Pegging

@ineverknew
I don't know. Maybe lol.

@ruby
Of course I agree there can be a connexion. And in @braveneworld's case, the connexion is perfectly natural as he seems to see dildoing as a step towards pegging. So its mention in this subject makes sense.

But each word has its meaning. Dildoing is dildoing, pegging is pegging. And a partner is not a plastic toy (... I am afraid this last point isn't clear enough in our modern societies).

I hope that there are a lot of men out there who see playing with the dildo as a step towards pegging. I'm a big fan of knowing your own ass before you let anyone else fuck it.

@Canacan Your response was quite franky uncalled for and attacked me, In no way is there any humour imprinted in it. It was hostile and rude. My response was very reserved compared to the way it made me feel. I have been on this forum a lot longer than you and although this gives me no more rights than anyone else, to my memory I have never been mocked as you did. Maybe thats not as you meant it but you can see how it was taken.
If you are French then that may very well explain it but in no way excuse it.
I am going to drag Ruby into this but only to say there is no way she would of attacked a interested party in this manner. If you disagreed all you had to do was ask nicely.
"Behaviour breeds behaviour" If your hostile "expect to get it back 2 fold"
To be far as there are always two sides maybe my Disclaimer was not worded right so you took it the wrong way. I will put a edit there.

I disagree with your statement in respect to a plastic toy not being a partner. Why?
There are people out there that have plastic life like dolls that are their partners (in their eyes) even if you and I dont agree it wont change their opinion.
Imagination has a lot to do with it too, you will see it a lot with guys feelings towards there plastic (partners) toys.
I my case this new DILDO is already connected to my wife even if not physically yet.
There is no doubt in my mind she will say no to the idea, so I am doing everything in my power to be ready and experienced to help make it easier for her.
My wife is very unwell and it will be a few years until she gets her sex drive back.
I will NEVER cheat on my wife so have to wait until she is ready, me imagining this dildo attached to my wife helps keep me closer to my wife. Ist lonely being along your wife and not being able to be intimate with her.
My sex partners are my aneroses until she is better.
enough said.

Come on you guys keep things nice. It doesn't really matter what it is we call it. @canacan I understand you want to be correct so that newcomers are not confused by incorrect terminology. As I read it @braveneworld is sincere in what he is saying and hoping for in the future where his wife is able to participate in pegging with him. Good luck to them both.

I hope that there are a lot of men out there who see playing with the dildo as a step towards pegging. I'm a big fan of knowing your own ass before you let anyone else fuck it.

Pick me! Pick me! I couldn't resist saying that. I am one who is all for spending time getting to know my own ass. Hopefully one day I will be a recipient of a good pegging from my wife, but I am not holding my breath.

@braveneworld
You keep responding to things I wrote not. This is going nowhere.

There was zero hostility from me. And as you can see, I don't react to yours (neither 2 folds nor 1 fold).

Please chill out. I really don't want to derail from the topic.

@Canacan Whatever! We were on topic till your stired the pot. Nuf said, new day forget it, life is to short.

@Ruby Ryder Speaking of correct names do people refer to the dildos as "the peg"? As it resembles a pole or peg of plastic which is obviously where pegging got its name from.
I notice you have never refured to it as anything but a dildo on your site www.peggingparidise.com (gratuitise website plug for nuwbies) 🙂

The other question I have is directed at all aneros guys who have started to use a dildo after they have been using a aneros for years.
After your your first pegging or dildo use does your aneros sessions feel different?
The reason I ask is with penis Sounding (sticking a metal rod in your dick hole) the metal rod stretches your urethra and is stays stretched for around a year after you stop.
Is it the same with anal canal? I would think it must be because you have people that fist others rear ends but you could not do that without practice and stretching both muscles and the walls of the rectum.
My didldo starts small but is very large at the back end near the suction cup.
After using it two days later when i used my maximus it feels larger inside my rectum. looser if you like.
What are your thoughts? Is it just in my head or may there be some truth to my thoughts.
I have never put anything that big in before Aneros Vice has been the most girth until now. It is 2.5 inches diameter at the base.
Maybe i popped my cherry. LOL

@braveneworldPeople usually call dildos… dildos.
The word "pegging" came into being when it became the winning entry in a contest in Dan Savage's "Savage love" sex advice column. The contest was held after an observation was made that there was no common name for the act that differentiated it from lesbian strap on sex.


