A place to discuss achieving Super-O with couples sex?

I finally made love with my girlfriend while having the Helix inside of me (check my posts history for older details.) Once again after insertion and an initial loss of my erection, once she started stripping for me and playing with me the erection made a quick return. Again it was much more stiff than a typical erection; a bit larger and longer due to that. She was totally turned-on and gave me some oral work, and was totally into the stiffness and size increase. So then I wanted to let it settle in for a while and I played with her and got her close to orgasm a few times. And after about 30 minutes or so of foreplay we eventually decided to try intercourse.

I will preface by saying we had not had sex for a week, and I was pretty excited and totally busting to release that night - almost to a "blue balls" state. When I entered her she was like another person. She just rolled her head and eyes back, with a kind of silent gasp of an open mouth. A lot of "Oh my god's.." and such. She was REALLY into it as I slowly thrust into her. The size difference was all she could talk about and I really had never seen her react quite like that - she has always liked when I wear a cock ring and get bigger, and larger-sized vibrators, but this even was different. It was a great show to watch.

But when I started to really pick up the pace I felt the onrush of a quick orgasm, so I had to slow down. BUT during maybe the first three or four thrusts when I was going for it, while pushing inside her and having the Helix push further inside of me, during those thrusts I could kind of feel the Helix pushing against me inside and it felt like it was almost blocking the ejaculation from happening. It was a great feeling while it lasted, but the urge to come overtook that after 3 or 4 thrusts.

I guess if I can learn more butt-clenching exercises and have the Helix tight against my prostate I might experience a dry O by blocking the ejaculation from happening. Is this how it is done? Is this how you get a dry O?

So I think I kind of felt that great rush just before an ejaculation starts, but the Helix was preventing it from physically happening, which was really a cool experience and feeling. I probably have to try this without being so horny too... and practice with her more. Does any of this make sense? Do you think I am on the right path here?

Thanks for any insight here.

Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply, Aneros downunder! Your description of how you and your wife have integrated this into your life together is exactly what I have been imagining and hoping for. We don't have quite as many miles on our road (ages 39/47, married 20yrs) but ED has started to pay a role for us already. The picture you paint of how your wife loves you beautiful. I can only hope that my hubby follows through with rewiring once we are able to get a unit. It's encouraging beyond words to hear that your wife has been involved from the beginning of your journey- not only because HELLO I don't wanna miss that! but also because he has always been very firm on wanting to keep all aspects of his sexuality between us, to the point that he doesn't use any porn and has refrained from maturbating alone for the most part. Knowing him, he may struggle with what he may see as a lack of connection. Your model is something I'll share with him and keep in mind going forward.

(And funny you should mention the inequality with rimming- for us it is the opposite! I'm not comfortable receiving it yet, but the first time I tried it on him was the first time he had a dry O. We had no idea yet what we had found, but I was hooked!)

wow you truly are an open and caring women, im still early on in my sexual exploration only being 22 but I understand the deep meaning behind sexual play and im working towards building myself up towards meeting a women to pass and share my experiences with this gives me hope. I have told a few close lady mates which im very lucky to have in my life and It should help me to bring up my own exploration to a future worthy lady. I currently also do a bit of solo practice of tantra to which im also very lucky to get into at this early age. All the best and feel free to read my blogs and all the best on your husbands journey.