Pegging

neubie! I'm glad you found the Annie O and enjoy it as much as I do.
I suspected they were going down - I really hope someone buys their business for all of us leather harness lovers. There is nothing I have found quite like the Outlaw design - but surely one of the other harness makers are working on it.

Dildo - Many guys like the Mistress just fine and never want to go larger. I like that it's long enough to do some major thrusting when desired without falling out (which is why I would not recommend anything less than 6" in length for beginners; too limiting for positions and thrusting).

Yes - learning the mechanics of screwing definitely takes time. You'll get there, and have a lot of fun practicing. Another position you might want to try that still leaves you in control and requires minimum skill on her part is the chair without arms. Here is a photo:

http://peggingparadise.com/blog/2012/05/day-14-orgasm-14/

I love the image of her texting you that photo - very hot.

Outlaw has this for cleaning:

How do I wash my harness?
In washing your harness, we recommend removing any dildos, detachable rings, unsnapping all the snaps, and rinsing your harness under warm water using your hands and a little anti-bacterial soap. Using abrasive cloths or sponges my affect the surface of the leather.
Drying with a hair-dryer (set on cold) and hanging dry for 4-6 hours (completely unsnapped to prevent rusting metal parts) is the most thorough and recommended method of drying out your harness. Otherwise, dry the harness with a soft cloth or towel and hang dry.
We also recommend using leather lotion and/or protectant on your harness (both the leather and the metal parts). There are several different kinds on the market, but a good rule of thumb is this: if it's good for your skin, it's good for the leather. Stay away from harmful chemicals or scented products, and be aware that the colors may change on brightly colored harnesses.
Please note: All leather is porous and can never be completely sterilized. We recommend using different harnesses for different sexual partners.

Looking forward to hearing about testing the harness with both dildos...

All the Best,
Ruby

Congrats, Mr. and Mrs. neubie.

Wow, you guys really got off to a hot start (pun intended). My wife and I took at least 5 tries before we had the hardware, position and technique all more or less working. Now it's been almost a year of regular pegging for us and we're still learning. I have to say, the practicing is a lot of fun.

Best Regards,

Dave

Saw this and thought of everyone here. 🙂

rikaaim!
This is such a funny photo!! Notice the butt plug in the corner and the lube and handcuffs on the floor. Plus - the cat!
Here is another one:
http://peggingparadise.com/blog/2011/09/priceless/

Ruby, I did not notice the small things you pointed out, but I will say, i have a favorite now that I looked really close in my picture. The scale. That's right, the scale. It seems as if the cat, with the tri-pod and camera, vibrator on the floor, butt plugg (as you mentioned) in the corner, dildo on the vanity, and everything else seems about right. So, why the bathroom scale?

In your photo, it's all about the candy apple. I totally get the chocolate syrup even, but the candy apple? Eeep! and WTF?! LOL Love it!

Edited to say: I didn't even scroll down in the pic until after I posted this. Then I noticed you said the exact same thing about the candy apple! Too funny! Great minds...eh Ruby? 😉

I know, right?
So THAT'S what that is - the scale. Couldn't figure it out (and didn't zoom in). Wish I could snatch that cigarette out of Barbie's mouth, though...

Wish I could snatch that cigarette out of Barbie's mouth, though...

I'll wager that cigarette with holder is from a very old Barbie set, circa late '50s to early '60s, and probably quite rare.

What I'd like to know is where did they find scaled-down, realistic dildo? Did someone take the time to carefully hand carve those veins in it?

On the other photo, I too, would like to know what they were planning to do with the candied apple; maybe use it to sugar their pubic hair?

Well, I think a realistic use for the candy apple would be a form of ball gag. It's big enough and would be very difficult to spit out once Barbie forces Ken to bite down into it. In that scene, Ken doesn't seem overly eager, and Barbie definitely has a more Domme stance to her. So, I could see an improv ball gag.

http://peggingparadise.com/blog/2012/05/day-22-orgasm-23/

Thanks, Ruby!

Great erotic writing, as usual. You should write a book.

Best Regards,

Dave

Working on it, Dave!
Thanks - glad you enjoyed it.

Ruby and other readers;

After a year of regular pegging, we experienced a new thing two nights ago. Usually, I need her hand to climax, although once, face down on a towel, friction did it for me. This time, face to face missionary style, just the gentle rhythmic touch of her belly on my dick got me off while she fucked me energetically. My wife had some mini-Os, but still no big O while pegging. I guess we need more practice. 🙂

Cheers,

Dave

Sounds like you guys are getting there, though! 🙂

You are indeed getting there!
...I aspire to that when I have a partner at some point. :-/

Ruby;

I wish you the best of luck finding the right partner. It's a really difficult thing, getting a match that works on all levels. Fortunately, my third wife is a "keeper." The first two I chalked up to being a slow learner.

Best Regards,

Dave

Dave - That's so good to hear. My first two didn't take, either...but then again I was choosing projects so I have been a slow learner, too. I'm hoping the third time is the charm.

