Bi sex and aneros

Yes I have had toys in me while having sex with my wife, blowjobs, etc. It feels great! But, sometimes the pressure on my prostate is so intense I lose my erection because I'm going to have a major prostate-centered orgasm. And, having that toy in doesn't necessarily make my cock want to get hard, or get hard easy. It just kind of happens when it does and when it does we roll with it. She knows that I'm having Os when I'm not hard, and most of the time completely flaccid. But, she can get me hard and then it's a whole other slew of sensations with the toy in.

Do you two still have sex regardless of the Aneros? Or do your ED problems prevent it? Do you get hard when you have a toy in you?

The wife is acceptable to masturbation my me when she's in the mood. No, I don't get erections any more, it's been about a year and a half. Once in a while I get a bit of one early in the morning when I wake up, but it lasts about 15 seconds. The toy makes me want to have a hard on, but I don't get one. Once in a while I can achieve ejaculation with a flaccid member which is about as good as it gets at this point. But I'm trying to accept the Aneros and it's enjoyable on the P spot to a point. I get the tingly feelings in my legs like I'm excited and even today when I used the Aneros for an hour or so looking at sweet young things on the computer I later thought I had to pee, but it was a delayed ejaculation. Strange. I guess at 73 and heart drugs this is what I can expect. I'm still trying to be open though. I'm sort of sorry I missed having sex with the wife while I still could and use the toy at the same time. I really think we would have enjoyed it.

@Dogger Yes we use aneros a lot then we have any kind of sex and it makes it really good. Try to have a session then your wife is with you, I think this is so very aurousing. ( Maybe it will turn her on and when you se her get turned on it makes you more aroused.)
My husband has not had any dry orgasms yet but we work on it.

The stubborn wife.

Loving,
Well, although the wife is accepting of me using the toys, she is not into anal things and I doubt if it would be helpful if I pushed her at it. She's a very old line type sex person. It was hard to get her past the missionary position for years and she doesn't enjoy other positions anyhow. But right now I get very satisfied with giving her orgasms with a vaginal toy. She likes it too, actually last night she had an orgasm and then right after I put my hand on her belly and she had another, but she doesn't want any more, Says she gets too sensitive and I respect her feelings. It was interesting last night too, it was the first time I can remember her approaching me and started kissing. Usually I have to start things. I told her so and she appreciated that.

I sort of don't feel comfortable trying to play with toys myself if she is there and not aroused. Maybe at some point I can approach her with it especially if I can achieve orgasms with the toys. She may be willing to help then since I can't maintain erection.

Thanks though,I can't keep an erection anyhow. I was thinking if I had been into the toys myself years ago, it might have been fun. Like I said the few times I had ejaculation with a toy in, it was very intense, about double the standard ejaculation orgasm. Holy Cow!

Anyhow, I feel a bit like I'm advancing with the anal toys, I'm not having the strange feelings I had before which were not pleasant afterwards.

@Dogger , I'm 10 years younger than you with no heart condition but I do have ED. It had been years since my erection demise and weakening libido. For approximately one year, I was unable to get an erection and this was frustrating. Finally, I attributed this to too much porn and the lack of trying to get an erection. The statement "don't use it, lose it" proved true for me.

I dropped the porn (well almost) and really concentrated on getting an erection. Without the porn, my imagination was revolving around my wife's sexy body and memories of good sex when we were young married. It took several weeks to even get a slim response from my penis. For the last month or so, I'm trying to get an erection (without ejaculation) every day or other day and once a week, I practice light edging.

Thinking back, I actually realized I was neglecting my penis in my hunt for Dry-Os or Super-Os. I don't have those yet but I do have some good boners on occasion and improving. I guess I adjusted my diet of prostate vs. penile and it seems to work. My prostate play has also improved along the way.

Hope you also find a way back to enjoying both sides again.

My erection journey has been somewhat different. I started getting soft in my 60's and some of the pills helped for a while, but I didn't like the side effects and they lost effectiveness so I eventually gave them up. I agree use or loose it is a large factor and my wife was always a reticent sex partner where I was always ready. I had to adjust to her or leave the relationship. I choose to adjust and just did a lot of masturbation. But in the last year I notice I don't even get the morning erection even though I feel like I should have one. My GP told me the heart medicines have a lot to do with ED and it's one or the other. Recently I mostly satisfy myself with pleasuring the wife which is a help. I'm afraid at this point I'm just beyond a satisfactory erection although like I said I can achieve ejaculation with a flaccid penis. But it's not real satisfying and a lot of work. So I'm just going to go on my journey seeing if I can get some more satisfaction from the prostate. We'll see. It's been somewhat encouraging lately.

I guess my initial question was somewhat of a voyeuristic question because I could see enjoying sex more with the prostate manipulation. I'm just sorry I missed it but I did get a few hits with it. It was interesting getting a response from the female perspective, but my wife is not so open about these things and I have to respect that.

Thanks for the responses, all.