Aneros Devices Changed Our Marriage For the Better

During our sessions with my wife massaging me with our first toy, I could tell she was intrigued by my prostate.  Her bare breasts would catch my eye and my prostate would reel with pleasure.  My fingers would brush the flesh of her thigh and electricity would shoot up my spine.  It seemed to me that I had, earlier, come across something about prostate orgasms and decided to do some research.

Of course, that led me to this forum, which I had missed, previously. As I read through the forum, my prostate would tingle and I knew I was on to something, so I pulled the trigger and purchased a Helix Trident. 

Like many, the first few times left me underwhelmed and I immediately thought it was too small.  So, I bought a Progasm.  Then, I was like "dang, this is too big" and got a Progasm Jr.  It took about two months of trying different things before I revisited the information in this forum.  I calmed down and followed the advice.  One night I was relaxing in the bath and after about an hour, my heart started racing and and I could feel something building.  I kept at it.  Suddenly, electricity shot up my spine and I saw a flash of blue. I couldn't hold on to it for long but it was incredible.  I kept taking baths every few nights but nothing quite like that happened again.

To this point in our sex life, my wife had not had an orgasm (she thought she had but I didn't think so). She had recently told me, though, that she wanted me to go down on her. Every time I did, she would moan with pleasure until she begged me to enter her and finish. This is what I would think about during my baths while I used the Aneros.  I would leave the bath super horny and head to bed to have fun with my wife. One night, I did this without removing the Aneros.  As I was pleasuring her, the device was massaging me, and that feeling mixed with her noises cemented a connection between my prostate and her pleasure.

That night, I introduced her to the Aneros and told her what it was doing.  She wanted to see it work so I showed her.  I explained rewiring and the fact that my nipples were super sensitive and connected directly to my pleasure areas. So, of course, she went right down and started to suck one nipple and play with the other.  It drove me crazy. She was enjoying it!

After a little while, I decided to try to guide her to orgasm and introduced a clitoral-sucking toy.  Because of our Aneros play, she was open to trying it.  On the second time I used it on her, she came hard.  It was so strong and unexpected that she broke down in tears.  Now, she begs for it. She loves the anticipation and gets so horny that she can't wait to orgasm.  This never would have happened without a toy and the toy would not have happened without me sharing the Aneros with her first.

It's been two years since I introduced her to the Aneros and we started this incredible journey together.  She loves finding the next level of pleasure that she can bring me and is now willing to bring it even when we're not going to end with sex. 

I introduced her to edging over the Christmas break this last year.  Since I have discovered the pleasures of not ejaculating and she is against making me ejaculate outside of her, edging is a perfect balance for us.  Because of the rewiring I have done, her rubbing me to edge is bliss.  It is intense and amazing like nothing before and it builds up my arousal for the next encounter.  Recently, she discovered a technique that has me writhing and moaning with pleasure.  Since she's usually the vocal one, she really gets off on this.  She will wait until it seems like I can't take any more and then put her mouth on my nipple and send me over the moon.

Just recently, she was doing this during foreplay and couldn't take it any more.  She pleaded for an orgasm right then and I obliged.  She came fast and hard, she was so worked up.  So was I.  I was wearing my Eupho Trident and when I mounted her and began thrusting, I could feel energy in my prostate building.  At first, I thought I was having a traditional orgasm but it was going on for like 20 seconds.  Just when it was subsiding, I jumped right into the regular-O with ejaculation.  I couldn't believe it.  I had finally had a prostate orgasm and it led right into a traditional that felt amazing.  When I told my wife, she actually cheered for joy!  I hadn't realized she was rooting for me so hard to have a prostate orgasm.

More and more, we are opening up to each other and discovering higher levels of pleasure.  I can't help but wonder what would have happened if I had bought the Aneros in the early days.  Of course, I don't regret anything because now, after all these years, we are rediscovering each other in new and amazing ways.  Now, we are headed down the path to the Super-O and she's all in.

@Moeseph, it is always delightful to hear such positive stories of couples bonding at deeper levels of intensity and intimacy. It is testimonials such as this which may help other men overcome their own misguided notions of taboo behavior and open themselves up to the surreal level of pleasure couple participation may provide. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope your journey with your wife continues to expand into even higher realms of orgasmic delight.

