A very long time

Hey N,

In my experience ( I don't have much time to type)
just replace all masturbation with anal masturbation and don't cum

@Noredice, maybe it can help you to focus on relaxation first. If your mind is going wild, from my point of view, you have no chance to be open for such subliminal vibes as those from your prostate. I found help in erotic hypnosis, others are fond of relaxation music. If you like to give hypnosis a chance I would recommend Shibby's files at no costs on y*utube or soundgasm.net. If you dare to give it a try, please stick to the order suggested on reddit when listening, because the success of some audios is based on triggers that should have been set by listening to other files before.
Even if this doesn't work for you, I have no doubt, that this community will find a way to help you with taking your hurdles.
Good luck!
P.S. As my first anal experiences go back to using mother's vibrator at the age of 14 your report made me quite curious what your incentive may have been. If you like I would be eagerly interested in exchanging some pm about this. Having seen a 19 y/o aneros user in ecstatic movements on p*rnhub (Link not NSFW!) and being myself in the mid fifties exploring this prostate feelings only since two months now I think we can preclude age as a factor of success. Best vibes!

Hi @Noredice and welcome. I'm going to jump straight in and say that I think that there is a LOT more to Aneros usage than meets the eye.

What you are trying to do is generate sexual feelings/energy in the prostate and use this to cause the nervous system to tip into orgasm. A normal ejaculatory orgasm is a simple local spinal reflex, you don't even need the rest of the nervous system to do that. This is a complex feedback loop involving the plexus of nerves in the pelvis, the enteric nervous system, vagus nerve and numerous parts of the brain, and there is a lot that can go wrong in this loop.
It is interesting that you say you suffer from anxiety. This is a big block to correct functioning of the loop at all levels. Firstly anxiety and emotional memory is thought to reside within the enteric system and alters vagal function, secondly it blocks frontal lobe functioning and puts a layer of excessive thinking and processing in the way of just enjoying yourself (you are constantly thinking about why it's not working and over analysing). I could write forever about this but you probably get the general idea.

Starting at the top (your brain) learning to ignore and quieten your overactive thoughts is a big help - learning to meditate is ideal, learning mindfulness is the same thing, both teach you to ignore the overactive critical ego and free your thoughts. Sexual enjoyment and orgasm is stopped dead when you can't concentrate on it and enjoy it. Nothing stops pleasant sensations better than your mind starting to think 'is this an orgasm?', 'why isn't is as good as everyone says it is', or 'I can't do this', before you know it you are stuck in those thoughts and you don't stand a chance of taking it any further because you have just lost the nice feelings you were just experiencing which started your brain thinking. You have to learn to not think, just enjoy.

The next block is at the level of the nervous system between your head and your pelvis. The nervous system is tied closely to the musculoskeletal system: held anxiety and emotion problems cause tension. Very often after Bowen treatment, and other physical therapies which release myofascial tension, can cause an outpouring of repressed emotion problems often referred to as a healing crisis. I think that these tension can act as a block to sexual feelings. Yoga, stretching and exercise is a good way to release some of this tension. Simply standing and rotating the pelvis around in as wide a circle as possible can do wonders. Of course proper psychotherapy, introspection and doing what you can to make yourself happy helps as well.

The last block is in the pelvis at the prostate and is what people refer to as prostate enarmouring. Prostate massage and correct technique overcomes this. Once you have had a few prostate orgasms the prostate becomes unarmoured and can orgasm easily.

Correcting all of this can help immensely. I will add that this is my personal view and some people may not agree putting all down to technique and relaxation, but as you ahev already found out it's not that simple.

The last block is in the pelvis at the prostate and is what people refer to as prostate enarmouring. Prostate massage and correct technique overcomes this. Once you have had a few prostate orgasms the prostate becomes unarmoured and can orgasm easily.

That's really interesting. Is there any further reading you'd recommend along this general line of thinking?

Thank you so much for your replies and your warm welcome. smudgefish I really am impressed what you just posted, you pretty much described a lot of my problems.

With my personality type, I do overanalyse a lot, mostly from things during the day and I especially find myself doing that when using the toy.

I think that every time I have started feeling something that same thought have entered my mind "is this an orgasm", "is this the first stages", "is it going to progress", or perhaps "is this normal?".

After trying so long, I do feel like I am burdened with constant.. anticipation if you will, and its that same thing that stops it dead. I know that there is more to it than simply stimulating the prostate, your body and mind must be in harmony (I would assume) in order to start getting real results. I would have thought that after 15 years I would have got somewhere.

My anxiety is a problem, its took me a while to realise it, and to even admit that I have it (its my job mainly that causes it).

I know that relaxation is the key, as I have had what could be described as orgasm from anal. I took a day off during the week and I found that I was really relaxed the night before as I knew I didn't have to do anything the next day. In fact I never felt so relaxed and peace of mind in my life. I was masturbating anally with a dildo, and normal masturbating, and doing it in rhythm. After a few minutes I have a full body orgasm that blew me away, but it only lasted a few seconds. I was giddy for about 3 days afterwards. I've never been able to replicate it though. I'm pretty sure it was a blue moon that night.

But when it comes to actually using a prostate massager, I can never seem to relax to that point, I do try, try to clear my mind, try to accept anything that comes along, and as I said it has been improving, albeit, slowly. I try and summon up erotic images in my mind, but I find I have trouble doing that when trying to concentrate on the toy, so it just seems to counteract it. I even tried sleeping with it in a few times as I've heard it can work (I don't think its ever been harder to get to sleep with it inserted though).

I am very open to anal, dildos, massagers, perhaps the real thing one day, and I truly believe I can achieve the goal. I mean if I know that, surely my mind must to do (as strange as that sounds).

@Noredice Relaxation and the do nothing method aren't for everyone. Even the elusive prostate orgasm may not be there for everyone. Something different and what I believe anyone can experience is the ecstasy that your thoughts can generate.

You can make yourself angry by thinking of things that make you mad. You can access great happiness or deep sadness just by listening to a certain song and letting your thoughts focus on the raw emotion . You can also experience incredible ecstasy by leading your mind on a path of pleasure that you define. Turn away from distractions and think of how you feel when you're really turned on. Not what turns you on but HOW you feel. What tingles, remember what your mind and body feel like when you are about to orgasm? Focus on just that feeling. Recreate it in your mind. Lose yourself in it. Breath like you're gonna cum. Never mind an end result, enjoy what you feel right then. Ride out any good feelings. Try to feed the fire. Turn them into feelings of ecstasy. Learn to multiply them and you will be amazed at what you can experience. Add some tactile stimulation and/or the Aneros if it helps, but your mind is what drives this type of experience.

This has worked for me when the Aneros has failed. It's a learned ability, but completely doable, with practice.