Starting again, anew, need advice

My situation is different, but the solution may be worth considering even though it is not a quick fix.

During a major life-transition, I entered a 3+ month dry spell. Part of that time was spent getting somewhat anxious about not having O's anymore. At times it was so bad that I had almost no reaction or sensation from the Aneros. Clearly, pursuing a Super O was just making things worse. One session did result in the return of pwaves and energy. I decided to forego the O and just play with whatever energy came my way. If there was enough of it, I'd try moving around, making it stronger, just enjoying it. At times, it felt as if I was bathed in energy. Since I was not chasing an O, I had no goal, no expectations, so no reason to be frustrated. I learned to savor these "energy massages". They were so relaxing, I sometimes fell asleep. Focusing on the energy is a new dimension in Aneros use for me.

Eventually, the O's returned. They have gotten stronger, last longer, and repeat until I have to give up. I still have sessions where I try to avoid O's in favor of the energy. I like to encourage it to build. I have no idea how strong it can get.

I think, the key is to quit chasing the O, reduce the anxiety of not having one, and enjoy everything else. In time, when your body is ready, it may happen.

Xileh

Cool 🙂 that helps,the focus part of things. Now anyone got advice re what do,physically with the aneros, do nothing, contractions, what do I look for? If I do nothing my prostate is jumping inside (especially when my legs are together-why?) and I get loooads of muscle movement and bubbling like it's dancing buuuuut no pleasure at all...

Cool 🙂 that helps,the focus part of things. Now anyone got advice re what do,physically with the aneros, do nothing, contractions, what do I look for? If I do nothing my prostate is jumping inside (especially when my legs are together-why?) and I get loooads of muscle movement and bubbling like it's dancing buuuuut no pleasure at all...@inhope --- The movement, and the sensation of the movement of the Aneros on the prostate is pleasurable, so I have to ask...What is your definition of pleasurable? If that sensation gives you nothing at all, not even the slightest amount of a good feeling, then I wouldn't proceed any further, and I would put away the Aneros for now and try again in 6 months!
On the other hand, if you feel even some little pleasure, then there is something to work with and to allow to grow!

Agreed! I get pleasure from it but randomly, one in say 5 sessions...

Maybe some advice on how to get things started with the aneros to get things going? Tensing? Doing nothing? If I tense even a bit, it kills it usually? If I leave it for any more than a week... I unwire myself!

Smaller devices are the only thing that work at all, should I get the peridise?

@inhope --- Are you in a high stress job, or other high stress situation right now? If you're not able to relax and keep from thinking about "business" or "bills" or other things, you should focus on the mental relaxation part of this experience first, and Aneros second. I get absolutely nowhere when I'm stressed about other things. When that happens, I tell myself "thank you" for the good feelings I got, and I'll be back later! In fact, just before I wrote you now, my wife interrupted my session, which had just reached Super Level. Rather than let it bother me, I am VERY appreciative for what I got leading up to where I stopped, and just chalked it up to knowing I'll be back later for more! No big deal!

If that's the case, perhaps the meditation part is where you need to focus first! Meditate for an hour before using your Aneros!

TG

Yes quite so, however when I've had results I've been under stress then too, it's made little difference. I cannot thank the feelings I get in a given session because I got NO feelings, at all.

Something odd has just happened however I needed a poo just now and when I went, I sat down on the toilet and held the poo where it was inside me, I got the most wonderful prostate response, felt amazing, when a i forced them out, lots of gooooood feelings.

From a poo.

A poo.

Not the aneros. A soft turd gives me more pleasure.

You know what else? When I force the poos out I get precum. Nothing from the aneros, not ever. But lots from poo!

So my next question is this, is there a aneros model that is soft like a poo? Seems to be the only thing that works!

Device is soft silicone

It's plastic, my poo was much softer...obviously?

I'm wondering weather smaller devices would work me better, sgx got close a few times and my stool was the closest ever. Perhaps the syns? Oh but there isn't a sgx version Is there? What about the peridise set maybe? Are there other device out there smaller than the aneros?

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Dude I say this without emotion, just observation.

I experienced the greatest pleasure in my prostate from having a poo there, comparatively the aneros doesn't do a thing most of the time. Fact.

My reasoning as to why this is is perhaps because the aneros is too big or too hard, in some way hence me asking about getting the peridise.

Yes?

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I am asking a question at the end of my last two posts, anyone with some thoughts?

@inhope,

The answer to your question is, "almost certainly, NO".

IMHO, @AneRico has given you some excellent advice and is very similar in intent to advice that I recall giving you several months ago, but said so much more eloquently than I could.

I would like to suggest that you take it.

No to buying the peridise?

I appreciate his points, and yours but my anxiety comes from the aneros not from my life. (I don't have anxiety in general btw, I used to get it in my years of getting nowhere with the devices, not any longer)

I spose my anger at times comes from jealousy of not having anything people say for me to try ever working and not knowing what I should do, I'm sure there is a process that works out there and someone else in my situation too that can help.

4 years of no real progress has done this. I have had to violate my own rules on my body and it was for nothing, there was no reward for the money I had spent or the effort I had put in the process getting problems with my prostate along the way. (Now resolved, mostly) and other such odd anomalies.

I need advice regarding the device and it's usage, not on my mental health. (Aside from some anger toward the product and it's lack of instruction) I am fine, do relax in sessions and expect nothing out of them. Out of sessions is when I do my research (and moaning, yes) I need to focus on the physical i think, I made progress recently when I moved the device using my anus muscles in quick small consecutive movements, I can still do this in most sessions and it was progress made by doing something real and physical.

So back on track... I decided to test a theory out.

I lay on my side put aneros in and did not tense once, instead I just open up my pee valve whatever it is, feels almost like pushing the device out to a degree, getting nice feelings, at the height of the pleasure the device wasn't moving, in fact it didn't move for any of it 'do nothing approach' literally nothing, nice feelings throughout

Edit: how's this for timing? It's working,getting waves, fairly intense, rock hard cock. It's an orgasm, had two so far. Out of 10, it's a 6 but lasting for 10 mins a pop.havnt tensed once, not once.

@inhope --- You've got it buddy! Would you consider this progress? It sure sounds like it is! Enjoy!

Yes this is progress, finally. Seems all you got to do is to moan about it for enough years.

Wonder how long it will be to the super o? How many years of moaning for that one eh?

However, next session I'm sure will be a dud, then I will find a new technique and start this whole process again I'm sure. For me it's so inconsistent at the moment.

I would again state, though very nice, a traditional orgasm is much nicer, so what I think I got was what some call 'calm wave like mini orgasms' not bad at all, and great progress but hard to recognise as an orgasm until I thought about it at length. I must admit I was expecting something different to how they would feel.