As I noted in @helghast 's thread, you may also consider the unisex Peridise & TEMPO models, you might wish to entertain giving your wife one of these deceptively simple, yet highly pleasurable, little devices - see A Woman in "Peridise" by @lynn2694.

Good Vibes to You!

@moeseph excellent posts! Thanks for sharig!

@rumel, perhaps the site should host a 'couple's corner' for inspiring posts such as the ones from @moeseph and @helghast.  It could help entice more members to share their own unique couple's experience revolving around Aneros.

 No two couple's stories are the same but they are all interesting to read.  It proves how very different couples and individuals really are making this an interesting world to live in.

@moeseph super post! It’s really great when wife is involved isn’t it? 

Posted by: @moeseph

Her bare breasts would catch my eye and my prostate would reel with pleasure. 

Oh yea! I love my wife’s breasts,d cups,and now in her 40’s they have a lovely hang and swing,shes slotted into milfhood perfectly. The night we played and she was riding her dildo,her beasts were rocking right in front of my face,I was in heaven. Nothing like a naked woman to spike the arousal ha ha 

@ggringo you could be on to something. I hope more guys have the courage to bring the wife on,I’ve often wondered do many guys hide the journey from the wife. Her reaction might surprise them! 

I am so envious of these stories! I brought up the subject of Aneros to my wife probably 2.5 years ago. It took her a while to come around to the idea, but she agreed and I purchased the Eupho Syn as my first Aneros toy. While she accepted that I would buy an Aneros, she hasn’t been intrigued or turned on by it. We had sex once with the Eupho inserted and I had the most amazing orgasm with her riding on top of me. Unfortunately for us, instead of her being excited by my amazing orgasm, she seemed more jealous that I could get off like that from a “piece of plastic”. I haven’t used it during sex since, but would love to find a way to get her more interested/supportive in my journey. Those of you that have wives that willingly engage in your prostate play are incredibly fortunate! I hope to join that group some day.

Thank you all for the great encouragement. @helghast, thank you for your posts.  It was the catalyst I needed to finally write mine.  It was tough for me to decide to open up to her in the beginning (even though she was involved, at first) and I did it initially only out of physical discomfort and the need to release.  I always wondered if she thought I was weird or something.  Two years ago, when I brought the Aneros to bed, it came from a place of trust and feeling confident in being vulnerable with her.

@Ggringo, I love the idea of a “Couple’s Corner” and the idea that it could bring more people out of the Aneros “closet”, so to speak.  The rewiring process alone has made me more aware of pleasure during the buildup to orgasm and removed the need to ejaculate for release.  This in turn has made our sex life a lot more fun and fulfilling.

@rumel, I completely agree with helping to get rid of the taboo of anal play.  It has opened up so much for us, especially the idea that you don’t have to have traditional orgasms with ejaculation to be fulfilled all the time.

I do own the Peridise set and the Tempo and I have brought it up to her that she might enjoy it.  She didn’t completely shut it down so I think there’s hope, I just can’t push it or she will shut it down. Besides, if she is uncomfortable, she won’t have fun, anyway. I am shocked that I missed that peridise post by Lynn (or don’t remember reading it, which I highly doubt).  Thank you for sharing the link, it sounds like she had a lot of fun. 

As for the Vivi, my wife is completely against anything inside her vagina that’s not me.  She is very firm on that so I won’t push it.  She’s still pretty new to the whole orgasm thing, in reality.  Even just me inside her while stimulating her clit is too much and she has a hard time climaxing.  Right now, it’s best if she’s super horny and can lay back and relax while being pleasured.  If there’s anything on her mind, she has a hard time getting there.

I have definitely been the adventurous one in the relationship but she has really come around recently.  She used to just want quick foreplay then for me to finish and either get on with the day or go to sleep, depending on the time.  Now, she wants to draw out the foreplay and when she gets hot enough, she craves her toy and an orgasm.  It is showing in her behavior, now, too, when she is excited.  I can tell by the way she kisses me goodbye in the morning that she’s going to want to play that night.

A few weeks ago, I bought a simple pegging set and showed it to her.  I told her what it was and that she could massage my prostate and her hands would be free to stimulate other parts.  I left it at that until this weekend when we were both really riled up.  She pulled out the set and asked if we could try it.  Just like our first few weeks of marriage, we had a super fun, awkward time trying to figure it all out.  It felt great but we spent a lot of time giggling at the silliness.