Best,
Ruby

Hello, all.

A recent Aneros chat session made me realize that there is a strange dichotomy involved in prostate orgasms, both small and super. The point was made, correctly, that you cannot force or pursue the Aneros Super-O; you have to let it "do" you. No manual handling of the tool allowed. Many of the members here have commented that the harder they tried to have a Super-O, the less successful they were. That seems to be the case and is reinforced by the Aneros Wiki's procedures and many admonitions by senior members here. My own experience is that I have to let the Super-O just happen. It's almost like an out-of-body experience.

On the other hand, I've had some incredible Super-Os while being pegged. Instead of the gentle internal caress or minimal-motion auto-fuck during an Aneros session, my wife drives her dildo hard and fast, really shaking up the entire pelvic region. My prostate gets one hell of a pounding. All that activity doesn't cause the Super-O to become elusive at all.

I don't have any explanation for why prostate stimulation can work at both extremes of manipulation, but thought it worth mentioning since many here use both Aneros toys and conventional dildos. Similar experiences?

Cheers,

Dave

I don't have any explanation for why prostate stimulation can work at both extremes of manipulation, but thought it worth mentioning since many here use both Aneros toys and conventional dildos. Similar experiences?

Dave,

As I have often mentioned, IMHO, the Aneros Super-O experience is more than 90% a mental exercise which requires one to 'Just Let Go' of ego directed control. Likewise, when being 'pegged', I think one has also ceded his ego control issues by placing trust in his partner. In both situations, conscious control has been suspended, allowing the body to respond to the stimulation in a non-traditional (male directed, aggressive) manner. I suspect once one has experienced a Super-O through either approach, Anerosession or pegging, the Super-O state of mind may also be induced through various other activities (e.g. nipple stimulation) as well, so long as one is willing to adopt a passive, non-ego control/driven attitude.
Good Vibes to You !

Excellent point, rumel.

I think you've identified why it's not the mechanics of sex that matter, but the mental attitude, unless there's an underlying physical pathology, like nerve damage. If it's true that the user's mindset is the main ingredient of success for prostate orgasms, the people who market sex toys like Aneros have a problem. They can sell the hardware easily enough, but the software has to be obtained elsewhere. Perhaps the instructions that are packaged with Aneros should say somehthing about this issue.

Best Regards,

Dave

So last night I got to try my new Fun Factory Share. Although solo, not with a partner. So this is my initial review about it from the male receiving end perspective. Keep in mind my point of view may be biased as my only other dildo to compare it to is my Feeldoe More. And I've used that many times and have gotten used to it. Where as I only have one session with the Share so far.

First impressions before actually trying it are that I like the softer silicone (as compared to the traditional Feeldoe models) as it has some flexibility and give. Although the finish is a textured matte, as opposed to the smooth shiny finish on the Feeldoe models. The silicone in the Share doesn't appear to have an odor that I can detect. Where as my Feeldoe More most definitely has a chemical smell. I love the bubble gum pink color I chose! It say feminine to me and is close-ish to skin color, implying a penis, but without being skin color.

I'm including another review as I also bought at the same time a device called the Trinity Vibes Lubricant Launcher. In terms of it's function it is the same idea as the Lubricant Applicator that they sell on the Aneros web site here, but far, far more superior for not a whole lot more money than what Aneros charges for theirs. It's only two pieces rather than three, so less to clean, and easier, and quicker to do so. But the most important part for me is the comfort of insert. Due to it's shape, it went in easily and painlessly, and dispensed the lube with no difficulty. Where as with the Lubricant Applicator that Aneros sells, I've always had difficulty with insertion being anywhere from painful to uncomfortable no matter how well I've lubed my anus prior to inserting. (and this is coming from a guy that has had five years plus of anal play, so is very experienced) It gets the job done, but it's not a great device. That applicator tip is awful. Aneros/HIH should sell the Lubricant Launcher instead. It also includes, two other applicator/syringe bodies (perhaps for multiple partners, or one for anal, one for vaginal), and a cap so you can load it with lube in advance if needed without leaking.

Back to the Share...
Initial insertion was difficult, but not for the reasons you'd necessarily think of trying to jam a dildo in your ass. LOL It's more that because the silicone is so soft, the shaft tends to bend as I was trying to get it in. Once I got it in after many tries, I realized that it didn't move or go deeper into me anywhere near as easily as the Feeldoe More. It's like it would get stuck in one area, and then as I pushed or pulled on on it, it would jolt in inch or so at once rather than move smoothly. I kept trying at it, but continued to have this problem. Now keep in mind that some of this may have been my level of relaxation not being enough, and also maybe a stronger anal muscle tone from working with the Eupho lately, and not having used a dildo in a bit. Future sessions with the Share may reveal a different story as I become more familiar and experienced with it. But I also account some of this to the textured matte finish on the Share and the unusual shape of the shaft. (on a side note, this textured matte finish is probably helpful for the woman wearing the driving end to hold it in)

