Pegging

The wife and I have had pretty good success over the last couple years with pegging. She currently uses a very sturdy, leather harness (don't know the name but dropped a couple bucks for it), and we have a Tantus Charmer dildo for the business end. The Charmer is a woman's g-spot dildo but has very nice ribs that work well on the prostate. Our favorite position is missionary with my lags wrapped around her back. It's a little awkward at first but once you both find your rhythm is great for mini-0's! We also found a cheap wedge pillow on Amazon and it can help things a lot.

I love my Aneros and my journey is progressing nicely. My wife loves the effect the Aneros is having on me in the bedroom. Pegging was a way for us to bring the two together. I'm currently looking for a double ended strapon but am not having much luck. I've been looking at the strapless types but i know we will still have to use the harness and i'm having a hard time deciding which one to go with. We purchased the Share and when we took it out of the box, we were both amazed at the size and have no intentions of using it.

Hello, Pbmazda32.

Sounds like you and your wife have had experiences with Aneros and pegging that are similar to ours, except we started out with Fun Factory Share, which was a mistake. Our current dual-ended pegging rig is documented in this thread a few dozen posts back. We're still learning and have the goal of getting her to have big Os during pegging. So far, all she's been able to achieve is lots of mini-Os. I guess we need more practice. 🙂

Best of luck to you guys,

Dave

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argyle -
Sounds like a very nice first experience for you both. You are right - it gets better with practice! Thanks for sharing your story.

Pbmazda32 -

I love my Aneros and my journey is progressing nicely. My wife loves the effect the Aneros is having on me in the bedroom. Pegging was a way for us to bring the two together.

I love hearing stories like this. When anal exploration ends up improving a relationship - yay! Thanks so much for sharing that with us.

If you are looking for a double-ended strap-on - one option is to use the Outlaw Leather harness that will hold two separate flare-based dildos, one in you and one in her. I have experience with this set up and particularly enjoy the dildo that has a bullet vibe inserted in the base of it. Most dildos that have a vibe in them are not positioned correctly for contact with my clit, because the dildo is in my partner and the vibes only come through the base, which is often too high. The Outlaw harness has a dildo that is in me so the vibe is right in the perfect position. Plus - you can each choose which size you want! Yes, the Share is pretty huge...plus the double-ended dildos are hard to manage without a harness - even the smaller ones are definitely not a beginner's toy. Mainly because you have vaginal muscles competing with anal sphincters and the anal sphincters are going to win every time. So the woman often finds it hard if not impossible to keep the toy inside her - requiring so much effort and concentration that any pleasure she might be experiencing goes right out the window.

I've been lurking this thread for quite a while, mostly because I don't have any personal experience to add. I want to say to [COLOR="red"]Ruby that your advice and insight has been most welcome and appreciated. I have a double that I was thinking of using when I find the right partner, but would have never thought about the competing muscles. Instead, I will look into a good harness and leave the dildo selection up to what I hope might be a very fun night with someone special. 🙂 Of course, this will all happen when the time is right in my life.

rikaaim, Thanks for your kind words. Glad you came out from lurking and joined the ranks of the posters!
Doubles can be awesome for solo play, too - the bulb end is like a handle and (I hear) it works well.

For everyone else - I have been working on a piece of writing that may appeal to the members here - it's about how porn's portrayal of pegging scares people (of both genders) off from wanting to try it. You might enjoy it. "How Porn Ruins Pegging"

Happy Pegging,
Ruby

[COLOR="red"]Ruby, I had [COLOR="teal"]one pegging experience with my ex girlfriend. She bought a "beginner" strap-on set long before we met and was planning on using it on a woman, but plans changed, and we had a go at it. The phallus part of the unit was immensely huge and very uncomfortable. I was able to ease into it after a while. Anyone who knows me around here knows I'm no stranger to anal toys either. I was using double dildos solo and plugs of all shapes and sizes before I met her. For me to say that this phallus was too large in girth is a statement. The experience for me was utter bliss once everything got moving. I wrapped my legs around her back and just held on. She was standing on the floor, and I was partially off the edge of the bed. The position was perfect. I could have easily cum hands free. There are two reasons we didn't try again. One, this is a spur of the moment decision on her part, and I couldn't clean fully. So, there was a little "residue" on the phallus when we were done. Two, this beginner strap-on had no insertion on her part, either with a bulb or any extension from the harness part. We looked into the Share and many other models, but I think the first reason sufficiently grossed her out enough that she just wasn't up for trying it again.