I highly encourage anyone who has not involved their partner in their Aneros journey to consider it.  As for the taboo, it’s always tough opening yourself up to judgement but, if the person really is with you for the long haul, they will hopefully appreciate the fact that you shared such a deep secret with them and put yourself out there.  I had imagined all the ways that I would have to deal with her judging me and shutting me down when I brought it to her.  None of that happened and it was an instant bonding experience.   

@moeseph your welcome,have you considered buying her a magic wand to play with? Possibly the greatest toy ever created for women. It could possible open her up to some serious multiple orgasms. 

• Posted by: @moeseph

  Two years ago, when I brought the Aneros to bed, it came from a place of trust and feeling confident in being vulnerable with her.

  The part I’ve wrestled with the most,accepting that vulnerability.

@7sdoor maybe tell her you wanna get back to it,get her her own toys and do it mutually. 

@7sDoor, I think its great that you brought it up to her.  About her jealousy that the piece of plastic helped give you a great orgasm, have you tried toys with her?  It may help put it into perspective (at least it did for us).  

My wife thought she was having orgasms for 16 years of our marriage.  What she was actually doing was hyperventilating and feeling dizzy.  It’s still euphoric feeling but it’s no orgasm.  

When I introduce the clit-sucking toy and she finally gave it a try, she realized what she had been missing.  I can’t get her there without the toy.  To me, it’s a tool to make me more efficient.  I can’t change a tire without a lug wrench and that doesn’t take away from my value as a mechanic (hopefully that makes sense...).

The type of toys I am talking about don’t require penetration so it’s a gentle introduction. Some examples of these are: Womanizer (why, I don’t know), Satisfier, and Sona.  Some of these are pretty expensive when you’re not sure she will like it but you can also find some less expensive ones online, too.  My wife’s favorite is by Adorime and looks like a rose. 

The biggest realization for me, however, was that I couldn’t push.  Whenever I pushed too hard for something new in the early days, she would shut down.  Now that she knows that I won’t push her when she’s not comfortable, she has no problem saying “Not now” and then coming around to it later on.

Really, I am not trying to sound like a sage with all the answers ‘cuz I don’t have ‘em.  I can only speak to my relationship with my wife. Every person and relationship are different but hopefully, some of the lessons I learned can help another couple find their sexual awesomeness.

I can, however, give out lots and lots of encouragement to just be honest and enjoy each other any ways that you can.

@helghast, if you mean like the Hitachi magic wand, we do have an off-brand one that she loves! She doesn’t go for multiples, though.  She gets sensitive and doesn’t enjoy it once she’s climaxed.  

@moeseph Thats awesome! Quite the journey for both of you it sounds like and a great way to bring some new spice into ones marriage! 

@helghast

I have always dreamed of doing some mutual pleasuring with my wife! I even bought her the Aneros Evi. She tried it on her own once and said it was really painful. She may not have been sufficiently aroused at the time. She hasn’t been that interested in mutual masturbation over the years, but I might need to work on that.

@moeseph

I have bought some toys for her that she really likes. She has a vibrating dildo and a little bullet vibrator that we use during sex from time to time. I have also used some vibrating cock rings that she has really enjoyed. I keep thinking I need to get her a Magic Wand because that seems to be the ultimate in vibrators. I know there is an adventurous sexual woman in there...I just need to inspire her to come out more often.

@moeseph I was blessed with open communication in my relationship. I’m not ashamed to admit that my wife taught me how her clit and vagina worked. I used to think I could just keep rubbing it and she’d cum forever,that’s not really how it worked ha ha She said like guys,after an orgasm the clit becomes super sensitive. She’ll orgasm with her wand,but then put it down and go back to using her vibrator in her vagina. Or maybe stroke her vagina with the wand until the sensitivity has passed. Don’t give up on the wand,she just wants to use it how she likes it.Personally I think it practically guarantees orgasm for women.

@7sdoor when your in bed naked with her,just start stroking and see if she’ll join in,ask her to stroke or throw her a vibe and tell her to have a bash at it,all she can do is say no lol.

I introduced my wife to the Aneros for the first time a few weeks ago. I had a good amount of trepidation leading up to the moment but she didn't even seem phased by it which was nice. I went for the Progasm Jr. From my fairly large collection. She didn't seem very curious about the mechanics of it. I inserted and we engaged in traditional sex. Felt good having my inards massaged as I came inside her.

