Aneros Crossroads

Beshe, taking a break from aneros may be a good idea for several reasons. As you say you'll be giving your body a sense of normalcy, at least the old normal that it's used to. Also you'll have time to think about what this experience means to you objectively. And it may give your wife time to cool off and notice that you can take it or leave it (even though you really crave it). See how your body feels after a week. It may be good for you to reduce the cravings and the physiological effects of aneros.

You must have a high arousal state judging by your sex drive. That seems to spell success with aneros IMO. I can understand your desire to put your wife first for many reasons. She must be satisfied with you already. Perhaps she's scared of the new physical effects going on inside you. Give her some time. How old are you?

By benefits do you mean the health benefits to men's prostate? I think there have been studies. Look at High Island Health website. That's a legitimate reason to use aneros IMO.

Have you and your wife used sex toys together? Perhaps she would enjoy the Evi or a similar toy? I really don't think you need a therapist or that one would help you with this situation but that's up to you. Good luck and keep us informed.

@ Euphemistic - thank you for the feedback. I was worried that taking a break might cause the rewiring to fail permanently. I may wait two weeks to be on the safe side before asking my wife to see how she feels. I'll be traveling for work anyways and should keep my focus on closing these deals.

I'm still waking up in the middle of the night and in the morning to my butt tingling like crazy.


Roughly 30 and somewhat athletic. My sex drive kicked into high gear after using the Aneros. I'm usually a 2-3 times a week sort of guy. We had sex twice on Tuesday, twice on Wednesday (then I masturbated since I couldn't sleep). Went for a long bike ride today to wear myself out and the wife is too tired to have sex today. My wife has valid points, listening to her is by far one of the smartest things I do.


I checked out the High Island Health website. They only reference three medical journals studies that were underwhelming. In fact, one study was about how there was a lack of studies that contained solid empirical data on prostatic massage:


Prostatitis unplugged? Prostatic massage revisited.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10374787?dopt=Abstract
* I'm going to cite the summary verbatim since this is exactly what I'm finding 15 years later. "...Unfortunately, there are almost no prospective data that would substantiate a claim as to its effectiveness... At this time, the science of prostatic massage must rely on anecdotal experiences, small, uncontrolled studies, and perhaps somewhat biased opinions of the major thought leaders in the field of chronic prostatitis/chronic pelvic pain syndrome."


Changes in white blood cell counts in men undergoing thrice-weekly prostatic massage, microbial diagnosis and antimicrobial therapy for genitourinary complaints.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/9523654?dopt=Abstract
* These are results I would be interested but the sample size is limited to 35 patients.


Repetitive prostatic massage therapy for chronic refractory prostatitis: the Philippine experience.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10527258?dopt=Abstract
*"Patients frustrated with failure of traditional therapy for prostatitis have traveled to the Philippines and elsewhere for repetitive prostatic massage combined with antibiotic therapy"

I've been using the Aneros for around a month as well. I became orgasmic after a week, and it started interfering with my life. I was using for 6-8 hours a day, and my prostate was always throbbing, wanting more.

I've now limited myself to 2-3 hours a day. I get home from work at 5am, shower, and then use the Aneros until 7-8am. I'll usually reach a super-o and then finish myself off by hand for a super-t before sleeping. My sleep is interrupted after a few hours by unsolicited pleasure waves, and I'll have to finish myself by hand again.

My sex drive has been through the roof since I started using. I'm masturbating twice a day, and still get really horny with my girlfriend. Sex is way more exciting than it ever was before, and I don't even use the Aneros when I'm with her. My refractory period has been significantly shortened.

I have cut down my use, but it is still affecting my life. The throbbing prostate only lasts for a few hours after use, but I get horny really easily throughout the day. It's worse than when I was a teenager. I get especially horny during the last few hours at work, knowing that I'll soon be able to get home and put a piece of plastic up my bum.

I'm planning on taking a week off from masturbating and using the Aneros. When I do start using again, I'm going to limit myself to 2-3 hours a few times a week. My Eupho Syn will be here today, so I get to test my self-control by waiting to try it.

Anyways, sorry that I can't really help you. I just wanted you to know that you're not alone.

There was a discussion here about why there isn't more research. I remember that there isn't profit in studying a inexpensive device but there is a lot of profit in drug research. High Island Health would be smart to fund research for their products.

Jtokle - Thanks for the feedback. I'd agree that it made my sex better as well and I didn't need it whatsoever during it. If anything it made me feel more in touch with all my sensory nerves. I've always been far more internal and cerebral and it was nice to live on the other side. I felt more alert during the day when those senses weren't being clouded by an overwhelming urge to satisfy my prostate.

Even losing 2-3 hours of your day is a lot and I was running similar to yours. I kept telling myself that I'd get used to it and my desire level would taper off. I'm not sure if I'll ever know now! I wasn't too worried if it didn't, my mind has allowed me to quit things like cigarettes cold turkey.

I worry that nothing comes for free in this life but I'm not going to lie and say I wasn't loving the other side of this spectrum. It's hard taking a step back. I did feel a little irritable and sullen the past couple days. Could've been the fact that I was feeling insatiably horny and my wife and I were worn out from normal sex.

My ass did the same thing, it started throbbing and I picked up pleasure from thinking about the device in there.

Euphemistic - I'd agree with that. I think there would be results in favor of the speculated findings. Cracked me up a little when I told my wife there was research to back it up and then realized it was so scarce. Wish more people would chase the natural way of things.

@Beshe - Why not include her in your Aneros sessions? Perhaps either she could be masturbating at the same time, or if you are capable of stimulating her with your mouth or fingers during the session. I suspect she's feeling left out and feeling like she is less valuable than your Aneros.

I'd also like to suggest that it doesn't have to be a separate need. If she can get past her false beliefs of anal play, the two of you could potentially engage in the act of pegging and enjoy this sensation together. Here's some links to articles that might help you approach her with that idea:

http://pegging101.com/how-to-talk-to-her/

http://pegging101.com/faq/

In general, browse the whole pegging101 web site. There is lots of good information there.

I'd also recommend you check out the pegging thread here:

https://community.aneros.com/forum/discussion/10516/pegging/p1

And the pegging subreddit:

http://www.reddit.com/r/pegging