I am not an Aneros guy, but I do know about the physiological structure of the ass. And I am not sure whether it is like the urethra of the penis. There are two concentric sphincters in your rectum.


The outer sphincter is made of smooth voluntary muscle, which can be stretched quite a ways, and still return to normal. The inner sphincter is made of involuntary muscle, and it has a limit as to how far you can stretch it before it becomes nonfunctional. People who play with larger toys are basically rendering the inner sphincter nonfunctional.


Before you panic, people who have had several bouts of bad constipation, have already done as much damage as can be done. And here's the important part, the inner sphincter is not necessary for normal rectal function. You might notice that you can fart more easily after toy play, but other than gas and liquids, the inner sphincter doesn't do much beyond that. The outer sphincter is supported by four huge groups of muscles, and more than makes up for the non-functionality of the inner sphincter.


This is why we can see videos of anal fisting and hear of very few incidences resulting in fecal incontinence. Those problem incidences are almost invariably involving alcohol, too fast, or something sharp. Sometimes all three! Just remember the cardinal rules:

• Not too fast
• Not too big
• Nothing sharp
• Plenty of lube

This information was given to me as a comment on my website by a health professional, who refused to be identified (!). The physiological specificity with which he described all this made me confident that he knew exactly what he was talking about, and he also talked about how he loved pegging.

The full article is here.

@Ruby Ryder Thanks, Dont know where i have seen it referred to as the peg. If i find it again i will share it but obviously it is not common or is incorrect on that page.Yes i was aware of both sphincters but there's some interesting points in your info there.
Its the pipe in between i was referring to but as you said you dont know. I might do some more digging.
After i had posted the above I said to myself dont know why i excluded you with the question as i bet you would answer it. Turns out i was right .LOL Thanks again

The better my Aneros sessions get, the more interested I become in pegging.

I have a girlfriend, but am resistant to receiving anal play even though I want to. She even seemed to be expressing interest in it earlier in our relationship as she would massage around my anus and sort of flirt with a finger at the edge as well as trying to bait me to tell her about how to make me feel good.

I definitely want to do it at some point, but I would need a lot more trust than what I can manage at this stage.

@mkts I am wondering what you mean about more trust? I was a little apprehensive at first thinking my wife might have some assumptions about me and why I would want to try it. But she never ended up having them. Now, she seems to like doing it as much and sometimes maybe even more than I do.

When pegging is on the agenda, she gets giddy, loving and light in her step. If I go very long without asking she will bring it up. The other night during she said she liked fucking me and asked if I liked being fucked. That really was a turn on. She usually doesn't talk much during sex.

Then afterward, she is fired up and the next day she always wants sex and I am happy to fullfill her desires.

So pegging has improved our relationship.

I think what it comes down to is I am not committed enough. I don't feel comfortable getting into pegging unless I want to be with the person for a long time.

@mkts Ahhhhh Haaa, that make perfect sense.

Pegging is very intimate. I totally understand.

@ruby_ryder I find I want to kiss her during but we can't. She can't keep it in and get far enough forward to kiss. Don't really know what to do on that.

Try this. Get a sturdy wooden chair with no arms and preferably a high back. Many times kissing can happen in this position, unless there is a huge disparity in torso lengths.


I call this the "Chairman". (No one else had named it - so I did!)


Another pic...

Nice pix, Ruby.

Never have tried any chair positions. Wife prefers me face down with a pillow under my hips. Whatever she wants...

