Any other aneros users having these cravings

Hey @Fastone1123 ,

welcome to the forum!

I did not have these cravings before anerosing and now im desperate to try it. Has anyone else have had similiar experiences?

It wouldn't say that this is common, but it's not uncommon either. I like to imagine "the real thing" too, from time to time. Unfortunately I find the men attached to the penises absolutely repellent. I would like to try it, but imagining sleeping with men makes me cringe regardless how the kind or attractive they are.

Also how good are orgasms being a bottom compared to the orgasms with an aneros? Is the orgasm experienced by a bottom more intense than orgasm with the helix?

That's up to you alone - arousal generally has no limits and in the end it's your brain doing the heavy lifting not what's in your butt. Being a bottom has a strong mental dimension and if it's your personal kink, than it may be suited to carry you to the highest heights. I personally had a few of my strongest and mind-bending orgasms exploiting the bottom/surrender mindset.

Cheers, Unfug

It is a good question to ask. The Aneros and frankly prostate play are opening very intense sensations for you. This could drive you into a frenzy of trying to experience more and more, afraid you are missing out on something. Without trying to lecture i would strongly recommend you take a step nack and use reason in this moment. You and your wife will ultimately make your own choice and she is probably wrestling with the desire to please you, fear if she says no that you would hold some subconscious grudge that she is in your way. She also may see a curiosity in the opportunity of the pleasure she may experience in this, but also the real fear that this will damage your marriage, her self worth, her inability to fulfill your desire/compulsion, and perhaps not only your sexual identity but the risk of losing your heart and emotion to someone else, even another man.
factor in all this plus the real risk of STD's that some condoms wont even protect you from and now she may feel all if this pressure now resides on her shoulders, and if the worst case scenario comes from all of this she will have nobody to blame but herself.
i would say what you are describing is a compulsion and it has its snares in you. Sometimes a voice of reason is necessary here because i havw known couples who have done this what you are saying and both ended up separated for almost a year each and by some miracle both so far have come back together and are teying to make it work. You can easily get all the pleasure your mind and body can drink in, and it may feel like a communing with the Divine. But whem you come back down, the danger you may also face is the emptiness and meaninglessness of everything when pleasure hasnt brought you fulfillment. Oscar Wilde spoke of this, the world's most renowned hedonist. He went to the grave early with a profound sense of regret. Just because a needle with a drug in it may bring you the greatest euphoric experience of your life, it does not mean it will bring health wealth or happiness. I hope you will think of this fantastical compulsion in the same manner. Your relationship with your wife is worth that consideration.

Have you considered a strap on for your wife?

If your wife is willing, and that is a very big IF, try her using a dildo on you, then if still good, try it with a harness "pegging" you. That will give you the physical sensations, while being faithful and safe in your marriage.

Thank you yankeecowboy for the very insightful advice. Glad there are people out there who truly have other peoples best interest in mind.
We have definitely talked about this thoroughly and discussed how this might affect our relationship.
My wife is very sexual and actually gets aroused with seeing me receiving pleasure. She actually set up a 3some so she could watch me having sex for her pleasure, and i was the one that was more worried about how this would affect our relationship lol. So my main concern is keeping our relationship safe and if there was any issue of compromising it , it would be off the table. We would only consider it if she was truly turned on by it and if only she wanted it for her and for her to enjoy watching me having sex with another man. So thats where we are at in the process. The 3 some we had in the past worked out very well for our relationship, so we are just openly discussing this new situation.

Recently my wife has been pegging me and it has caused extreme pleasurable orgasms and she is turned on by the idea of watching a guy do that to me.
So i could only imagine a mans cock would feel amazing.

Has anyone been through a similiar situation where a straight male started prostate play then pursued sex with a man, and how was the experience to you?

Im happy that you and she have been able to navigate the emotional hurdles so far. My only other warning i suppose remains that of STD clearance. If you pick somebody i would highly recomme d that they come with papers of clean bill of health. HSV AND HPV have been spreading quickly and it is not prevented by condoms. Furthermore there was a study done on the osmolality of most water based lubricants and they caused epithelial layer destruction of the rectal lining, which increased the risk of viral transferance. So just a heads up in that dept. If you procees to move forward. Try to decrease the uncertainty as much as possible.

