Would the Tempo do for my wife what it does for me..?

I. Can't type. #thumbsup!

I do wonder how many men know that at some point...a woman may think she knows what she wants or needs or what feels good and what she wont like etc...but to be honest there are plenty of times when one has to be lead to new things, and are often pleasently surprised at the outcome. I think there is something invigorating when a man knows what you need more than you...or at least has a notion. The way i see it is this...all of these guys exploring the wonders of prostate orgasm and stimulation probably understand much more than the simple penile focused man how fulfilling it is to have a more complete orgasmic picture. I wonder how many of you truly know (this coming from a woman who has had a troubled past when it comes to orgasms) sex goes to a whole different level when more than clitoral orgasms are had. The delimma of goal orientation is completely wiped out (usually...there are exceptions but few) when the gspot is unlocked. So in short...guys please stop caving to these women. You are not crazy to want them to experience more, in fact you are doing (or at least trying) something that more women need that alone is to be applauded. Stop listening to what she thinks her mind wants...and give her what she needs.

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@devajones Ok she says she will do it for me, I want her to want it, or it feels funny doing it. Should I just do it then? Even if she is not initially into it?

I explained to you once privately about her trying a very small butt plug just for me and acting like I had stuck an oak tree in her butt. I am not really sure what to do to persuade her to try the peridise or Tempo without me feeling like I am "ass raping" her which makes me feel bad about myself.

@devajonesSorry if I butt in here.
@xtimedt69
No! Don't get her to do anything she's not comfortable with, even if it's 'for you'. If you can awaken her gspot with the technique described above over time you will find she becomes much more open to trying things of an anal nature & may even ask you for it. It will change everything. Forget the anal thing until you have awakened her gspot & then it will come to you.

@Jazzer her gspot is awake, she gets 90% there she is throbbing and then she makes me stop and makes me screw her. She will not go all the way to the BIG one. She says she likes it better with me inside her than when she cums on her own.

Like I said before, she stops you because she feels the urge to pee. That's natural. If you are going to 'force' anything in this then that is the time to go for it! Things will sound wet when you're close. Like devajones said 'stop giving her what she thinks she wants & give her what she needs'.

@Jazzer no worries guy...i think you are totally right when it comes to doing things a woman is not comfortable that street goes both ways, for instance that time i forced this guy to take my largest dildo....ok...didnt really do that i'm joking LOL i totally agree though about forcing. Thing is...she is constantly getting close and going to what she knows...she is going to the safe zone. In his case...yes (because i know a bit about their relationship this technique would work...some other relationships i would NEVER suggest this) push her...when she begs for it ignore her. I truly believe she is getting close to something she's never had before and trepidation sets in. @xtimedt69 your relationship is strong enough to take this small test and as a matter of fact will probably strengthen it. So for all others reading this...proceed with caution and remember everything outside the bedroom does effect everything in the bedroom...please take into account your personal situation. I do think in time after she knows what will happen and that she wont die...ok maybe le petit mort...but not a real death her attitute may change...but we'll never know until you try and i for one am dying to know the verdict. I do understand you wanting it though...i feel the same when the other party is not enjoying it or wanting it as much as me, however i never wanted gspot stim before...nor gspot orgasms...it took a guy to lead me to that revelation of what i was missing and how one sided i was. also how much i retreat to a safe zone in sex if i'm allowed to. So i can relate and respect all the perspectives.

@devajones Well, I have discussed it with her just using the small Peridise, I have explained how hot it would be, how it just might feel good, how ya never know till you try etc. I have tried rubbing her rear during sex and she moved like there is some magnetic force pushing the opposite direction.

@Jazzer I have tried to keep going she will forcefully grab my hand and pull it out.

@Jazzer @devajones I neglected to mention that she has experienced gspot O before. It was several years ago she went with it, she came really hard in waves, no squirting. She has done that maybe twice. Telling this part was just an oversight. But i adds to my mystery, if she did something that made me feel like that (like pegging .... see pegging thread) I would definitely want it again!

If I ask, she says she likes cumming with me inside her. Maybe she gets something bigger from it that we think.

Hmmmmm .... this was a strange turn of events .... I imagine triggered by this discussion.


Yesterday I told her I woke up (this is true) dreaming I was screwing her with the white toy in her ass (Peridise, she knows what it is) and I had a throbbing boner that was so hard it hurt!!! All true. She listened and didn't say too much.


She likes working in the yard and I am not allowed, she says the yard is her therapy. She took the day off yesterday and we had a really nice day. She did her yard work, I smoked some pulled pork etc. We also got some dirt for her GIANT flower bed and afterward the bed of my truck was all dirty and we were sweeping it out, when the neighbor came over with his cordless blower (this will all tie together in a second) and he blew my truck bed out, and I was looking at the blower, because she has one of those gas blowers and never wants to start. I asked her if she would like a cordless blower and she said no she didn't think it works as good as the gas one. So this morning I was looking on the net on my iPad and found one like the neighbor has, but it is more powerful, so I showed her the thumbnail picture and said how about this one? She started laughing and I said whats so funny? She says what is that, I said a cordless blower, she starts laughing harder .... I said what???? She said I thought that was some kind of new strange ass toy! I laughed too, then I said I don't think that would feel very good .... after about 10 seconds, she says, ya never know till ya try, I turned to her and said, yeah I know that's why you should give the little white toy a go ..... she pauses for a second and says OK.