I have a double dildo that I like to use in the shower and plant one end into the rail holder and then insert and ride the other end. I very much enjoy Aneros, but love to be able to ride and get pounded by a strap-on or my double dildo. I tried once to use this double dildo with her, but the mechanics were hard to work out with the angles and such. Frustration lead to giving up. This is why I was appreciative of you mentioning double dildos with couples play. Maybe next time I can achieve more.

rikaaim -
Always best to start with something reasonably sized. I consider that to be about 6" long and 1.25" in diameter - no larger than that. For men who have more difficulty opening up to accept a toy - maybe 5.5" x 1". There are undoubtedly many men who can claim to have taken a large toy right from the start but most men need to ease into the larger size dildos - and some are satisfied with the beginner sizes. I wouldn't go any shorter than the 5.5 or 6 because it can tend to fall out when thrusting.

I'm so glad once you got used to it that the result was "utter bliss". Nice!

There are people who are very sensitive to "messes" with pegging. Sorry to hear she was so put off by it. I'm sure you have probably explained this to her but I'll say it anyway...if she understands that it was only because it was the spur of the moment and you were not cleaned out - perhaps she might be willing to try it again. I can personally testify to the comparison. I pegged a man without his cleaning out beforehand and there was indeed a little bit of residue on the toy and a bit of smell. The following time he took the time to clean out - just with a bulb syringe and there was no smell, no mess - nothing but pleasure and nice clean pegging.

The double-ended dildos are really advanced toys and not advisable for beginners. They often set people up to fail, unfortunately. They are difficult to manage without a harness - and even then still a bit tricky. If she is looking for insertion on her end - consider the Outlaw Leather harness, which will accommodate two flared-base dildos - one in her and one in you - you can even choose your own sizes...

Hi there,

Just got an Tantus O2 revolution dildo to try the pegging.
First session i wasn't able to get past the inner ring of the anus,i guess i must relax some more.
Don't have problems with the progasm but tantus is a bit more so i have to slowly get into that.

Some time ago i bought a sex machine,mini stallion from orgasm alley around 1100 dollars for my fleshlights.
Amazing being fucked with that with a heated fleshlight.
Now i've tried to use the same holder with the Tantus and if i put some cloth in the holder it stays put no matter what.
So next time i do this i'm gonna let the machine slowly touch my anus,can control speed and depth,let it go further or faster in a way that it stays comfortly.
This way i can just relax and not do the pegging myself.

Hello, valliant.

Good luck with the machine fucking. I hope you are REALLY careful. There's enough power in that thing to hurt you.

Best Regards,

Dave

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Just ordered the johnny vixskin to do the pegging because it looks softer to begin this journey.
Later will get back to the tantus O2.

valliant;

Please let us know how the Johnny Vixskin dildo works for you. I suspect the physical qualities of the material matter a lot. Even the various silicone dildos we have vary tremendously in feel for me and controllability, from my wife's POV. I think the huge variety on the market is in part due to the huge variability among users. Too bad it's a trial and error process. The costs can add up fast.

Best Regards,

Dave

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valliant -
You chose the only two skin-like dildos (Tantus O2 and Vixskin) that are sterilizable and non-porous - good choices! I'm interested to know how the Johnny Vixskin works, too...

Still waiting for Johnny vixskin,maybe tomorrow.
From the introduction movies i've seen it's seems an amazing product,softer than TantusO2.
Maybe easier for anal play?
Still having problems to enter the Tantus past my inner ring but i am very glad i bought this dildo.
This is high quality product,like i hope the vixskin will be.
Putting the progasm in is no trouble at all,maybe i don't get the Tantus slik enough to put it in.
Is shea butter wrong,is there better for pegging?

I would like to find a a smaller diameter dido, current dildo 1 1/4 " , would like a 3/4" silicone. I just would like something smaller to get warmed up for a bigger one. I see the pics of guys handling HUGE dildos and I cringe. Just wish to feel not quite so full. Wife suggested pegging me the other night and seeing her get harnessed up was really incredible, I am blessed and I know it!

argyle - Tantus makes a 3/4"
Tantus Silk Small Silicone Dildo
And btw - many (porn) videos with guys handling huge ones? They are on muscle relaxers. Not saying you can't take huge ones eventually if you want to - but it's not realistic in porn.

valliant - shea butter is only contraindicated with latex condoms, so I wouldn't say it's "wrong". but if you want to try something different and see if it helps, get a sample size of a few kinds and check them out. My personal 2 favorites are Maximus and Boy Butter H2O.