Yes that is always the concern. Safety is definitely paramount, im a medical provider so i know the risk is real. Definitely not into a onetime hookup with a random person. Would like to meet someone and know them for some time to make sure the chemistry and maybe friendship is there. But how to do that is always the challenge. Always hard looking for the safest scenario

If you are heterosexual, this may sound good in a fantasy but the reality will be starkly different.

Being bisexual since puberty and having talked to some bi-curious guys I only can recommend to take it slow. If you have chosen your male partner, I first would only give some petting a try. Only if you really feel comfortable with it and really get aroused by his touches and strokes I would go any further. Otherwise it might leave a nasty taste and you both may blame it to the better half. To me it's alway overwhelming to feel the power of a manly body so close, skin to skin. And to your wife it may show how a man would caress another man like we men love to learn from lesbian lovers how to treat a woman the right way. Under these premises go for it and have fun! It can be an enlightement as far as your mind is open for it.

Ya i get that it would take a while to get comfortable having sex with a guy for the first time, but its the cravings for men that has developed since using the aneros has become so intense. even the cravings for oral and even kissing has become strong as well. Just seems like since having prostate orgasms has opened my sexuality up so much more and i seem open to almost anything.
Just curious if other heterosexual users have had these cravings for men as well, to the point where its almost an obession

My question is over the last 6 months i have been having intense cravings and desire to have sex with a man. ...I did not have these cravings before anerosing and now im desperate to try it. Has anyone else have had similiar experiences? Thoughts?

Over the past 10 years that I have been a member of this forum, there have been a number of reports from various members about shifts in their thinking about their own sexuality. The Aneros journey is primarily a mental journey of learning, not only about one's own body but also about one's mind/psyche. The Aneros WIKI - Health Issues section references some of the potential issues a man may face as a consequence of his continued practice (please see Your Psyche). The very practice of anal penetration and prostate massage is a major taboo breakthrough for many men and may open their minds to a much larger range of behavioral patterns which they may have previously sub-consciously repressed. Previous strictly heterosexual men may discover their bisexual nature emerge from this mental opening. You may be one of those men or it may just be the unleashing of a temporary fantasy.

Sooo... in response to your question "Has anyone else had similiar experiences?", YES, they have, so you are not alone in that respect, but I agree with @yankeecowboy 's wise advice to proceed with real caution and not allow a fantasy to damage your reality.
Good Vibes to You !

Don't buy this at all. If you are having these feelings, they were already there, and have just recently surfaced. There is no reason to believe that aneros use would cause these cravings. The prostate is an organ, y would stimulating it cause you to have homosexual desires? Been using the aneros for years and years. Never have I desired for a man to enter me.

Word of advice, if you love your wife, don't go any further down this path. If you decide you want to continue down this path, do her a favor and get a divorce, unless she's open to her husband sleeping around on her. Not at all fair for you to explore the "real thing" to see if you want it while still committed to her. That's extremely selfish.

Orgasms as a gay bottom with a mans penis are going to be the same as a straight bottom with a female's strapon. Its about the person you are with, 'Oxytocin' and all that. if you arent gay or cant detach yourself enough from the event its probably going to be unpleasant.

Now to address something I feel is important:

Don't buy this at all. If you are having these feelings, they were already there, and have just recently surfaced. There is no reason to believe that aneros use would cause these cravings. The prostate is an organ, y would stimulating it cause you to have homosexual desires? Been using the aneros for years and years. Never have I desired for a man to enter me.

Word of advice, if you love your wife, don't go any further down this path. If you decide you want to continue down this path, do her a favor and get a divorce, unless she's open to her husband sleeping around on her. Not at all fair for you to explore the "real thing" to see if you want it while still committed to her. That's extremely selfish.

Please dont listen to this person. @Fastone1123

Its pretty normal to want to get topped if you like your butt played with. You're just taking some bullshit societal influence / stereotype and letting it cloud your thoughts. You have fantasies of being topped by a guy because you like the feeling of having your butt played with, and in your mind you are assuming that the desire you have is best filled with a man - most likely due to societal influences / stereotypes.

Being gay means you are romantically interested in members of the same sex. Liking anal has nothing to do with wanting to marry a man. Stay with your wife. Play with your butt. Nothing you've posted leads me to believe you are some secret homosexual and you are completely unaware or whatever the concern is.

To make it simple: If you dont get butterflies in your tummy when a handsome guy says hello to you with a smile you probably are not gay.

