Hubby has used the Peridise several times now with limited results (mostly limited to enhancing his orgasm when I go down on him, enjoyable for both of us), but something someone else here said on one of my other posts has gotten me to wondering-
Would it be possible to give hubby a Super-O by manual stimulation alone?
I suspect at least part of the problem with the Peridise is that it IS a toy, and while he doesn't mind me having and using toys-I got a Rabbit for Mother's Day, too cool 😆 - he has some kind of block about using them himself. Even toys he's bought for himself haven't worked out too well and have gone into the trash. The medical benefits of the Peridise and a desire to please me have kept him continuing to try with this one, and I really believe that as his body gets used to the idea it will work, but until he gets over that "hump" so to speak, I know that manual stimulation works and works well. If I can introduce him to what an ejaculation-free orgasm feels like it might help him relax with his toys; on the other hand, if I see and hear him experiencing so much pleasure I'm not sure I'd be able to restrain myself from getting him off, but I'd be willing to try, lol. Frequently if needed. 😉
Hi Buttercup,
Hubby will have to get the super-O without manual stimulation (at first), or it more that likely will lead to a regular wet orgasm, not that it does not feel wonderful!!
If you can convince him, that to get that super-O he may need to be rewired first, and to do that, it needs to be done without touch.
See if he is willing to have some free time on his own to discover his feelings, and feel those body sensations. He may also need another type of Aneros for the rewire and super-O.
Hi buttercup
It does seem as though you two are making progress. Good!
Yes you can give him repeated Super-Os manually. mrs. a gave me my first and many strings of them thereafter!!! While I can get many levels of Os with my aneros, and am just starting to enjoy my new Helix and its fuller, more contact feel, there is nothing quite like the friendly finger of a loving partner caressing gently (very lightly) and then standing back ever so slightly and teasing the eager prostate/muscle-wall forward to re-contact!!! It can move and take hold of your finger...
If there is a significant difference, I think that the aneros (MGX is the model I used exclusively until my Sublime set [Helix and Eupho] arrived recently) produces stronger, more consistent day-after effects and it is the only way really to advance with the muscle memory training that can potentially enable him to produce the stimulation effects at will, without the aneros in.
Hope this answers something of your question. All the best to you both.
artform
Hi artform, yes, you are correct... I guess I should have said not when touching the penis only...
Hi buttercup,
Read Evil-Zombie's post on trigger spots. Massaging from the scrotum to close to the anus my wife is able to find a couple of spots that sets me off on a medium O. I've never gotten to a super O this way but some real pleasurable rides have taken place. It took my wife a while to find the right spots but now she is very good at it and gets me going in a minute or two. This is also a great technique while she is giving me head, really gets me off, if you are looking for ejaculation.
We've never done this with the aneros in, I would like to try but my wife isn't interested. You take what you can get, no complaints.
Catchemup
Hi buttercup, skeeter_g and catchmeup
I just posted a new entry in my blog here and changed its title slightly. The subject may be helpful and, catchmeup, we too had times during the session described where my wife, mrs. a, was also massaging my key spot along my perineum! Touch for Ecstasy!
We find focusing on these energies and energetic responses a real positive. The ability for a man to train his lower abdomen muscles and nerve systems using Aneros, including the bonus of later use of these skills without the Aneros in, is truly a great gift. Being quietly open to the initially tiny delicate signals, relaxing and letting them develop seems to be a key to success.
All the best to all.
artform
Hi buttercup,
Read Evil-Zombie's post on trigger spots. Massaging from the scrotum to close to the anus my wife is able to find a couple of spots that sets me off on a medium O. I've never gotten to a super O this way but some real pleasurable rides have taken place. It took my wife a while to find the right spots but now she is very good at it and gets me going in a minute or two. This is also a great technique while she is giving me head, really gets me off, if you are looking for ejaculation.
We've never done this with the aneros in, I would like to try but my wife isn't interested. You take what you can get, no complaints.
C
atchemup
the trigger spots do work...ladies..with his aneros in...rake ur fingers just below his balls...side to sde...see what reaction u get..winks?
Thank you all, can't wait for hubby to get home from work tomorrow, lol. Looking forward to trying everything suggested; evil-zombie, I've tried that before to no avail, but am willing to give it another go.
He was hard before he left for work tonight, gives me something to think about too. 😆 I have a feeling it's gonna be another GREAT weekend!
If you can convince him, that to get that super-O he may need to be rewired first, and to do that, it needs to be done without touch.
Sorry, but I disagree with this - I have had super-o's while masturbating on/off with the aneros inside me. I think that posts like this, that tend to "forbid" any kind of touching, may have a tendency to make some men think that they can't acheive a super-o while touching themselves or masturbating - which is NOT the case. Men need to be able to get in touch with their bodies, and identify the various stages of arousal, and what feels good, etc..
Hi Bonerowner,
yep, you are correct... I posted one other short post on this thread to complete my thought, but it still was not enough. sorry....
I still believe, that rewire, of mind and body, if a person is NEW to the process, it MAY help to have some type of restraint from touch, but, only to NEW users or when you are NEW to using this type of toy. Why... I think it leads to a person understanding the super-O feeling much faster. A lot of folks here on this site have a hard time even finding the super-O, would this help? Who knows for sure.
This is ONLY my opinion, but I think a heck of a lot of men have a hard time trying to have dry super-O's and touching their penis at the same time..... but, ONLY WHEN NEW to the process.
As time goes by, and one becomes much more proficient with super-O's, and we are more willing to have fun with our wives, or life partner, everything is up for grabs.
I understand, exactly what you are saying, and agree with you, as I do not have a problem having super-O's with or without touch/Aneros. In fact, now my wife can touch my trigger spot on my penis and start super-O's without me ejaculating, but when I was new to the process and my prostate was not use to that process, I was not able to stop ejaculation. heck, I did not even know I had a trigger spot.
If it was understood that I meant it was "forbidden" for touch, than again I messed up.
I think you are also correct when saying a man needs to get in touch with his body... I totally agree, and by all means, have the wife help as well!!
I hope this helps clear up my post, and I hope buttercup will be able to work with her husband to their mutual sexual satisfaction, that is the ultimate goal after all.