Advice needed from experienced user

It sounds like you are having good results. I noticed that you didn’t talk about touching your body elsewhere. I would recommend the following to see if it helps take you to the next level. Try touching other parts of your body with your hands very gently and very slowly during your sessions. At first it might not bring you much pleasure, But the more you do it the more pleasure you will get. There are obvious erogenous zones such as nipples and butt cheeks, but there are also many other zones that are very sensual to caress, that aren’t so obvious. For example, knee caps, feet, armpits, ears... there are no limits, let your body be your canvas. Try all sorts of caresses, even using different objects such as brushes, feathers and ice cubes. This is an excellent way to build arousal, and as you do it you might feel your prostate activating, creating feedback loops of pleasure. At first, if you’re not used to caressing your self or being caressed, you may not feel anything or enjoy it at all. However, in my experience and in that of many people that I know and others on this for him, the more you caress yourself, the better it feels. There is a sort of re-wiring that takes place through practice and focus. And again, I can’t stress enough that “slow and gentle” is the mantra here. 

And the other thing I would suggest, would be to stop watching porn during your sessions. Much of prostate play Is deeply psychological and imaginative, and a video playing in the background Is more of a distraction than it is a crutch. For me, videos do not work because my eyes are usually out of commission, either because they are closed or because they’re rolling. I recommend the middle ground of putting on a porn video or a sexy ASMR video, and not watching it but rather listening to it, with good speakers or with headphones. Headphones are key for ASMR videos. This will allow you to concentrate more on the sensations and less on your visual field, while still getting the erotic benefits of the pornography. And stronger than porn in my experience, is imagining sexual situations in incredible detail.

I hope that helps. Incorporating these things into your routine might help you find and maintain that or other “sweet spots” more easily.

Thanks for you advice! I would follow your recommendations and see if i notice any more sensations building up. Another thing i would like you comment is I am losing the build up of pleasure when my anus is contracting by it self. Should be the opposite right? Am i pressing too hard at that time or too little or i have to time my contractions with the involuntaries ?

@valesestate What I think is the key when you start to get involuntary contractions as a beginner is this : do not interfere ! If you try to help it you might lose it, AND if you try to relax you may also lose it. Think of it this way : when you get involuntaries, it's because you are doing everything just right at this exact moment, and your body tells you : "this works, let me take over and do the exact same thing you are doing right now". So really, don't change anything for now, and as you get more experienced you will be able to make the very subtle changes you need. 

Also, congratulations on your progress and keep it up !

Today i had my first successful session without watching any kind of porn. I had some very interesting sensations. My heart-rate got high first time and i felt warm on my prostate, also was like he had his own heartbeat! I also felt two small (3-4 seconds) good energy rushes from the back of my legs towards the prostate ( i guess thats what they call p-waves?). On the negative side i felt no glow on my anus or any involuntary contractions at all. Could you guess why so?

@valesestate Don’t worry if you don’t have the same experience in every session. It is actually important to not expect one session to be like the next. It will be a long time before you can categorize different types of sensations, and even after a lot of experience our bodies can surprise us. Every session you have will be a new adventure, and the more open you are to the unexpected, the better it will be.

Just keep doing what you’re doing, and enjoy the sensations that you feel.  

And I forgot to mention in my original response, but do not hesitate to vocalize. Vocalizations can help a lot, both through letting go, and through the sensation of your body vibrating. Try singing an extended tone, for example, with no toy in. See if you can feel the vibrations in your prostate. Try different frequencies, high and low, falsetto and chest voice...

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Could you guess why so?

Sorry, but of course I can't, @valesestate, because I am not you. Understand your journey to be absolute unique. If you call everything into question daily, your detailed analysis might become your biggest hurdle. Instead your journey could get much more fulfilling, if you don't think about it as "if I'm doing this, it will happen that" than as a continuous trying to improve your awareness and sensitivity. 

For example you can read about experiences here often named "a calm sea of bliss", a state of total tranquility combined with powerful orgasmic feelings spreading through one's whole body. If you hastily label the absence of involuntaries as negative, you thus maybe exclude yourself from one of the most intense orgasms you could be able to achieve.

Your body, mind and subconsciousness are just discovering a fully new world of sensations. Your subconsciousness might hold you back from the unknown, because it evaluates everything new as potentially dangerous. That's the way it has protected your life so far. I even had to soothe myself with mantras like "I will do myself no harm." to convince my subconsciousness to dare to let me go further and finally really let go.

Only my 2 cts here, I only can suggest to take it easy, let things happen and to try to listen carefully - to your body, to your mind, to your subconsciousness and somewhen to your gland. Welcome every new little feeling and try to perceive the pleasure it might give you. Did you ever let your tongue play as carefully as possible with your palate behind your incisors? If you then are feeling a dumb sensation somewhere in your abdomen above your perineum, it might already be the answer from your prostate.

Good vibes and a wonderful journey to you! Keep us posted!

Mart

I will add to the great post @sowithoutaneros made that of all the different "variety" of orgasms you can get, there are some that you will experience many times and others not so. For example, over hundreds of session I only experienced what some people call "autofuck" 3 or 4 times, I'd say it's like an attack of involuntaries and very intense. If I had panicked, tried to control things or believed that they were not "the right kind of orgasm" because they were so different I would have missed those.  So really, if things are different for you from session to session, it is positive and just your mind and body showing different things to you.