeneration period if you have had an exhausting multiple super O session?

I had a session today and realised this, i just wasn't aroused, i was 'excited' and when i used the device i initially got hard/felt aroused but it just lasted a minute or two. I need to differentiate between the following:

1. Horney for ejaculation/sex
2. MMO horny
3. Excited/addicted/desperate to have 'something' or just because I'm bored.

In short: i need to be MMO horney and Horney as f**k. I tested the theory, i looked at doe sexy pics and erotic stories, those that normally get join me within seconds. Didn't even get a semi, just nothing.

@inhope,Whilst I consider myself to be rewired and receive A-less orgasms fairly regularly, I have, to my knowledge, never experienced a chairgasm so I can't relate to that.

This just shows that we are all different and trying to expect what others do is a pretty fruitless pursuit.

Just my two pennorth!

@inhope - Pommie nailed it on the head! While there are some general rules to loosely follow and experiment with in this journey, everyone is so different, be it body geometry, libido, and sexual stimulation preferences. You basically did what we are all supposed to do in this journey and experiment till you find what works for you. That's awesome! Your experience reminds me of another user here who did not follow the no penis stimulation "rule" and found he could have super-O's with light amounts of penile stimulation on his sleeping wife's buttocks during his Aneros session.

I do agree with you, that even though my arousal stays much higher with ejaculation abstinence, there are absolutely some days where I don't feel interested or aroused, or aroused enough. And yes, the difference for me between being aroused for an ejaculatory orgasm and an Aneros session is whether I feel it in my prostate. But some times I have to try an Aneros session regardless with no expectations. Sometimes I am surprised with how pleasurable and intense it feels, other times it's a dud.

Its my third day not feeling a thing in my prostate, just in every day activities after constantly feeling things for months. I miss it.

Sessions are over in seconds as well. So I'm not trying till I'm horny but even there i don't feel it, this is the longest I've felt like this, I'm sure its because of that last session where i had immense O's, it seem to tire my arousal out.

This thread reminds me of when things were good before my Ex became my Ex. There were times when I was excited, she said she just wasn't in the mood, but this was when things were good and we'd go ahead anyway. And there was nothng I could do to get her excited. Dud.

I recall this because our Aneros Os seem to parallel this antedote; sometimes our prostate just isn't in the mood.

I never broke the barrier when she wasn't in the mood; I doubt we'll ever break the Aneros barrier either. But there's always tomorrow. And for me, the journey is really nice even without the Super-O.

Hang in there, @inhope , life is good.

I'm hanging, no worries, I won't ever give up!

I am just lamenting the loss of everyday prostate feelings, I had gotten so used to them.

I thought it would be there forever, I miss it.

I tried using the aneros less than 24 hours after ejaculating and I got this powerful buzz in my prostate that only lasted a few seconds. I've only been able to recreate it once but now I feel noticeable pleasure with each session. I think I'm closing in on something good! I was surprised to see the Aneros work even after ejaculating less than a day prior, since my initial thought was that it worked better if there was more "tension"

Ejaculation effectively burns up the majority of libido, so abstaining naturally builds up arousal over time. For those who are abstaining for the first time, it also places constraints on sexual release — thus the mind can potentially flash crazy thoughts that get you super-charged. That whole erotic nature of wanting what you can't/shouldn't have.