BTW, did you see the Louis CK episode "Bobby's House?" (aired 30 April. Available on Netflix) There's a scene where his GF, Pamela pegs him unexpectedly. I don't want to spoil it for you completely so I won't comment further.

Cheers,

Dave

Dave - Wow - much, much later I get around to responding. I have not seen this one and though I don't have Netflix I found it on Hulu!! Bookmarked it for future watching. Love what they did with the subject of pegging on Comedy Central's "Broad City" called "Knockoffs" - not sure where it is available, but worth watching!

In case any of you are near Austin, TX - I will be teaching there on Sunday June, 28th at Forbidden Fruit!

Hey, Ruby.

Has anybody attending one of your pegging seminars mentioned Aneros or told you they use one?

Cheers,

Dave

Occasionally, yes. But mostly it's me telling them the story of the company and the BPH study. Then the toy store I am teaching at sells some. Normally the people in my classes don't have much experience with Aneros until I introduce them. Many times it's women buying them for their partners, which is way cool.

I am putting together a prostate health class to teach locally. Especially since I did some research on the PSA testing because a listener requested some information about it. That was indeed a rabbit hole I went down. Here's the link to the podcast with all the prostate/PSA information.

My wife and I just ordered our first strap on last night and it should arrive next week. I wanted to go quality at first but she insisted that we not spend a ton on something she may not actually enjoy. Here's to hoping she enjoys it enough for us to get something good in the future!

This is the one my wife and I ordered. Does anyone have any experience with one like this? Any advice? Thanks!!

https://www.pureromance.com/shop/Adult-Sex-Toys/For-Women/Dildos/LOL-Non-Vibrating-Strap-On

Well I hope she likes it and you order a better one immediately! Not toxic or anything, but the hard plastic dildo might not be pleasant for you and the straps might not be comfortable for her.
I understand when people don't want to spend a lot of money for pegging equipment if they're not sure whether they. But sometimes, buying cheap equipment can make the act itself much less enjoyable. A silicone dildo is going to feel much better on your prostate, most likely. And there are many other harnesses that will be more comfortable for her.


To ensure that she enjoys it, be sensitive to how difficult it might be for her. Be ready to have her lie down and write her cowboy style. That position requires the least effort and skill on her part, and she will be able to see how much you love it. Plus, you will both be able to touch your cock.

Don't forget to rock her world before or after the pegging! Positive reinforcement.

Thank you for the reply Ruby! I've listened to many of your podcasts and ready everything I could get my hands on from your site. Incredibly insightful stuff. I agree that a silicon one would feel best, but this is the course she wanted to take. It gets us starting at least and we can go from there. Thank you for the tips and advice, much appreciated and will definitely be used!!

You are welcome. There is something to be said for going with her wishes just to get the ball rolling, so to speak. Have fun with it and let us know how everything goes!

Stillbl working on my wife! She has mentioned it a few times. Eventually i want her to fuck my ass. Any tips on plus size strap ons?

@twocan7 - What kinds of tips are you looking for? Which ones are good ones? What harnesses can hold them? How to work up to them? What to be careful of?

What kind of harness to buy mostly. Being bbw stuff just doesnt fit like it should. Basicly being a newbie everything.

@twocan7 We have this harness:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0016NCDLY?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o01_s00


Not too expensive and she really likes it, I have suggested a better one and she says no she likes this one. It comes with GENEROUS strap length my wife trimmed off a lot.


This is my favorite probe:


http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000PHHFIS?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00


It has the length and the tip hits the right spot like crazy.


For some reason she likes this one:


http://www.tantusinc.com/products/sport-long


I don't like it as much, but she asks often why I don't use it more, I told her I like to mix it up, but in reality this one doesn't hit the spot like the sport and it always feels like it is about to slip out.


We also tried this one:


http://www.amazon.com/Mustang-VixSkin-Silicone-Dildo-Vanilla/dp/B0026CEDIU


Didn't like it at all, it just didn't hit the spot right and it was hard to get in.