Jja2 i think you are misinterpreting what i had said. I never said i would sleep around on her, i said the exact opposite, that we would only do this if we were both 100 percent both into it and if there was any hesitation on either part it would be off the table. Keeping our relationship strong is paramount we just happen to be a couple that likes to explore sex in a safe manner.
I never implied the aneros would turn someone gay and and there is nothing to buy here as u stated. I am simply explaining my feelings and dont expect you to feel that way.
Your stereotype of heterosexua malel who wants to experiment with other men is simply that, a stereotype.
I never questioned my sexuality as a hetersexual male, and am not confused one bit about my orientation.
If both husband and wife agree on expanding their sexual pleasure , it may not be for you but maybe you shouldnt judge other people.

My initial question wasnt to get your approval but rather to ask others if they had similiar situations and new found feelings.

Wondering if it is similiar to hetereosexual women who are married but still enjoy having sex with women. It seems that is more common and more socially acceptable, while if it were men doing this that the thinking is they must be gay.

[...]You're just taking some bullshit societal influence / stereotype and letting it cloud your thoughts. [...] - most likely due to societal influences / stereotypes. [...] Being gay means you are romantically interested in members of the same sex. [...] To make it simple: If you dont get butterflies in your tummy when a handsome guy says hello to you with a smile you probably are not gay.

Sorry, @aneros_user92741, but aren't you yourself dealing with stereotypes and thus helping paving the way for some of that same "..." societal influence?

The definition of homosexuality and being gay I first put aside, when I finally made it to visit a gay sauna. Since then I met some very kind guys with which it was an awesome experience to exchange some sexual caress donating each other intense pleasures. Nevertheless I have no craving at all to marry any of these men, and there aren't any butterflies either, I only love them for being a buddy at hand for the time being and it's even okay to meet them again to have some more pleasureful sex again, but that's it.

So sad, sometimes I feel as if we were back in the 50s again. Where has all the success of the sexual revolution of the 60s and 70s gone?

Wondering if it is similiar to hetereosexual women who are married but still enjoy having sex with women. It seems that is more common and more socially acceptable, while if it were men doing this that the thinking is they must be gay.

You're so right, @Fastone1123. This funny discrepency also is due to some hardwired stereotypes. With reference to both gender's ancient roles, it's fully okay, that the receivers of the seed play with each other, because it belongs to the manly overbearing imagination that the MAN nevertheless will get both pregnant. But if the providers of the seed waste it, playing with each other, mankind may be in danger of instinction. Okay, with 7 billions of copies this might not be the central issue any more. But sadly only a few have already become aware of these circumstances. 😉 Sorry for this little bit of sarcasm. Never mind!

The bottom line here is a very personal decision that you and your wife need to make. It sounds to me like you and she share a wonderful sexual honesty in your relationship; you should be proud of that. It seems that you love and respect each other enough to make a decision regarding your desire to have sex with a man that will be honest and appropriate for your relationship. You both know the risks and the elements that could make it a positive experience for both of you. Now you just need to talk it out, and be able to live with the decision you make. By the way, I noticed that no one has really addressed your question about the quality of orgasms as a bottom vs. using the Aneros. As a gay man who is primarily a bottom (and in a monogamous relationship for many years), I have to say it isn't really a question of which is better; they're just different. There are so many variables here, just as there are in different sexual activities, that there is no easy answer. In any case, I wish you both the best; you sound like wonderful people!

You're so right, @Fastone1123. This funny discrepency also is due to some hardwired stereotypes. With reference to both gender's ancient roles, it's fully okay, that the receivers of the seed play with each other, because it belongs to the manly overbearing imagination that the MAN nevertheless will get both pregnant. But if the providers of the seed waste it, playing with each other, mankind may be in danger of instinction. Okay, with 7 billions of copies this might not be the central issue any more. But sadly only a few have already become aware of these circumstances. 😉 Sorry for this little bit of sarcasm. Never mind!

So being a straight male, how did you become interested in having sex with men? Was it just curiosity are did you also have cravings to experience it. How pleasurable was the experience and is it something you continue to do as well as being with women?

