Wondering where i am / what i do next...

Great Theme_Gasm, love it! can you guys also state how long it took for you get to this stage of awakening?

Who's next?

it took my about 6 months of use before i started feeling pleasure. I felt some interesting things before that but nothing pleasureable per say. I use unrefined shea butter right now. I like to melt it down first as its solid at room temperature. lube the device and my anus, then insert about 5ml through a lube shooter. Insert the device and spend the next 5 minutes trying to relax all of my muscles. Take a few deep breaths and try and focus on nothing but the feeling of the device inside me while still trying to make sure im completely relaxed. Between 5-10 minutes the involuntaries will kick in on their own, no contractions needed on my end. From there i just sit back and enjoy focusing on how everything feels while still trying to remain calm and relaxed.

@ineverknew i find that amazing, that you or indeed anyone can have contractions without you initiating them? how did you teach yourself to do that? or is it automatic? amazing.

Anyone else?

@inhope, when i started i played around with contractions but never really got anywhere, eventually the involuntaries just started on their own. The more i practiced the quicker they came on, like my body learned on its own, but it did take time and patience.

@inhope,Iv'e sent you another PM. I hope it helps!

how do you practise not doing contractions, what you're suing ineverknew is that you practise lying there? I'm confused? ALL my sessions over the last 4 years have involved contractions that I've initiated, just as Mr Mayfeild advises??? its in the aneros stickies here, why am i only just hearing this now?? Also after my most recent session, the following day (yet again) i am experiencing really amazing feelings in the prostate, its sometimes so good I'm sure I'm going to cum! what is that?

Well I think they work by relaxing so much that eventually the tug of war between your muscles will start automatically. But you have to practice being extremely relaxed and not tensing up. As for the amazing feelings, just enjoy them for what they are without expecting an outcome (cumming). You have to change your way of thinking. Your penis and ejaculation plays no part in any of this. Eventually those feelings will grow in length and intensity.

Also there are two different ways of reaching in voluntaries. The contraction method you said you were following and there is the "do nothing" way which is what I do. Both work but some better for others.

I've noticed something odd or unusual:

When i remove a device i get a super charged feeling of orgasm in my prostate, for around 2 seconds and then it goes away. I am squatting when i do this.

When i insert a device as well i get this feeling for 2 seconds or so and then nothing, not tensing or relaxed does a thing, in session or when squatting.

Just FYI i HAVE that tug of war thing going on every session, just no feeling from it WHATSOEVER, had it for a year or so now.

Also when i have a device in and I'm doing nothing or even when i tense, my legs are constantly twitchy, like very twitchy, which increases with how turned on i am, but still no feelings anywhere….?

I again want to say again that i think my prostate is in a different place to most peoples, i.e. lower down than everyone else's. Is there a device out there smaller than an SGX?

I have tried squatting when i am in session, and nothing., Sitting too, lying on my sides, back front, upside down and nothing. Nada.

@inhope;

Have you removed the tail (curlyque) on any of your Aneros'? It's possible that by removing the tail, the Aneros will shift and pivot deeper and more towards the bottom of your PC wall, theoretically making better (i.e., more aggressive) contact with your prostate. Try it on your least expensive model to see if it works any better.

yep on my MGX and SGX, many years ago too. No effect (other than letting me sit down whilst using it)

@inhope, the only thing smaller then the SGX is the peridise models(i think), though they are not intended as prostate massagers many people including myself do get prostate stimulation from them. I have even had a dry O from them a few times, not sure how or why. I have no idea about the super charged feeling or twitchy legs, sorry.

@ineverknew do you consider yourself to have a prostate in a lower place too? what other devices do you normal use and what ones work the best for you?

@inhope, I have the two set of peridise, helix classic, eupho classic, eupho syn, MGX, and progasm. They have all given me some sort of prostate pleasure though right now the MGX and progasm are my favorites. As far as my prostate being lower, i have no idea. Each device seems to feel differently against my prostate but I can feel all of them.

btw i have that tug of war that you mention, i just don't feel a thing when it does, had the tug o war every session for years, with no results. I find i would get shards of pleasure that last around 0.5 of a sec when i would relax and grip very very subtly, with no real movement. But again whats the point of that?

