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Wow there is a lot of stuff here. I won't go into detail but I will offer my approach as something that others may want to try. I go through all the foreplay that usually leads up to f u ck ing. Making sure that my cock is hard I lay on my back, with my legs apart. My wife then lays on top of me with her legs together. I slide my erection into her vagina. What follows is heavy eye contact between us and me stroking her back and petting her head. She will ultimately nuzzle her head under my chin and lay quietly as I tell her all kinds of sexy things. She likes to tell me particular fantasies that she loves and she knows turn me on. A common theme is that we are performing on an illuminated bed in a theater in the round and that men and women are watching us and masturbating as they do. They are all in the dark so we can barely see them. I will kiss her head but we cannot kiss on the lips or else I will cum. As we share the fantasies we have and they get more and more lurid and explicit I will start an aless. I tell her when it starts and what I am feeling. She will respond with reassuring urgings, telling me to let it happen etc etc. I will then descend into cascading MMO's as I hold her tightly murmuring lewd and explicit things to her as I succumb to the ecstasy.

When she wants me to cum all she needs to do is kiss me fervently and within 2 minutes I will piss a torrent of semen into her cunt. Often times she will time the kiss to be simultaneous to her own orgasm that she will get from squeezing my erection inside her and pressing her clit down on the top of the base of my cock.

Wow there is a lot of stuff here. I won't go into detail but I will offer my approach as something that others may want to try. I go through all the foreplay that usually leads up to f u ck ing. Making sure that my cock is hard I lay on my back, with my legs apart. My wife then lays on top of me with her legs together. I slide my erection into her vagina. What follows is heavy eye contact between us and me stroking her back and petting her head. She will ultimately nuzzle her head under my chin and lay quietly as I tell her all kinds of sexy things. She likes to tell me particular fantasies that she loves and she knows turn me on. A common theme is that we are performing on an illuminated bed in a theater in the round and that men and women are watching us and masturbating as they do. They are all in the dark so we can barely see them. I will kiss her head but we cannot kiss on the lips or else I will cum. As we share the fantasies we have and they get more and more lurid and explicit I will start an aless. I tell her when it starts and what I am feeling. She will respond with reassuring urgings, telling me to let it happen etc etc. I will then descend into cascading MMO's as I hold her tightly murmuring lewd and explicit things to her as I succumb to the ecstasy.

When she wants me to cum all she needs to do is kiss me fervently and within 2 minutes I will piss a torrent of semen into her cunt. Often times she will time the kiss to be simultaneous to her own orgasm that she will get from squeezing my erection inside her and pressing her clit down on the top of the base of my cock.

What's totally weird is that this morning before reading this, my wife and I did nearly the exact same thing - it just evolved and happened spontaneously. My mindset is different so somehow our lovemaking has changed without my even consciously trying to make things happen differently.

I am also convinced that my aless orgasms that I wake up with in the middle of the night are somehow waking her up and making her horny - I don't think it's just sweat, I'm not really sweating, not moving at all, and she starts tossing and turning and wakes up in the middle of the night horny. It's mindblowing and I cannot explain it.

Here's another thing I'm noticing: I need much less sleep; my eyesight was slightly degrading for reading and it's back to what it was a decade ago; my energy and general well-being is through the proverbial roof; my mood is great; my workouts superb. I am relatively young; but still, this really does feel like the fountain of youth. No kidding.

@gnawdol oh yes, that is the stuff

Hey @Katzy , kudos to you understanding and being aware enough to notice the changes in your wife during your journey with Aneros. Be patient, notice EVERY detail and learn to fully relax during sex and and Aneros-Aless sessions and you will be amazed at what you learn..!
I believe that those of us whose wives may be hesitant about prostate massage will slowly come around with enough patience and exposure to the energy we create and exude during our journeys. I know my wife was hesitant, but she now can see the benefit of extremely powerful orgasms thru nipple stim alone and she is still amazed and learning the process of pleasuring me thru my new found abilities. We are just into our 1.5 year benchmark into my journey and I am continuously discovering new sensations with my wife!!
Keep up the good work!