Thanks for the great advice jb1057. It is something we are discussing. She wants me to do this because she really enjoys the idea of me receiving pleasure from either a man or a woman. So im just taking this very slowly because i want to make sure she really is ok with this. Just a little nervous since never been with a guy before but i know it will be pleasurable because the cravings are very intense. I have used dildos and have experienced similiar orgasms than i do with the helix. Use it almost like a plug with some gentle rocking and in and out motions and the orgasms hit hard. I can only imagine that a real warm soft cock would feel better than a dildo. I think the key is to find someone patient and someone im comfortable with. If im aroused with the guy, im sure the sex will be amazing

So being a straight male, how did you become interested in having sex with men? Was it just curiosity are did you also have cravings to experience it. How pleasurable was the experience and is it something you continue to do as well as being with women?

@Fastone1123, I wouldn't define myself as a straight male, though I mostly live my life as a predominantly straight man. Suffering from my better half's certain asexuality I nevertheless won't complain or want to end or change our longtime relationship, cause to me our love means much more than sex. But there have been and there will be escapades to fulfill even the other desires.

To be able to follow my thoughts, you first must accept that I distinguish between love and sex. Love in these terms to me means a dedication to my partner for a longtime relationship and not loving someone for doing me a favour. Without the second kind of love I can't have fulfilling sex with anyone, the chemistry must be right, but nevertheless I won't take it any further than perhaps a kind of f'ck-buddy thing.

Referring to my youth I would say, besides in teenage years, when there has been some craving for another schoolboy, I never did fall for any other guy again. Today I call it an episode. In later school days the boys of my class were into playing tag on the schoolyard between the periods. But compared with the usual chasey there has been one thing special: It didn't suffice to tap the fugitive's shoulder, the goal was to grab his balls. As you can imagine, I loved this play, and the neighbour at my schooldesk and me were continuing the grabbing even during lessons, with my member at least half-erect most of the time.

No more wonder how I became open minded for some sexual playing with my own gender. Another thing I remember was riding my bike to and from school was mostly accompanied by using the saddle for some perineum massage, giving me a boner all the way. While editing my posting some long selfmade cushions, nowadays made in a curved form for pregnancy purposes, came into my mind, I rode like on hobbyhorses, giving myself another more gentle kind of perineum massage. Furthermore, in those teenage years, my vivid curiosity already had led me to try mother's vibrator anally. And i liked it. At the same time I had deep cravings for some school girls, getting butterflies in my tummy, when fallen in love and carrying on with some of them. Looking back I don't have a clue how I dealed with finding time for doing all my homework.

May be all this made me having hots for both genders, whether it afterwards never was predicted by a person's sex, whom I would find sexually attractive or could imagine to have sex with. "Later" (as a child of the 60's, haha!) the upcoming internet and some AOL chatrooms emerged the straightforwardness of escapades with my own gender. And, of course, those chats furthered my curiosity even more.

How pleasurable these experiences have been so far, mostly depended on the chemistry between the partner and me and on the respective circumstances. For example I met an asian massagist with an adorable athletic body at a gay sauna. The chemistry felt perfect and we had an awesome one-night stand, none of us thinking about any continuation.

Some month later we coincidentally met again and, too, had gorgeous sex again. Talking about his profession I asked for an appointment for a thai massage. After one hour of blissful relaxation, letting go and abandoning myself to his masterful massage technique, me all the time naked with my member from time to time fully erect, while he only was wearing a thong and professionally staying flaccid, he dropped this last piece of cloth and layed down on me for cuddling and kissing. This led to being laid by him once again, a second time the same night after moving into his bed, and even a third time in the morning. Though the chemistry was provably perfect, we shed with kissing but made no further appointments. In the following we had a few dates a year.

How extraordinary pleasurable especially these experiences have been, you might imagine, if you'd manage to visualize being pounded by a guy who is giving you head at the same time, while you caress his sixpack and comb his neck. It felt unbelievable! Now he has found his true love and I'd sadly had to search for another appropriate masseur and "stallion" if not abandoning the scene and some of such contacts for about the last five years or so may have helped me to find my new path of prostate awareness and consciousness. Perhaps I once will take the chance to ask him whether this also made his true love possible?

Becoming older, now guys in a desirable shape and about my age are not as easy to find as before. But every now and then I at least will take a chance.

Hope, @Fastone1123, you don't feel overtexted, but this still has been only a glimpse at my sexlife. Hope I didn't bore stiff all the other guys here either. Good luck, good vibes and good night!