@reddog152 that’s really cool,have you any plans to show here some multiple orgasms? 

Posted by: @helghast

@reddog152 that’s really cool,have you any plans to show here some multiple orgasms? 

 

I wish! I still haven't gotten to the Super O.

@reddog152 she could maybe help if she’s willing,nobody knows what’s makes you tick better than she does. 

@moeseph thanks for sharing! The story is kinda inspiring

I wish my marriage was smth like that...

Well done Moeseph!  I wish every man this level of Aneros success in his marriage, or more!  I find it inspiring and have something to look forward to when I find the right woman someday.  I also think having a Couple's Corner section is a brilliant idea, one that I hope Aneros will implement.  But we have to have (more) people willing to contribute to keep it going...

Thank you all for the support (as if I expected anything different from this group), I made this post hoping to help others take the leap to try and/or introduce Aneros within their marriage.  

To your point about contributing, @Faith-Manages, it does not come naturally for me to share stuff like this.  It even took a while for me to talk about this stuff with my wife.  But, when I did, only great things came from it and I hope to encourage others with what I have learned.

Thanks, again, for all of the kind words.  The posts on this forum have encouraged me a lot on this journey.  I also love all of the “out-of-the-box” ideas that you all have when it comes to trying something new and pleasurable. Keep it coming!

Wow this thread ROCKS!!

I started Aneros play in 2004 primarily because I told my wife about it (it was so brand new we couldn't believe it would actually work...I lol about this all the time now!!) and told her what it could do for a man and his orgasm, prostate health, etc. and she said "well, if it makes you cum harder or have orgasms without touching your cock, GO FOR IT!!" Luckily, my wife is addicted to my orgasms and ejaculations and really loves anything that gets me off, including her own abilities 😉

I treated Aneros and all anal play as mostly alone time for me. My wife has always given me as much time and opportunity to play with myself as I've ever wanted. Mainly because we had sex so damn often, she was never without sex with me! We've just always been totally in love with each other's sex, sex drive, orgasms, genitals, and everything else between, to the side, below, above, etc.. More times than I can count she's been with me in various ways while I'm using Aneros (and other toys). Sometimes we have intercourse while I have a toy in me, sometimes she sucks me, sometimes a hand job, sometimes a Lingam massage (wow guys you gotta get your lady to do this to you while a toy is in you...topic for another day!!), sometimes she'd masturbate watching me have Os with the toy in me, etc.. She's been pegging me (occasionally, not a whole lot, but enough) for over 10 years too and she loves the dominant role and she gets so hot and wet that by the time I'm done she needs it so bad and having sex with her after being pegged is just, its just...I can't even describe it. Its insane!

How did we get to this point? Open communication! All we've ever done is have casual conversations about sex OUTSIDE OF THE BEDROOM. This is important. I know some of y'all men here are just broaching the topic with your partners, or even just starting out with anal/prostate play and stimulation. But my take on it 17 years ago was to ask her what she thought about it all and if she thought it was worth it FOR ME. Its my openness she loves so much and its helped her get comfy with her own sexuality and everything related. But for real, our intimacy and sex life has always been insanely vibrant and wild (and frequent!) because we talk about sex like we talk about dinner, a movie, work, our friends, our families, etc.. When we talk sex, we talk about it in the morning before work or during the day when we're off, or in the afternoon on a walk or after dinner when we're chillin out. Talking about this is key! Especially if your female partners are new to all of this.

Do you guys on this thread talk about sex casually with your partners? Do they ever bring it up to you? How do your conversations about sex usually go? And, what is topic: issues, problems, fun stuff, questions, complaints, or what?

My first, recognizable prostate O (hands-free) came at the hands of my wife. I was doing a 13 day abstinence and waiting to cum with her on our 13th wedding anniversary and on day 8 I did some prostate massage to alleviate pressure and did the session with her. Nothing new, she'd been with me for countless sessions at that point. My O came from using a gspot wand, a simple plain one by today's standards, but it was with HER and she was using the toy on me (until I knew I needed a "push" and took it over from her and pushed it into me deeper than she was going and I had my O!). After that we had a new connection and deeper bond with everything sexual. I had waited and tried for about 10 years to finally have an O like that and the fact she helped and was there, and it was fun fun fun, it was amazing!