Hey @Katzy , kudos to you understanding and being aware enough to notice the changes in your wife during your journey with Aneros. Be patient, notice EVERY detail and learn to fully relax during sex and and Aneros-Aless sessions and you will be amazed at what you learn..!
I believe that those of us whose wives may be hesitant about prostate massage will slowly come around with enough patience and exposure to the energy we create and exude during our journeys. I know my wife was hesitant, but she now can see the benefit of extremely powerful orgasms thru nipple stim alone and she is still amazed and learning the process of pleasuring me thru my new found abilities. We are just into our 1.5 year benchmark into my journey and I am continuously discovering new sensations with my wife!!
Keep up the good work!

Thanks 🙂

I believe that my experiences at boarding school have been extremely helpful in this (for me, very recent) journey. Let me explain: for the first few years, rooms were shared. This meant (at least for me) that I needed to give myself release in the most quiet manner possible. Literally it seemed as if it were a matter of life and death if someone were to discover me masturbating. Funny thing is, probably my roommates were doing the exact same thing haha.

Anyway, what that meant was relaxing my entire body (including, as I now know, my PC/prostate) - the reason being, if your body is tense you 1. make much more noise and, 2. you cannot hear whether the other fellow was awake or asleep or whatever.

So being totally - I mean absolutely - relaxed was about being utterly silent and vigilant while giving myself release. It also meant that I discovered through this how to have the most mindblowing orgasms of my life. I literally felt as if I were going to leave planet earth on some nights.

Cast forward to my recent experiences with the aneros: I think those "midnight" experiences of mine trained me to allow orgasm to come to me; and, also, they gave me a sort of awareness - maybe even hyper-vigilance - of my surroundings at the same time, without disturbing my concentration. So paying attention to my wife's state of being - while in the midst of exquisite pleasure - seems to come almost as second nature to me.

This is truly an amazing reality; I cannot tell you (everyone reading this thread really) how glad I am that I have discovered this.

Here's another thing I'm noticing: I need much less sleep; my eyesight was slightly degrading for reading and it's back to what it was a decade ago; my energy and general well-being is through the proverbial roof; my mood is great; my workouts superb. I am relatively young; but still, this really does feel like the fountain of youth. No kidding.

Am I the only one experiencing this^^?

So, I suppose I'm turning this thread into a kind of blog. In case anyone is listening, I know I'm just a newbie but I've discovered something that might help other people.

If you continue to find that you get into a kind of "rut" with the involuntaries just sort of going nowhere and petering out (I've heard people complain about this) - well, this started to happen to me last night. And the reason, I believe was my trying to CONTROL it by focusing on a particular feeling/movement too much.

I found that while one needs to be aware of that mounting pleasure, to focus on it means that you will inevitably begin to start controlling/driving it. Which is what I started to do. So, instead, I maintained an awareness of that mounting pleasure/involuntaries, etc. BUT I also kept my awareness scanning the rest of my body too. And one starts to find all kinds of pleasurable things going on elsewhere that you miss if you hperfocus on, say, your butt/prostate movement.

But you can't hyperfocus on THOSE newfound spots either. Rather, I found that you sort of maintain an awareness of all of those accumulating pleasure centers, WHILE at the same time maintaining a diffuse awareness of your WHOLE body.

And when things subside a bit - don't fight that but relax into it and have zero expectations except: I wonder what "it" will do next? And you will find that all of that will come back with a vengeance.

Anyway, just my 2 cents.

And just to clarify: this^^ isn't really best described as "doing nothing" : maintaining all those levels of awareness and fighting the urge to control/drive and to get into a state of continual relaxed anticipation ("what is going to happen next?") is actually DOING a great deal, but of course in a different way.