Nothing currently but had an awesome experience about junior high age. One of my friends invited me over to spend the night. Not sure what his previous experience was with sexual escapades but that first night was a fun learning experience for me. Initially we just masturbated each other but eventually ended up doing anal intercource. First we did it doggy style - after putting Vaseline on the anus and penis we did each other several times. Eventually we sat up and did it lap style while again masturbating each other. The feelings were intense as we would squeeze the sphincter on the penis which would cause an awesome feeling. After several hours we were exhausted and went to sleep. No kissing was involved and no oral although wanted to but he didn't. We did this routine on several different occasions and enjoyed it every time. Nothing since then, totally straight and no desire to at this point - it might work but would need to be the right
person.

@Fastone1123, I wouldn't define myself as a straight male, though I mostly live my life as a predominantly straight man. Suffering from my better half's certain asexuality I nevertheless won't complain or want to end or change our longtime relationship, cause to me our love means much more than sex. But there have been and there will be escapades to fulfill even the other desires.

To be able to follow my thoughts, you first must accept that I distinguish between love and sex. Love in these terms to me means a dedication to my partner for a longtime relationship and not loving someone for doing me a favour. Without the second kind of love I can't have fulfilling sex with anyone, the chemistry must be right, but nevertheless I won't take it any further than perhaps a kind of f'ck-buddy thing.

Referring to my youth I would say, besides in teenage years, when there has been some craving for another schoolboy, I never did fall for any other guy again. Today I call it an episode. In later school days the boys of my class were into playing tag on the schoolyard between the periods. But compared with the usual chasey there has been one thing special: It didn't suffice to tap the fugitive's shoulder, the goal was to grab his balls. As you can imagine, I loved this play, and the neighbour at my schooldesk and me were continuing the grabbing even during lessons, with my member at least half-erect most of the time.

No more wonder how I became open minded for some sexual playing with my own gender. Another thing I remember was riding my bike to and from school was mostly accompanied by using the saddle for some perineum massage, giving me a boner all the way. While editing my posting some long selfmade cushions, nowadays made in a curved form for pregnancy purposes, came into my mind, I rode like on hobbyhorses, giving myself another more gentle kind of perineum massage. Furthermore, in those teenage years, my vivid curiosity already had led me to try mother's vibrator anally. And i liked it. At the same time I had deep cravings for some school girls, getting butterflies in my tummy, when fallen in love and carrying on with some of them. Looking back I don't have a clue how I dealed with finding time for doing all my homework.

May be all this made me having hots for both genders, whether it afterwards never was predicted by a person's sex, whom I would find sexually attractive or could imagine to have sex with. "Later" (as a child of the 60's, haha!) the upcoming internet and some AOL chatrooms emerged the straightforwardness of escapades with my own gender. And, of course, those chats furthered my curiosity even more.

How pleasurable these experiences have been so far, mostly depended on the chemistry between the partner and me and on the respective circumstances. For example I met an asian massagist with an adorable athletic body at a gay sauna. The chemistry felt perfect and we had an awesome one-night stand, none of us thinking about any continuation.

Some month later we coincidentally met again and, too, had gorgeous sex again. Talking about his profession I asked for an appointment for a thai massage. After one hour of blissful relaxation, letting go and abandoning myself to his masterful massage technique, me all the time naked with my member from time to time fully erect, while he only was wearing a thong and professionally staying flaccid, he dropped this last piece of cloth and layed down on me for cuddling and kissing. This led to being laid by him once again, a second time the same night after moving into his bed, and even a third time in the morning. Though the chemistry was provably perfect, we shed with kissing but made no further appointments. In the following we had a few dates a year.

How extraordinary pleasurable especially these experiences have been, you might imagine, if you'd manage to visualize being pounded by a guy who is giving you head at the same time, while you caress his sixpack and comb his neck. It felt unbelievable! Now he has found his true love and I'd sadly had to search for another appropriate masseur and "stallion" if not abandoning the scene and some of such contacts for about the last five years or so may have helped me to find my new path of prostate awareness and consciousness. Perhaps I once will take the chance to ask him whether this also made his true love possible?

Becoming older, now guys in a desirable shape and about my age are not as easy to find as before. But every now and then I at least will take a chance.

Hope, @Fastone1123, you don't feel overtexted, but this still has been only a glimpse at my sexlife. Hope I didn't bore stiff all the other guys here either. Good luck, good vibes and good night!

