So now what..-gctid161081

I am having some prostate issues and told my wife I want to try some prostate massage. Her reply was good luck. So I purchased a Helix and now what?

I'm sorry to hear you are experiencing any prostate difficulties but it is great that you are taking a pro-active attitude in resolving them. While spousal support is certainly helpful it is not mandatory for your to derive benefits from your Aneros use.

Do I tell her I am going to massage myself?

IMHO, open honest communication between partners in a relationship is essential but that doesn't mean you need to inform each other in detail of every activity in which you engage. However, it would be a good idea to establish some guidelines for you planned Anerosessions. To progress most effectively you need to optimize your circumstances, this requires quiet time for yourself. Your wife needs to know this and allow you to have the necessary time. This is an essential agreement you will both need to be comfortable with as she may feel a sense of abandonment if this is not fairly established from the beginning of your practice.

Do I do it before bed?

There is no particular time period necessarily better than another. What is most important is that it be unconstrained time, where you are undisturbed and can get well relaxed. This might be at bedtime, early morning or anytime during the day depending on your mood and schedule. You may find it difficult to get these particular blocks of time but they really are necessary.

Do I set up some times to try it?

This is totally optional but you need to know you can not expect to be in the mood and sufficiently aroused for an Anerosession on some arbitrary fixed schedule. Your Aneros Journey will not progress well if you try to force yourself into a schedule or methodology, your journey needs to evolve more holistically.

Do I do in our bed or should I use the spare bed?

Again totally optional, perhaps a bed may not even be the best place for you. A comfortable lounge chair might work, a padded matt on the floor might work. Finding the optimal comfortable body positions is something to focus on (please see Body Positions in the Getting Started chapter of the Aneros WIKI).

How long should I plan on spending to get started?

I think you should first plan on reading the Getting Started chapter on the Aneros WIKI. Once you are familiar with that section you will have a better idea about your overall preparation needs and the time associated therewith. You may also find the thread Identifying Facilitators to Progress helpful in your preparations. I think most men evolve a routine which conveniently works for them, initially this may require longer prep times but usually shortens with more and more experience.
Good Vibes to You !

Well that all sounds great. I have read and I am reading your suggestions. I just learned I have to go out of town for 2-3 nights. This will give me a chance to learn. I need to try a few different prep methods, lube options and see how the clean up goes! I have never
been this excited to go out of town for work!
timely, thanks for all of your help!

Looks like my trip got postponed a week or so. I am going to give it a go tomorrow am!

So I had my first 2 sessions, one quick one on Friday night, just about an hour while walking in my shop. The second on Sunday afternoon on the couch. About an hour and a half, lots of leakage, a few slight tingles but not too bad.