11 years later

I recently shared my desire to explore prostate pleasure with my wife.  She has talked with girlfriends several years back about it, but never talked with me.

I have had the Helix for a number of years and had enjoyed practicing with it from time to time when I had private time.  For a while it was several times a week as I worked out of town and had plenty of time in the evenings.  Lately it had gotten to be almost never as I hadn’t ever shared that desire with her and both of us at home every day made ‘me time’ non existent.

Covid certainly changed a lot of things.  Having more time however for the two of us to have more sex, I decided to buy a new toy for her (one of those insertable vibrator clot suction toys) and also included sone silicone curved butt plugs (small, medium and large) for me.  When the new toys arrived I showed her what I got her, and showed her my new toys as well.  That when she told me she’d heard about it, and was happy for me to explore.

This launched a new ability for me to explore prostate pleasure.  I have enjoyed it for many years with my aneros but never got to incorporate into our sex life together.  The medium curved plug actually hit my pspot just like the Helix but doesn’t have the perineum arm, but I really don’t miss that.

My wife let me explore for a few days with my new friends.  Eventually I got the chance to make love to my wife while wearing the plug and all I can say is that how my prostate responded changed completely that day and continued to do so over the coming months.

I still used my Helix from time to time, but this curved plug was really working well for me.   New sensations were bubbling up every session and I think this was because I had a new found freedom to explore without feeling any apprehension and also got to share those experiences with my wife.

A few months later I found myself intrigued by a $30 articulating massager, similar to the Lelo Hugo but more attainable financially.  This thing was pretty interesting.  Larger than my new curved plug or the Helix, but not by much, I found it to be very comfortable.  It took a few runs with this new toy, but I had a HFWO that was more intense than any I had ever had before.  Over the coming weeks this toy also started giving me long lasting dry orgasms that I could relax into and ride for several minutes at a time, and repeat every few minutes for an hour or more.  Blissful.  I have had multiple dry o’s a handful of times with the Helix and the curved plug, but this toy was pretty repeatable.  Over time I also managed to control my orgasm and learned to avoid ejaculation and avoid the HFWO until i consciously decided I wanted to.

The real breakthrough however was the combination of all of these experiences with one last important thing.  I began a more earnest practice of kegels to work on strengthening my PC muscles and wok on separating the anus from pc.  As my PC strength improved I found that all the other things fell into place and I was finally able to achieve a better level of relaxation and control over all the muscles.  I used to use nipple stimulation almost from start to finish in my sessions as I couldn’t get anything going without it.  Nipples during sex had been like fireworks for me for years and they are certainly wired directly to my prostate.

However a couple days ago, I was in bed waiting for my wife with my curved silicone plug in.  As I waited I thought of how much pleasure I was about to give and receive.  I brushed my nipples a few times then relaxed and crossed my arms as I laid on my side with my balls tucked behind my closed legs, and dick pulled up in front.  Eyes closed, I employed the do nothing approach relaxing my PC and anus letting the plug just loosely rest against my prostate.  I applied just an extremely light push outward (reverse kegel) and that’s when I felt it start.  No nipple stim to try and maintain or create a pwave, just the gradual build of soft radiating pleasure, with the occasional quiver of the anal and pc muscles, so slight you could barely notice them, but when you felt that quiver the energy would surge then wane a little leaving me a little higher up on the wave.  It happened again, and again over about a minute and I was in exquisite bliss, relaxed, breathing deeply through each building wave... then I heard my wife’s foot steps as she was coming to bed.  Oh my, I don’t want to stop, but I do want to make love to her as well.  As she slipped under the covers I opened my eyes and repositioned myself clenching tightly my PC muscles to try and stop the pwaves.

We proceeded to have the best 45 minutes of sex that I could remember having I quite a while.  I could fell very small mini o’s from time to time as I thrusting.  The last 10 minutes I coaxed her on top of me.  She gently but quickly tapped my nipples as she was grinding away, laughing at me as I came almost crying because it was so intense.

I was in disbelief in what happed before we had sex.  The do nothing but relax and to be almost overwhelmed... this is what I’ve been waiting for.

The next day I had a very stressful day at work so when I logged off I let her know I was taking some time to ‘chill’, our code word for me having a session.  After getting under the sheets with some relaxing music on I was able to just relax with the curved plug in, and repeat the completely motionless relaxation and build of a pwave.  It took only about 1 minute. No nipples, just arms crossed lying just like the day before.  I was able to ebb and flow in an out of full body orgasms that just tingled from head to toe.  The orgasms would last for a minute or so and eventually were so close together that they seemed like they didn’t stop.  Slow deep breathing and relaxed pc muscles and anus with the occasional push outward kept me in this state for about 30 minutes.  I finally let myself come down and relaxed. I decided to get the moving massager and finish off with that.  I enjoyed another 30-40 minutes where I stayed either in a mild orgasm or just below that level and then I began hard reverse kegels which with the repeated pressing and releasing on my prostate would always give me a huge HFWO.  This HFWO lasted almost a minute between the orgasm that peaked multiple times and the long set of ejaculatory contractions that followed.

Day three, I disclosed the pre sex prostate orgasms that she unwittingly interrupted two days ago, and the completely hands free bliss I had experienced the day before.  She wasn’t into having sex (even after hearing that confession) so I asked if she would lay with me while I tried to see it it was a fluke or something that I could do again.  She agreed to spoon up next to me and amazingly I relaxed and it all just started again.  I turned to my other side, her now behind me, and she nestled up tight to me and reached an arm around and started brushing and tapping my nipples.  I almost lost my mind over the next 20 minutes.  No ejaculation yesterday, and I’m so full of sexual energy that I can hardly stand it.

For anyone that is stuck at getting good results but not quite getting to the plateau that you believe is possible, I think you should work hard and in earnest on Kegles.  Get you PC muscles in shape and I pretty sure you’ll achieve new levels of pleasure.  A strong pelvic floor allows better control and relaxation and I believe that has been a real key for my recent happiness.

It will also prevent you from ejaculating too quickly during sex, allowing you to last longer and improve you erection quality.  I’ve never had much of an issue with not controlling my ejaculation but any guy (and his partner) will appreciate a harder dick.

Best to all.  Don’t give up.  Work those muscles (Google Mindgasm as a way to practice and exercise your pc) and learn to relax.