So as a male who enjoys sex with both men and women, do you experience intense prostate orgasms from a mans cock or is it just the penetration that you enjoy.
how many sexual encounters did it take before you experienced extreme pleasure from prostate orgasms. I have an intense desire to have sex with a man and i feel that even the first encounter would be extremely arousing, but have yet to find a suitable man since unsure how to find someone to experiencd this with

@Fastone1123, enjoying sex with men always has been a holistic experience to me. Especially all experiences with anal penetration by a guy happened before using Aneros tools and before rewiring took place. I before even had had no clue that there could be something like a prostate orgasm.

Looking back I'd say prostate orgasms made a major contribution even to my defloration, but in those days and until the last experience so far, it always has been the entirety of the impressions what made the joy so fulfilling. From the inner fighting against my resistance to give way to the really big mushroom shaped glans of my former f'ck buddy to the filling sensation in my anal canal to the intimate closeness and testosterone filled air between two muscular, sweating bodies and their sexual energy to the ferocity in his eyes when going wild coming close to the edge, his kisses, his touches, his wild pounding, the intense moaning and breathing, my own clenching, feeling his ass, his muscles, combing his neck, our tongues fighting in lust, his far away look when he is cumming, the cuddling afterwards.

Finding a suitable man might become your greatest challenge. You wouldn't believe how many men aren't able to give even themselves a good handjob, because they only learned the mechanic but nothing else evermore.

At least talk about your desires and ask him out about his skills to fulfill them.

Most of all, have fun and don't take it too seriously. You don't ride a bike on first attempt either.

So, good luck with your choice and best vibes!

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Never mind!

@Fastone1123, enjoying sex with men always has been a holistic experience to me. Especially all experiences with anal penetration by a guy happened before using Aneros tools and before rewiring took place. I before even had had no clue that there could be something like a prostate orgasm.

From the inner fighting against my resistance to give way to the really big mushroom shaped glans of my former f'ck buddy to the filling sensation in my anal canal to the intimate closeness and testosterone filled air between two muscular, sweating bodies and their sexual energy to the ferocity in his eyes when going wild coming close to the edge, his kisses, his touches, his wild pounding, the intense moaning and breathing, my own clenching, feeling his ass, his muscles, combing his neck, our tongues fighting in lust, his far away look when he is cumming, the cuddling afterwards.

So, good luck with your choice and best vibes!

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Never mind!

That sounds like the experience im looking for, sounds very erotic. Ya the challenge is finding someone to experience this with who would be a patient partner with someone who has not experienced this before. It sounds amazing and im sure the sex improves and becomes more intense the more the comfort level increases. Not into a random hookup but someone i could experience this and become more comfortable with over time. Do you have any recomendations as to how to find someone im describing.

another question i have for you. Once you experienced sex with a man how did you feel about it afterwards and how did the cravings for sex with men change. Was it a situation where the cravings occured a few times a year or did it become something you craved more often than you expected.
just wondering if having sex with a guy became more addicting and cravings increased the more sexual experiences you had with him

@Fastone1123, indeed it often has been extremely erotic. My best idea in my late twenties was to go and visit a gay sauna. All my fears were washed away by the consensual activities I could watch there. Thus I could cautiously work around to have sex with another guy. First time touching another man's body, his pecs, his butt, his cock, and first time receiving sweet touches there myself while in a nice and clean environment, not in a grubby video cabin or a filthy place elsewhere. It's funny, but solely gay orientated men seemed to be a minority even there. Instead many bi-curious or bisexual men were cruising around for some gay sex, some of them being so shy they had to flee right after they had shot their load. But soon I was able to distinguish, who might have or have not the skills to teach me how pleasureful casual sex with a man really can be.

Since puberty and some erotic chasey at school or wrestling and muscle riding in the playground my craving for sex with my own gender mostly kept on a high level. With my first intercourse only some hindering fears were gone. Out of my social environment the frequency of my sexual experiences stayed on a low level, meaning once every two or three months, sometimes even less often, why I never felt addicted. To me it was like visiting theatre or doing sports, like giving some tingling variety to my everyday life.

Okay, one of the guys was really adorable, he became a long time f*ck buddy and I often would have liked to have someone like him nearby, always at hand for some lustful hours. On the other side this could have caused to lose my interest. Who knows?

Anyhow, if you don't want to kick the idea off, you yourself will have do your first step.
Take care but at least it will widen horizons or will help you to call it an episode. Cheers!