So, about 30 minutes passes and I said, let me ask you a question? Were you toying with me? Or are you really willing to try the white toy and really try to relax and enjoy it? She says I really don't get the point, but I will give it a try. I said, well, maybe there is some point you don't know yet and it will feel good, and maybe after you try there is no point except the added naughty factor that adds to experience just because you tried it and it makes it hotter. She says, OK I will give it a try, but I want to see if I can get it in by myself.


I said OK, but you have to give it a fair and real try, try to make yourself horny for it and RELAX and once it is in give it a minute. She says OK. So she is off on Tuesday, I am going to leave the smallest one out for her to see.


I am going to try not to get my hopes up and see if she follows through. But I am wondering if @devajones has been sending her lady waves of telepathic messages.

cool! I'm sure your excited for her to try. I need to work on my wife a little more in this area. She is kinda the same way when it comes to anal. She sees no reason to ever stick anything in there and does not understand my using aneros devices. She accepts the use but has no desire to be part of it. Yeah you gotta be careful with @devajones with her vodoo stuff sending vibes and mojo LOL.

@xtimedt69, wow, good luck on Tuesday. My wife came close to a G-spot O, but when she felt the urge to pee, instead of following my instructions, she quashed it, and complained it hurt afterward. She doesn't want to try again. Oh, and did I mention that she's terrible at following instructions.

@ineverknew, if it works out for you, I was wondering if @devajones would do the same for my wife; she's quite reticent on any kind of anal stim, like your wife, even though she had it a couple of times about 15 years ago, and loved it.

@xtimedt69, just thinking that the smallest may be too small to "grip", perhaps the second smallest might be better. It's your call of course. My wife uses the larger ones as a 'rrhoid' insurance. Well it's a start, isn't it! 🙂

@isvara @Badger @ineverknew I am thinking of leaving the largest Peridise out for her, if I don't leave it out, she will not do it. I am also concerned about her trying it dry and having a bad experience. Thinking of leaving some instructions. I have explained you need to relax and you need to let it just be for a few minutes. She doesn't have a lot of patience sometimes and she doesn't have a lot of sexual curiosity.

We shall see ....

Update: She tried the toy on her own. I left it for her on the bed in a gift box with some basic instructions for success. She called me after and said it wasn't bad. She said it burned a little at first but it subsided, not really sure what that was, it is a water based lube, I imagine she just lubed the toy.

She said she wants to try it a couple more times by herself before we try it together. She only has Tuesdays off, so I guess a few more weeks to find out if she pursues it.

I have had the burning sensation and it was a result of water based lube, it sound slike it should be fine because of its namesake but i find its an irritant. Try shea/coconut oil or olive oil

@inhope my suspicion is that she didn't use enough lube. I really doubt she would go for Shea/coconut oil at this point. In the past, she just said "NO!" to anything having to do with her butt.

@inhope my suspicion is that she didn't use enough lube. I really doubt she would go for Shea/coconut oil at this point. In the past, she just said "NO!" to anything having to do with her butt.

I think it's the lube, I have the burning only when I use a water based one, but it usually happens after prolonged use, say three sessions before I get irratated. Shea and coconut do not irritate, not even once. They're both organic and allow lots of movement, it's better than normal lube IMO

Have you tried Slippery Stuff Gel? It works really well for me; it's really slippery, it doesn't sting, and lasts even on overnighters.

@Badger I have tried so many, I don't remember. I usually use Probe Thick & Rich but I am gonna look at slippery stuff.

Update: Well she tried the Peridise by herself and last night she used it with us together for the first time. The reactions during seemed like she LIKED it a lot. After she was throbbing. Today I ask her about it, she said that she didn't mind it, but that it didn't do that much and it wasn't fireworks.

I guess her enthusiasm was in response to my increased excitement.

@xtimedt69 Did you feel it as you fucked her? Did it move as you licked her pussy.Maybe it will get her ass hungry if she does it a few more times. When she is ready Tempo!

@braveneworld yes I could feel it, I do not know if it moved during that part. LOL! I am not sure she will get hungry for it.

"Would the Tempo do for my wife what it does for me..?"

I guess the answer is no. Everybody is different (not so much because male or female but simply for behing independent). Don't try and force your experience on others.

I have been watching this thread and I have to agree with @Canacan in the above post. The consequence of pushing someone past their boundaries can back fire. It is very difficult to know where the too far boundary is. One out come can be cognitive dissonance. Just my feeling. Proceed with caution not seeking personal sexual gratification. Just my feelings on the pressure I sense in this thread.

@Canacan @isvara I am not pressuring her at all, I am teasing and it is all very loving. I never force or even cojole her into anything. She was very willing to try and smiling about it.

@xtimedt69, okay have fun :)>-

I backup @xtimedt69 although i was not there in person (maybe in spirit though 🙂 ) Xtimedt69 wife talked herself into it. You have to understand this woman never asks for anything new, if you ask she just says she trusts your judgement. In the past she said no way in hell to rear entry but she not only now comes home and asks / mostly demands to peg Xtimedt69 but she rings him at work and stirs him up before hand.These two people are childhood sweethearts so they really do know each other real well.
The fact that she is so good at pegging and sees the pleasure it brings Xtimedt69 is slowly working at her and she tried something small.
Xtimedt69 is not pushing her, he is nurturing and guiding her. The moment she does not want to continue he will stop I am very sure as I know this guy.
This woman is actually very kinky but thats not for me to go into here.
All I can say is he his a very lucky man and he knows it so will not do anything to ruin it.

@canacan, I don't see how your comment is relevant here. The original question was asked hoping that women, or men whose wives had tried it, have had any success with it. It is not imposing or forcing her to use it, but being able to share the pleasure with someone you care about. My wife tried it and didn't like it. Maybe someone else's wife will try it and love it.