Just had a session today, not sure why just felt like trying again.

Something different.

I noticed right away i was getting the involuntary spasms, ok i had to manually take the device in a few times but it starting going crazy. If you imagine rapidly squeezing your arm, say 4 squeezes a sec was equal to one of these involuntary squeezes i was getting.

I would feel something, something nice. I found it worked better when i subtly gripped the device.

I also noticed that when i got an erection (for me its up and down throughout a session, this session was 3 hrs btw!) when i got an erection it would feel reeeeeally nice for 2 seconds or so, same when it went down again at a certain point. I guess there is a muscle in there that the aneros hits when its at a certain level/point of erection/de-erection?

There was occasions that my erection was so strong that i felt i was going to cum but it didn't happen, i got bored after 20 mins and almost fell asleep, again!

So against better judgement i put on the porn, i also did very little clenching etc and when watching porn i would get serious aroused, i felt this in my abdomen and pelvis and 'inside' its a sort of 'build-up' or 'fizz' or perhaps an' electricity feeling' and again it was very nice indeed. I also got a really fast heartbeat and other things, i guess this is just because i was turned on?

Either way the devices i used this session were going crazy at one point i felt my prostate i think, it felt…. cold somehow, a cold sedation when something was touching it. My legs, mores my right than left was twitching like a bat outta hell!

I stopped the session without cuming this time and now I'm unbelievably horny and feeling very warm feelings in my anus and prostate area!

I assume all that is progress?

Sounds like great progress!

Yeah i think so too, though i can tell you now the pent up honryness I'm feeling now is UNBEARABLE! my balls are pretty huge right now!

@pommie @ineverknew is the way I'm describing the feelings of build up, the fuzziness or electricity, and the feeling of coldness in the prostate right? am i feeling it right? i need to get away from the porn however its the only thing that REALLY turns me on. I am a very very visual person, my memory simply isn't good enough to do it without!

also @ineverknew how do you melt your shea butter down? i use that too!

EDIT: this, as described by B.Mayfeild is almost exactly what i experienced whilst using my erotica/porn, described here:

" In the course of 20 minutes or so, between this exquisite visual and audio stimulation, the occasional emails and my arousal techniques I found myself becoming tremendously aroused. After a half and hour I was experiencing such intense sexual excitement; my heart pounding, butterflies in the stomach, that I knew that something big was imminent. All the while (as is my practice) I kept directing this sensual energy deeper into my body with mental focus, rhythmic breathing and the occasional contractions. As I tried to hold onto it and concentrate it, some of this energy would actual re-emerge elsewhere as a delightful sensation in a completely different area of my body. It was as if there was too much energy to keep it bottled up for long, much like a cup that was overflowing from being over filled."

The only difference is that he went on to have multiple earth shattering super O's. oh and all this was aneros-less too!

@inhope, this all sounds like good progress. Your descriptions are very good, and I can relate. For a long time I only felt a warmer feeling in my prostate but just recently in the last few months have started getting the cold feeling. The fuzziness/electricity for me feels more like a high vibration, very fast yet subtle. I am also a very visual person and my prostate does respond very well to visual stimulation but in the end it never amounted to any O's for me even though it felt great. What I do know is to look at some visual stimulation and then stop watching/looking depending on what it is and close my eyes and start my session, if I get bored or feel things are not progressing I may come back to it to fire things up again. As for the shea butter, i put that into a small 5oz tupperware container with a lid and microwave it, then let it cool down before insertion. You can also melt it by running the container under hot water, but that takes longer. I wonder, has things gotten better since you started using the shea butter you think?

