vocalising

toker, I too have found it to add to the excitment and arousal as things heat up to allow my inner voice to take over. It results in some surprising sounds that in normal times would have me laughing. I'm not sure I've ever heard anything similar from my wife! lol

I've not started vocalizing with a moan when I dry-O; however, afterwards I usually moan in my sleep -- and loudly, according to my wife and our dog.

I always signal my wet-Os during intercourse, with a gentle tiger chuffle. (wife loves it).

One of the pillars of Tantra is sound. It can be used for facilitating relaxation, moving energy in the body, generating arousal, P-waves and the orgasmic release that lies beyond. KSMO is founded on this principle. Vocalizing is a natural result of this energy making it's way through our bodies. It should never be stifled. As many men know, the sound of arousal is itself ...arousing. For most of us, all you have to do is to listen to a partner's moans and groans and you're revved up! It's little wonder that the sound of our own arousal, is itself arousing. This is yet another example of how our bodies can resonate through a positive feedback loop of energy. Ironically this is something that a lot of guys are unaware of. Some men are socially conditioned to be more reserved, and less emotional in their responses. For such men, this kind of outpouring is an expression of femininity and to be avoided. In reality this capacity is not gender based, it is human....something that we are all wired for.

Allowing oneself to have the abandon...the space to emote, to freely express this passion, is an integral part of the experience that is the Super O. It is not just about letting go...it's about letting it flow! Letting your body resonate with itself. This is an essential element of the build up to orgasm and the release itself. There is no question that my strongest Super O's have always occurred when I've vocalized most freely. Now one might say, that the stronger sensations and orgasms simply generate more vocalizing. This is true to some extent, but I like to see this in the larger context, that it's really about being more resonant. That is, when I am more open there is a vocal expression to what I'm feeling that I am hearing that I am further aroused by....and around and around (the sound and the energy) goes.

As a practical matter this may not always be easy to accommodate. After all, some of us have living situations, with family and/or neighbors that makes really letting go difficult. Nonetheless, this is something that we should all strive for. Make the time and the space, get creative with pillows if need be or invest in some sound proofing......you are worth it.

BF Mayfield

Making noise when love-making is great. Alas, when one had children in the room next door we get used to holding it in. We loose a little freedom there. It gets worse as the family gets older. "Mum! Dad! You two are disgusting. If you keep this up, I'm leaving".
We'd be so lucky!! Tomasheen.