Here's to our lovely ladies and all the fun and love we share with them! My hat is off to you guys here who have loving, willing women to share this wonderful thing with. And yes, a Couples Corner is a cool idea, I'm so very into it! I have lots more to share on this, lots and lots more. After 23 years of intense, constant sex together we've done so many things. I'd love a place to talk more about this especially for men on the fence with bringing Aneros and prostate play to their loved ones in their bedrooms (or living rooms, or kitchens, or wherever you make the whoopie happen!).

@moeseph has your wife ever had a g-spot orgasm? It sounds like all things orgasm are still kind of new to her and clitoral Os are happening. But, any g-spot stimulation and accompanying orgasm?

I know you said she is strongly against anything except your erection inside of her. I get it. My wife isn't really into insertable toys either, never has been, she's very clit-oriented and prefers to masturbate her clit and not use toys inside her. But, with my finger I've stroked her g-spot and that always led to...eruptive results! She used to be a heavy squirter but she wound up losing that ability (probably due to the pill and hormone changes, who knows). Regardless of female ejaculation, her g-spot Os are really powerful and when blended with clitoris she's to the moon and back!

G-spot stimulation and orgasm is really important for women, so I've read. There is a certain kind of "release" that the g-spot triggers that can be deeply emotional and provides an almost "cleanse"-type effect on their psyche and well being. If she isn't having Os from your penetrating her, she isn't have g-spot orgasms. Not that she or any woman NEEDS to have one, there are just certain benefits to g-spot orgasms that really healthy and amazing for women.

So, here's something you (and any men out there) could try: use your Aneros toys on her. Clean and sterile, of course! But, we must not believe that the Aneros is a Male-only toy because it's made for the "prostate." I've used several Aneros models in my wife's vagina and OMG she cums like a beast from them!! I push it into her and leave it alone, her vagina slightly grips the toy, the stem is thinner than the body so it helps it stay in her, and even when her clit is not stimulated, the toy begins to move on its own and her vaginal muscles make it move as they ripple and convulse with her pleasure. Some models will turn 90 degrees to the right as she's getting off on them, and then they rotate back to the top all on their own!!! Very cool! When clit is brought in, well, its a storm of orgasms for her 😉 When I hold the base of the toy and move it in and out of her gently and slowly, like an inch or less of movement, her g-spot is adequately and perfectly stimulated and she cums so amazingly. All I can say is the Aneros, really any model, has the absolute potential to bring a woman to orgasm. No women's toys on the market are like the Aneros, yet this toy, made for a man, can bring a woman to knee-buckling, toe-curling sexual delight.

Anyone should try this! Just clean the shit out of your toys and then you wear one in your ass while she wears one in her vagina and have the most fun you can 🙂 Trust me on this, it should work out well for your women!

@techpump right on! Nice addition to a nice thread. Congrats on your happy sexy couple life. I agree that it is all about communication outside of the bedroom.  Nothing should be left unsaid, and putting words to shared sexuality adds to the magic and the closeness in a relationship. 

Posted by: @techpump

Wow this thread ROCKS!!

Here's to our lovely ladies and all the fun and love we share with them! My hat is off to you guys here who have loving, willing women to share this wonderful thing with. And yes, a Couples Corner is a cool idea, I'm so very into it! I have lots more to share on this, lots and lots more. After 23 years of intense, constant sex together we've done so many things. I'd love a place to talk more about this especially for men on the fence with bringing Aneros and prostate play to their loved ones in their bedrooms (or living rooms, or kitchens, or wherever you make the whoopie happen!).

@techpump, it's great to read about the openness of your conjugal sex experiences.   Many other members would certainly take theopportunity to open up in the same manner in the right platform.  Hopefully,  @support will chime in and consider creating a section for couples.

There are two sides to couple's stories; one like @helghast, @techpump, @moeseph, @reddog152 and others where their wife is fully engaged and others who live in a totally opposite scenario, a sexless marriage. 

To be able access couple's stories in a specific area of the site would be great!

@techpump, as you guessed, she has not had a g-spot orgasm.  As she opens up to it, I think we will get there and I’m not going to rush it.  She is easily satisfied with wherever she is at so it’s usually me that introduces new things.  

I completely agree with all of the comments about communication and discussion outside of the bedroom.  Talking is a giant turn-on for my wife and it definitely opens her up to trying new things when we’ve talked about it first.

You have all proposed so many great ideas and new things to bring to her!