Would the Tempo do for my wife what it does for me..?

Like you said, the Tempo is a unisex toy and it can do for woman what it can do for man. There is a user on this forum called @devajones (a female user) who has the Tempo and can vouch for the toy with its orgasmic effects on woman.

The Tempo will absolutely drive your wife wild! If she is not into anal before, she will be after! Very interesting sensation when you are inside of her when it is inserted as well! Win Win!

It may or may not be "hands free" for her, but you can manipulate it, and get some amazing reactions from her!

@Bunk

It certainly has the potential to give women as much as men pleasure. I've seen the Peridise work wonders on a ex-girlfriend. And yes, both the Tempo and Peridise are unisex. Perhaps the key with your wife is to keep her expectations really low and let her know it may take some time and practice to really wake up that area for her.

Several key points, lots of foreplay before using the Tempo. Lots of lube, lots of patience. Insert it slowly, taking cues from her. Once it is in, continue foreplay. If no handsfree results, you can manipulate it while going down on her. Just moving it around in circles will send her. For extra bonus, also include a vibe on her clit. Results typically is they will cum so hard, they will lose their breath....

Thanks @qaws for summoning me. @Bunk yes very much so it is unisex and she can reach great heights with it. I agree with @Love_is she should keep her expectations low. The first time I used it, I used it alone and I didnt feel much, just my pulse but in my ass. That was interesting though, but I dont think I was aroused enough. Then I tried it again with my husband seducing me...that worked like a charm. I think both tempo (i like it more) and peridise are great for those who are new to anal play. Both because they are not large and intimidating and the movements are very minor. I attribute both of them for awakening new desires in me (I cant get enough anal sex if i tried...). You know your wife and what she likes, you also know her personality, so try your best to customize whatever you do suit your tastes. I dont think there is anything that could go wrong really because at the worse it will be inserted and she wont feel much. Thats easily fixed...screw her with it in and she'll feel WONDERS. However my best suggestion is that you keep her highly aroused that will be very key (as with any aneros use), stimulate her the way she likes to be stimulated and remind her to relax and focus on her body and what she feels and how hot/special the moment is NOTHING ELSE.

I would also suggest this, since you say she is not into anal (at least not yet), maybe work your way up to tempo? Massaging the exterior of her anus, perhaps analingus, or any combination of things to get her used to some sensations there. Maybe inserting a finger and NOT moving it. In the beginning I dont suggest moving in and out as it can be overwhelming at first, its important to get used to those sensations (which is why aneros products work so well...the movements are very subtle). If you do massage her... please use some type of oil to make things slippery it helps...full body massage then massage her more intimately with the intention of relaxing her mind and body into the activity. A tip also...for me at least in the beginning it helped if while he was stimulating my anus there was some other stimulation (so my mind didnt freak out lol) meaning kiss her or do something else while you do that so her focus is more on you than whatever reservations she may have.

Hope that helps if I need to clear up anything or if you have any more questions let me know.

Ok @devajones. Thanks for your input. I'm going in... I'll report back. God help me. Did i mention that she is a catholic..?

What's more divine than enjoying the body you're given?

@Bunk....I dont know of any better way of making her clutch those rosary beads!!!

@devajones...I too have purchased the Peridise in the hopes of taking my girlfriend to new sexual heights. I have warmed her up to analingus , which made her moan with surprising pleasure, and inserted a finger while performing cunnilingus leaving it in while she would orgasm. The session was very hot for both of us and led me to the Peridise. Your tips will be very useful on our next session.

@RaylenP great to hear, hope you have a blast with her. Keep us posted.

Well what a let-down... Finally got round to it but it didn't go well. She felt no arousal at all and decided she didn't want to do it again. Never mind.
Ah what the fuck, at least we won't be fighting over it..!

Well what a let-down... Finally got round to it but it didn't go well. She felt no arousal at all and decided she didn't want to do it again. Never mind.
Ah what the fuck, at least we won't be fighting over it..!

Same results here.. She enjoys anal, just not any toys there (peridise/tempo included).

Forget her bum & hit her gspot. Make her squirt for a few weeks & she'll be begging for some batty action!

@jazzer, they'll find MH370 before I find my wife's g-spot. Been looking for 30 years..!

@Bunk
Easier than you think! I posted this below in reply to another thread, can't remember which exactly. 🙂

Yes they can! With her on her back, your hand palm up, take your middle & ring finger together, put it inside her, just those 2 fingers. Now move your hand up & down. Up being towards the ceiling, down towards the floor. Start slow & get faster & faster. Don't be gentle, she will love it! You will eventually hear squelching noises & probably some swear words from her! Then go for it! She will squirt all over your arm, the bed, the room & in your eye. Then in her eyes you will be the best! 😉

@bunk 30 years? Is not the arch of the covenant what have you tried? Also was she fully aroused before tempo insertion?