I suppose I wonder whether people having problems advancing perhaps think they're just supposed to lie there and relax and focus on the butt? Which I could see being rather counterproductive.

And just to clarify: this isn't really best described as "doing nothing" : maintaining all those levels of awareness and fighting the urge to control/drive and to get into a state of continual relaxed anticipation ("what is going to happen next?") is actually DOING a great deal, but of course in a different way.
I suppose I wonder whether people having problems advancing perhaps think they're just supposed to lie there and relax and focus on the butt? Which I could see being rather counterproductive.

@Katzy , thank you for the reminder/clarification about mental focus, it induced me to add the following paragraph to my "Do Nothing" What does that mean? post.

When I say primary focus is on the pleasure being generated by the body, I am referring to pleasurable sensations being generated anywhere in the body, not just around the genitals. These various sensations are the language/vocabulary of your body communicating with your brain for the mind to interpret. At various times you may feel tingling in your limbs, the sound of blood rushing in your ears, itching on your body, goose bumps, mini-spasms of muscles in your limbs, cold chills & hot flashes, etc. It is being in a state of mindful awareness of the moment, not concerned with the sensations of one minute ago or the possible sensations to come in the next minute but only what is right here, right now. Good Vibes to You !

@Katzy , thank you for the reminder/clarification about mental focus, it induced me to add the following paragraph to my "Do Nothing" What does that mean? post.

When I say primary focus is on the pleasure being generated by the body, I am referring to pleasurable sensations being generated anywhere in the body, not just around the genitals. These various sensations are the language/vocabulary of your body communicating with your brain for the mind to interpret. At various times you may feel tingling in your limbs, the sound of blood rushing in your ears, itching on your body, goose bumps, mini-spasms of muscles in your limbs, cold chills & hot flashes, etc. It is being in a state of mindful awareness of the moment, not concerned with the sensations of one minute ago or the possible sensations to come in the next minute but only what is right here, right now.

Good Vibes to You !

That captures it well! 🙂

A few thoughts I had last night: it's almost as if my prostate is a kind of second heart; it is lightly pumping all the time at whisper level; and when I bring my awareness to that light movement, it moves in all kinds of strange ways: sometimes a kind of mounting thumping; other times, a light fast pulse; and still others, a kind of sensuous dance in a very complex rhythm with a kind of movement that's rather like how a belly dancer moves....and, when I relax and let these movements happen - sometimes they go through cycles - it's always delightful, and sometimes rapturous to the point that I cannot bear it.

But in any case, as the movements develop, it's as if this "second heart" has slowly become a sort of inner fountain that sends pleasure everywhere.

Blows me away.

So, I'm very excited; it's been a little over a month and a half of use/practice and I've made amazing progress. I am finding as I progress that I prefer to go Aneros-less because there's less to get in the way. I still use the Aneros once a week, however, and always learn something during these sessions.

In the last week, however, I've discovered that the benefits in the bedroom of this practice are simply astounding. I have always had decent stamina in terms of refraining from ejaculating, but nothing to write home about. I've read all of these things about practicing edging and so on; I've really never had the time. Well, all of these sessions of mine have created enormous staying power/stamina wrt ejaculation.

Now, I basically can go all night; and I can ejaculate exactly when I want to. My wife thinks I've turned into superman haha 🙂

Okay, so, as I've said I often prefer anero-less sessions. Mainly, there's less "in the way."

However, I still use an aneros about once a week; I always learn something new with the aneros, and it somehow gives my pelvic floor/PC etc. a more thorough workout.

The other problem I run into is a bit embarrassing, lol. When I use the aneros for more than a half hour or so, I find that it starts to move less and less, and then when I take it out I realize that I have had a bowel movement in the interim. I know the area was totally clear prior to insertion; somehow, having this bit of plastic in me causes a bowel movement.

Am I the only one with this problem?

edit: I use Probe as a lubricant specifically because it's supposedly ph neutral wrt your rectum, etc.