The Johnny vixskin just arived,what an amazing product it is.
As soon as i'm well again i will test it out,having a big problem with bronchitis that just won't get better.

Get well soon - bronchitis is no fun!

I plead ignorance, and what better place to ask a question than here with all of you men that do pegging or with Ruby.

I have never participated in pegging and so my mind has a few things it has pondered over the time this thread has been in service.

1. In pegging, is the shape of the rectum in combination with a pegging device an issue? I suppose I wondered because of the slant of the rectum is different from a dildo used in anal play.

2. Therefore, does it matter if one is on bottom or on top?

3. Or, is it dependent on the size of the dildo? For instance, if one is longer I would think it would cause a problem or issue with penetration or safety.

As you can tell, I'm probably not wording myself very well, but this is one of those things I've pondered and I'm sure some of you can share your experiences.

Nurselady

NL:
For 12 years before I used aneros I experimented with dildos and anal play. Nothing I tried ever did anything for me. It wasn't until I stumbled into prostate massagers that I got pleasurable response. The trigger of P massage opened the channels for pleasurable response from all the muscles and nerve systems in my rectum. This is the heart of the whole rewiring concept. I am now inerved so that the entire canal is capable of giving me pleasure. However I have not revisited the dildo - pegging thing yet. My lady has toyed with the idea on a few occassions over the years of using a dildo on me . . . but we haven't tried. Sometime soon we may.

The answer to your question (I think) is not in the structure of the anal canal or the shape of the dildo as much as it is in rewiring and training the nerves there to respond to pleasure and stimulation.

That's my two cents.

Bigguy / Linghaman

Hello, nurselady.

I'm sure there are more experienced peggers here than I. Nonetheless, based on about 8 months of experience with it, my answers are...

1. About shape of dildo and rectum; yes, there's an optimal combo for each man. Some guys will need a very curved dildo, others will be fine with one that's perfectly straight. I like a slight curve.

2. Bottom or top? Yes, that matters a lot, as does the angle of approach. I like being on top, leaning back against my wife's legs which are bent, feet flat, knees high. On the other hand, she gets the most out of the double dildo when I'm flat on my face and she's in a kind of jockey position on top. That's not so great for me; still good.

3. Size of the dildo matters? Sure does. Both the girth and the length are important. For me, 7 inches in length is maximum before it hits the wall where my rectum turns. The feeling of the dildo banging on that wall is not fun. Since the anus must remain stretched open the whole time, the degree of stretch affects comfort. I can get comfortable up to about 1.75 inches in diameter. Beyond that, the stretching feeling interferes with the pleasurable effects and I can't orgasm.

As bigguy noted above, none of these factors matters much if the man isn't tuned into anal pleasure in the first place. I doubt pegging is something a guy can enjoy from a cold start. Aneros training set me up for pegging though I'm sure there are other anal erotic practices that would serve just as well.

Best Regards,

Dave

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NL - The only thing I have to add is that if the dildo has a curve to it you can turn it to target the wall of the rectum that has the prostate when you changes positions. For example, man on his hands and knees you would want to turn it so it curves down. Man on his back with legs up - turn it so it curves upward. Size, specific shape and position are all quite individual, as Dave says. have fun experimenting!

Ruby
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Ruby;

Your pointers are always appreciated.

I hope you don't mind if I post the URL to your Femdom Magazine story, here:

Issue 17 Fiction: Just For Starters

Your interview with them was also a good read.

Best Regards,

Dave

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Hey Dave - Thanks for posting this here. Happy to share it!

Ruby

Ruby;

Considering that your stories require a subscription for access (low cost, but still something) at Pegging Paradise, I really appreciate the occasional freebie.

Best Regards,

Dave

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We head out on the town for a light dinner and some drinks. Appetizers and a glass of wine satisfy us both. Neither of us are hungry; what we will be doing later distracts us from everything else. This is our night for erotic explorations, indulging in our favorite ways of pleasing each other. But you don’t know what is under my skirt. Or what my plans are. You don’t even notice when you kiss me and run your hands over my ass as we lean against the car in the parking lot.