So what I did was wash it off and then put a condom on it. That made it much better. But then I had problems of wrinkles/creases in the condom that were noticeably felt. Either I need to be more careful putting it on to avoid this, or the shape of the shaft just makes it not possible to go on smoothly. Anyways, I was able to insert and move it in and out much more easily with the condom on it. As I became accustomed to it, I found that even though it is smaller than the Feeldoe More, it provides just as much stimulation and sensation to my anus and prostate. The only difference is it does not go as deep, which I'm not really sold on the flared base of the shaft as being a good idea since it limits the total depth of the shaft length that can be inserted. But, it could be a non-issue. What I found unique about the sensation it provides is because of the smaller size and flexibility of the Share, it had this sort of worm like feeling in me as I thrust it in and out which reminded of a similar sensation I sometimes get with Aneros prostate massager's. I rather liked that.

I think my future sessions with the Share will be to try and see if I can get used to and enjoy using it without a condom. If not, see if I can get a condom on it with no wrinkles. In addition to seeing if initial insertion becomes any easier.

So that's my take on the Share. I'll update to this if I have any further insights through continued practice with it. Or if people have questions that I might be able to answer, I'd be happy to reply in this thread.

Hello, Love_is.

I agree, the only problem with Share is the requirement for LOTS of lube and re-lube due to the matte texture. A less important issue with it is the very wide flare at the base, where it gets to be almost 2 inches in diameter. That's a stretch for me and my wife can't easily tell when she's pushed it that far.

Cheers,

Dave

Thanks Dave. Have you found that you have acclimated to the textured matte finish of the Share? Does it move smoothly in and out of you? And what sort of lube are you using with the Share? I so far have only used Slippery Stuff Gel.

I'm not bothered by the flared base of the dildo end in terms of discomfort or pain. It actually felt quite nice as I gently pushed it in farther with little thrusts. And could see that this could be another technique for the woman on the other end to gently nudge it in with pelvic thrusts. Sort of the equivalent of my experience as a guy trying to get my cock buried as deeply in the woman's pussy as possible. It's more that it limits the practical length it can go in.

I’ve used my wife’s Share a few times, and used Slippery Stuff Gel; generally I used two tubes of it with my Lube Launcher, and generously coated the Share with same, and it seemed to work well. The first time, I’d used The Plug to loosen up, and lying on my back with the Share facing both forwards and backwards, by slowly thrusting my hips and waggling my penis a few times, things snowballed really fast, and had a spectacular HFWO – biggest to record. The next time took a little longer, and the few times after that, I could not achieve any kind of O with it inside. I’m inclined to attribute it to a steadily bulging disk at the sacrum, which apparently impends on the nerves to the prostate, degenerating to the point where I now require surgery (which is why I haven’t been here for a while; my computer chair is a contributor to the problem).

Since my vas several years ago, I have no need to purchase condoms (and trying to justify purchasing them would not go over well), so I have no point of reference on how that might improve the slipperiness, but maybe you should get ‘snugger fit’ or ‘slender’ condoms, which should eliminate the wrinkles when applying and using them.

Can/Dare you try Vaseline on the Share? It’s not silicone, but I haven’t heard much on using oil-based lubes on silicone devices, mainly because women generally can’t use oil-based lubes in their vagina. Does anybody know about using oil-based lubes on silicone devices?

Badger and Love_is;

We use Vaseline covered with Walnut Oil on the Share; lots of oil. It's kind of messy but that's why the towel is on the bed. The Share moves in and out easily enough, though it does require way more lube than the Feeldoe or the Nexus Senior Double.

Cheers,

Dave

Thanks for the information and ideas guys. It's very helpful. I'll eventually try the Share with Shea butter when I get around to it. As sometimes when my Aneros sessions end, I'll try the Feeldoe. So I imagine this will happen at some point. I still haven't had a second try with the Share. Life circumstances and desire to do so get in the way at times.

And Badger, sorry to hear about your back. I hope you get better. 🙂

Has anyone heard of Un-petroleum Jelly? It's mostly vitamin E, beeswax, and coconut oil, castor oil (both regular and hydrogenated). It's on sale now for about $3 plus shipping for a 3.5 oz tube, so it doesn't seem too expensive.

That sounds a bit like the "Natural Jelly" that many of us cook up.

Best thing about 'home made' Natural Jelly is you can mixed to the viscosity you want.
10:1 beeswax and walnut oil is won't hold it's shape
10:1 beeswax and sweet almond oil a just holds its shape for a short while
10:1 beeswax and castor oil firmer still and will hold its shape for a while (slump in grano terms)

Hello, isvara.

I'm impressed by the guys here who have enough determination to make their own lube. The off-the-shelf materials like Vaseline, Crisco, and vegetable oil are so easy to get, cheap and effective that I've never bothered cooking anything up. But I have to say, now I'm curious about whether the homemade stuff might improve an already great Aneros experience. One of these days...

Cheers,

Dave

Oops
I really got my mixes round the wrong way.
10:1 beeswax and oil would rock hard and useless
It should have read 10 oil to 1 beeswax