Not really, been using it a long while along with lube at the same time too. The device never rally moves a lot for me anyways

@inhope, its not going to feel like its moving much for most people. About 1/8" is about common movement, which isnt much at all, but all it really needs. Prostate massage is very subtle. Well whatever it was it sounds like things are moving in the right direction :-bd

Inhope, I'm very glad for you and your progress. Your persistence over such a long time will be an inspiration for all of us.

@ineverknew : not according to the video I've seen and the testimony of others, plus mine moves even less than you're saying there ^ and when it does move its not one in and out movement, its lots of little subtle in and outs (about 4 every second) with one tense or contraction. The videos i refers to as well are instructional ones as well and they'll seem to follow the exact same pattern/template

@euphamistic lets hope it pays off or I've lost a lot of time and money! will keep trying

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one thing i don't get about all of that there @AneRico (well three things actually) :

-looking at a pic for more than 5 mins for me is too long, its boring and gets old fast. i need lots of vids/pics

-if i disengage the visual stimulation and don't use any, the feelings go away, i seem to need constant visual imagery to remain aroused and active down there.

-the vids I've posted show guys putting an aneros in, 10 mins - 30 mins later its super O city, no porn, no nothing. Just works. Automatically. I don't get it. Unless they are faking it? i suspect there are some 'promo' videos out there to increase sales for the aneros by the company….

@inhope, involuntaries are not always consistent, i wouldnt worry about that. As for the distance of 1/8" thats kinda a guess, im assuming most people havent actually measured it, as if that is even possible. You need to stop comparing yourself to others and these "videos". Everyones journey is singular to themselves and not going to be exactly like others. I am somewhat successful with my aneros use and have yet to see a video the depicts what I am doing during a session. No worries, enjoy whats happening and press on.

Again i refers you to the comments i made some time ago regarding experiences and proper usage of the aneros and the fact that this site is the ONLY place that tells you how to use it correctly. The piece of paper in the aneros box is NOT clear enough nor does it it give realistic expectations of how to use it.

The videos were literally the first thing i found when googling it!

When i got my first aneros, years ago, i used it in a very dangerous way, because there was no guide at all. Its just sheer luck i googled aneros forums and got the right answers.

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AneRico, I'm bookmarking your detailed description of how you approach your session for future reference. I recognize lots of nuggets there and picked up even more. Not that I'm going to copy your practice, most of the things I already do in my own way. Except the super O part. But as a total approach it puts a lot of things together according to my experience and the consensus of many here. So it's a good blueprint for the way to proceed and allows room for experimentation IMO.

Inhope, you say "when watching porn i would get serious aroused, i felt this in my abdomen and pelvis and 'inside' its a sort of 'build-up' or 'fizz' or perhaps an' electricity feeling' and again it was very nice indeed. I also got a really fast heartbeat and other things, i guess this is just because i was turned on?". yes and no. It happened because your prostate was being massaged, it was responding and becoming sensitive, and you were turned on while this was happening, amplifying the arousal IMO. Remember these feelings and the way your prostate felt, and let that be your guide, not some anonymous video. Your attitude can be your best friend or your best enemy.

There's no way you could ever sense contractions at 4 per second, physically impossible. Nor sense the distance the aneros is moving except in a very general way. I think our perceptions become more relative when we enter our bodies with our minds. Don't try to measure as much as notice the landmarks and be open to surprising new landmarks. Suspend disbelief at least during the session.

It's generally necessary to question assumptions and healthy up to a point. Try questioning your assumption that the aneros company and all the men who have given you advice, are just trying to market a cheap plastic sex toy. Isn't it much more likely that this is an irrational assumption that you need to face?

the contractions are rapid for me, not a steady and recognisable in and out and if I'm being realistic i would say the contractions are 3 a second, minimum. Its almost like my prostate is super excited and the device is massaging it benny hill speed (i am NOT shitting you about this btw) its always been this way, always. But until yesterday, i got no pleasure from doing it.

The problem with the aneros is there is no real user guide or rather there is limited literature in the form of things to try when things don't work so you end up doing the same things that don't work over and over or worse you start getting frustrated and doing things that might damage your prostate.