I take you to a park and we lay on a blanket in the cool of the moonless summer night, finding a spot where privacy is not guaranteed, but likely at this hour. The dildo is hidden in my purse along with the lube. I pull your jeans down just far enough to play with your ass. You can’t believe my fingers are inside you…here in the park. You stifle your moans just in case anyone might be walking by. The last thing you expect is that I will actually fuck you here. But your face in the blanket does not see the dildo, quickly retrieved and inserted. Just a brief pause in your reality. Then the tip is nudging against your ass and you realize what’s happening.

“Oh My God, Honey!”

I laugh soft and low as I slide into your ass. Then I pull my long skirt over us as I lay on top of you. Anyone looking would have no idea…that I am fucking you slowly and deeply in the darkness, teasing you until you spill your hot passion on the blanket beneath you. We’re a hot sticky mess on a warm summer night…spontaneity.

Ruby Ryder

Ruby, I thought many of our fine gents would have said something by now, but for whatever reason, the silence persists. No more! Whoa damn girl that was hot! You know just how to write a steamy bit of erotica. From someone who has been involved in the craft for a while, that was wonderfully done! It was just the right amount of detail without going overboard. A delicious little snippet indeed! Truly a wonderful concept idea as well. It gets even better since it's from the woman's perspective. Surprise, seduction, erotic, all at once! Very nice Ruby. Very nice. If you want to share any more treasures, you have a big fan that will gladly read and flatter.

P.S.

I'm editing to add

Just a brief pause in your reality.

is a brilliant fragment. It invokes so many ideas of fantasy bending into reality and unlimited possibilities. I once read that true erotica is the precise moment where temptation and buildup give in to release. This sentence is that moment. It's the realization that the possibility of what might happen is going to happen. This is a craft well done.

*Blush*
Why thank you rikaaim, for all your kind words. Glad you enjoyed it! Flattery will get you everywhere...

Editing to reply rikaaim: Writing is a fascinating craft. A pleasure to hear it dissected in such an enlightening manner. The words are instinctive for me. They usually come out well...sometimes they rock.

@wreckind - Vixskin dildos are one of the 2 "skin-like" dildos that I would recommend, not from personal experience but from the perspective of passing the tests of non-toxic as well as sterilizable and easy to care for. They are pricey. As far as being too realistic - that's an individual preference.

Yes, the safety is one of the main reasons why the silicone dildos should be chosen over UR3, Cyberskin etc amongst the realistic ones.

@wreckind - I will chime in here and say that as a woman I have purposefully chosen dildos that were not realistic. I guess I look at it as an instrument to give my partner pleasure rather than actually having a cock. As such, why not have it be my favorite color? 🙂

Hello, wreckind.

There has been some discussion on this site among straight guys who like pegging or would like to be pegged regarding how realistic the dildo should or should not be. The consensus seems to be that a non-realistic dildo is preferable. For me, I don't think it matters. As you can see from the pix I've posted, the ones we use are stylized penis-like objects. That's not because we purposely shied away from realism, but because we wanted silicone at a reasonable price.

I tried realistic dildos after reading several reviews from women and men about the feelings provided by all types of dildos (verdict : there is no comparison). As i favor how it feels over how it looks, i had no problem with it even being hetero. I did try others dildos in the past and finded them too much agressive. I admit that the Vixskin dildos can be considered expensive but i choose to wait some months (i discovered it few days after ordering a cyberskin one) in order to not regret anything. It seems to be very durable and looks like a very good investment.

Sorry for my poor english and the slowness of my answers.

Hi there,

An update on the Johnny vixskin dildo.

I was able to insert it without pain this time,took it real slow.
First in the shower,playing with it but did not get it in then.
Afterwards i laid down and put some shea butter on the vixskin and some inside me,got it inside me very slow but without pain.
Pushed it almost all the way in and let it stay there,moving it in and out is still a bit to much for now.
Hopefully i get the hang of it because on an earlier session i got it just in but because it hurt i took it out and when it was out i got a wonderfull short sensation,like a quivering anus.
Did that a few times with always the same sensation but had to stop because getting it in was a bit much.
So for now i used the vixskin like an aneros session,relax and breath,it was a great session.
I'm happy i bought this,it's a nice quality toy alongside my many aneros products.
It's soft on the outside,beautiful made,when you feel it it's like a real cock even the flexibility.

Going to use it once and awhile to get familiar with the size first before atempting to pegging.
Keep you posted,

would like to keep this pegging thread going. Really enjoy looking at the "strapon image gallery" every day to see what is new.