Are you sure to be straight?

I like the pleasure that comes from using the Aneros, but I am not attracted to other men. Pretty simple - let's not complicate things. Using the Aneros =/= anal sex.

Straight or gay or in between.....who cares

Hey @TheNovice,

enjoying anal pleasure doesn't imply anything. That seems to be a hard concept to get for several people. By that logic playing with your penis or enjoying a blowjob would make you gay as well. Or enjoying a dildo would make any lesbian straight.

but we are sure that we are real straight or we are gay?

I'm pretty sure about me. BTW, what is "real straight"? Kinsey defined a scale from homosexual to heterosexual and it's absolutely possible to fall somewhere in between the two. Being unsure about your sexual orientation or even your sexual identity is not unusual. We live in times, where it's not dangerous anymore to follow these thoughts and investigate them (at least in the developed countries). If you are unsure about your orientation, you may take a quick test here: http://vistriai.com/kinseyscaletest/

we are straight or gay that don't admit to like anal sex?

Receiving anal sex as a man still has some (huge) stigma on it. Imho, that's the only reason many men lock up and refuse to admit doing it or even to explore that in the first place. Social stigma, cause and effect - simple as that. As we stopped harassing gay men for being gay, they started to show their sexuality openly. The same will happen when the stigma of anal sex vanishes. It just won't be a thing anymore... but I guess it will take some decades before this turns into reality.

Regarding the "we don't admit" part: My very close friends (and partner obsly) know about me doing it (and are super cool with this), but I would not tell strangers at a cocktail party.

Cheers, Unfug

Straight? Gay? Bi? Republican? Democrat? What's in a label, anyway? Are we all not at liberty to change our minds sometimes? Women do it all the time! Come on guys! Sexual pleasure is not defined by our sexual orientation. Likewise, our sexual orientation does not define what our sexual pleasures should be. Straight, gay or bi, we all love Aneros!.

enjoying anal pleasure doesn't imply anything. That seems to be a hard concept to get for several people. By that logic playing with your penis or enjoying a blowjob would make you gay as well. Or enjoying a dildo would make any lesbian straight.

very well put! 🙂

Labels are so over rated.
The bigger question should be, " Was that a Super O, or just a really good P-wave."
If it feels good and does not hurt anybody else than just do it.

@TheNovice. I was hung up on this once upon a time, butt realized why should gay guys be only ones to experience this great pleasure? Then from there not to far to realization, it's my body and I will pleasure it however I want no matter what big society pushes. Too much labeling out there.

Just lay back, relax and let you body let you know who best to pleasure it. If that means it's a toy, a women, or a man who's there. Who cares?

-V

Labels are so over rated.

Straight, gay or bi, we all love Aneros!.

Affirmative!

@Novice, are you?

Never mind! Anal play - even with dildos - can't change anything but it may help you to discover what may be hidden by social pressure.

But don't let people who are misunderstanding sexual orientation as a behaviour frighten you, you could be able to change your attitude towards both sexes using tools like from Aneros or practices like stimulating a certain body part.

Not at all wanting to blame you, @Novice, seeing you as a victim of circumstances, I nevertheless have to say what really makes me sad about your question is the subliminal homophobic message of fear, whether something / someone may make oneself gay. Poor Mankind.

@Tuatra
Using the Aneros =/= anal sex? What else but putting something into your anal canal could be anal sex? :rolleyes: Your formula IMHO should better read anal sex =/= gay sex. Nevertheless I could tell about an admirable penis that was able to hit the same trigger spot as the Aneros tools do.:cool:

"I never did nothin' to a man that I wouldn't do to a woman." 😉
(Sam Diamond, Murder by Death, 1976)

Straight? Gay? Bi? Republican? Democrat?
What's in a label, anyway? Are we all not at liberty to change our minds sometimes? Women do it all the time!
Come on guys! Sexual pleasure is not defined by our sexual orientation. Likewise, our sexual orientation does not define what our sexual pleasures should be.
Straight, gay or bi, we all love Aneros!.

Hey @TheNovice,
enjoying anal pleasure doesn't imply anything.

Affirmative! Nothing to add but this:
We have to accept that even in our allegedly enlightened times there still are some people who misunderstand sexual orientation as a behaviour, one could be able to change using tools like from Aneros or practices like stimulating a certain body part. Perhaps these people if they have been male become female when getting aroused from nipple play? Who knows? Perhaps they should watch out! It may be slippery when wet.

@Tuatra
Using the Aneros =/= anal sex? Sorry, but what else but putting something into your anal canal could be anal sex?
Your formula IMHO should better read anal sex =/= gay sex. Nevertheless I could tell about an admirable penis that was able to hit the same trigger spot as the Aneros tools do.

What makes this discussion quite sad is to see the benefit for mankind coming with the 60's/70's sexual revolution being washed away in our macho decade of Trumps, Putins and Erdogans. As of now the top list number one and two of youth's swear words f. e. in Berlin are "gay"/"fagot" and "victim". If you read the topic's question twice it seems to camouflage the homophobic question: "Will my anal play make me gay - a loser - a victim?" Poor mankind!

"I never did nothin' to a man that I wouldn't do to a woman."
(Sam Diamond, Murder by Death, 1976)