@jazzer perfect definition most are to gentle so the woman feels nothing lets all remember the interior of the vagina had far less nerve endings so it needs extra stimulation

Thanks @Jazzer and @devajones.
I wish it was that simple, you see when mrs bunk is aroused she wants cock and nothing else, it's as if it's me she needs to satisfy to feel satisfied. I've tried many ways to get her to orgasm including what @Jazzer suggested (yes I've seen the video too) but she never has... Ever.

@BunkDon't give up on it! Much like the Aneros journey it takes time but it will happen. Try exactly what I said & go for it!
With her led down get on your knees to one side of her, supporting yourself with your spare hand the other side of her so she is lying underneath you. You are at 90 degrees to her, over her. Now with your free hand start gently working up speed. Your middle & ring finger should be inside her curved slightly but firmly towards you. Your index & little finger pointed at the floor out of the way. It is exactly like the motion of sawing a piece of wood. When your arm gets tired, quickly wet your fingers & swap over to the other side. When you hear things start to get wet (& you will!) pick up the pace. The first few times will take a lot of effort but in time it will become a lot easier & a lot more pleasurable for her. It may totally transform her sex drive & passion. I've certainly seen that!
Now go for it!
Jas 🙂

Sex is about love, chemistry and arousal. Technique is irrelevant here. Focusing on technique might be useful with cars. People are no cars. Treating a person like that is treating her mind like she didn't have one.

@CanacanI agree with what you're saying. Sex is ideally about love. Why wouldn't you want someone you love to experience the most intense pleasure their body could offer them? How many women go through life never experiencing the intensity of a mind blowing full body orgasm? The technique sounds brutal to be sure but don't forget that's where babies come out so maybe not so brutal & the rewards are definitely welcome with partners I've shared this with.
Oh & one more thing. This is not my technique. The information is all there on the internet. Probably described better than I have. It's all there for men who can be bothered to look for it.
Jas

I was not commenting on the brutality but on it being a reproducible and transmitable technique.

@CanacanIt is very much reproducible! Not only that, its takes less effort in time as her gspot awakens. Female rewiring perhaps?

@Jazzer
As you just confirmed yourself it doesn't work the same with every woman and even varies in time with a single one.

It's okay, I didn't mean your technique was bad (there is nothing bad about what you are doing with your girl). Only that the concept of "technique" is not the best to apply to orgasms, even less the deep and emotional ones.

Of course we can disagree on that if need be.

@CanacanIt works on every woman I've ever tried it on! What changes is the intensity of the orgasm for her over time. They become stronger.
Again, its not my technique.
It's just a means to an end like all of the techniques discussed on this forum, & there are many!
Some doors need their locks picking like the Aneros door & some just need a more direct approach. It works. Try it.
Jas

@bunk the good thing is you know the key to her satisfaction....she wants to satisfy you that is what you meant right??? have you told her that your satisfaction isn't all about your cock??? i'll admit I was once caught in the myth that satisfaction for a man is penis and penis only....then I wised up. Perhaps if she knew that there is more to satisfying you than all that revolved around your member she might be willing to try other things with a bit more gusto??? I can relate though...pleasing a man gets me off more than anything, but like I said I had to break that penis is paramount idea. For instance (i have no idea how the dynamic was) but maybe she might have enjoyed the tempo more if you were inside her vagina while it was inside her ass...that would have fed her arousal more perhaps. I know its a lot women and all their crazy nuances when it comes to sex. I'm not sure how much she is into oral...but maybe you guys could play a game...if she likes to satisfy you perhaps she could suck you while you try the technique jazzer mentioned....at the very least you'd probably get a killer blow job....worth a shot

PSA: For anybody in future reading this...please know that anything you read you have to take it and digest it and tweak it for your own individual experience. Please use current tools with existing ones and make them all work together for you.

My wife always stops me on the edge of a gspot O, she is there breathing hard I can feel the contractions and she stops it ... I ask why she says she wants to cum with me. She always does hard.

Plus I asking her about trying Peridise during sex and her response "You are not sticking anything in my butt."

She is pretty cool about everything else. I would love to see what it felt like for her and for me. But looks like a no go. She has no problem with toys in mine and sometimes even asks that I put Peridise in during sex. But Hers is off limits.

@xtimedt69She stops you because she gets the urge to pee. That means you're close. If she can relax through that it'll happen.

@Jazzer I have tried to encourage her, explained it would be sexy to watch and explained the pee feeling, but she still always stops me. The she has be screw her and cums like crazy. I would at least want to try it once.

I. Can't type.